What age do you think is the perfect time to meet a bf?
I’m 21 and a half and I haven’t met “ the one”. I know I shouldn’t plan life like this but I want to get married when I’m 28 and be engaged for a couple of years ( so when I’m 26) ideally then I want to be in a relationship before I get engaged for 3/4 years so time feels like it’s running out!!! I’m just about to do my masters and idk if I’ll even have time to meet anyone!!
There is no age to finding the right person. Some people meet them at 13 or 30. It just happens.
don't worry too much about planning ur life out. stuff will happen, life happens, and everything will float out of control for a while, then seem like u've got it handled, and then it's going to backstab u and hit u where u'd never expect it to hit... basically: don't waste ur time planning. act. imo the ideal partner will appear sometime in the future. perhaps u'll meet them in two days, maybe u won't meet them till you're 35. but don't worry too much. everything will fall into place someday, i'm sure 
I don’t think there is a right time, I met my bf at 16& before that boys weren’t really serious or I didn’t see a future with them because I lost interest. It’s definitely harder in a hookup culture to get people to be committed, loyal and loving I suppose as sex is seen as the most important thing to them.
Well statistically speaking the average age of you getting knocked up will be 28 and the average age you'll get married is 35 having dated said person for 3 years. This would imply 32 (i must say i was surprised that we Brits get married so much later than Americans despite spitting out children from about the same time) and not to the father of your first child.
Using my anecdotal experience (not married) although i was in relationships i never really cared about marriage or children until i was about 23/24, before that i just liked relationships and the benefits they brought so as a man i would say that in a perfect world i'd have been marrying in the 25-27 range. Allowing for it being better for the woman to be younger (already wants that stuff and more time for multiple kids) i would say that a 22-24 year old woman is probably optimum.
It's quite hard to say really though because you've also got to factor in optimum ages of the male and female in a relationship. Most women from 22 onward are done with education but if your having 3 kids in 5 years then your window is basically 22-35 to meet the guy while your fertile. Men of course are eternally fertile and don't career peak until around 50 so can afford to be say ten years older if not more.
Using my anecdotal experience (not married) although i was in relationships i never really cared about marriage or children until i was about 23/24, before that i just liked relationships and the benefits they brought so as a man i would say that in a perfect world i'd have been marrying in the 25-27 range. Allowing for it being better for the woman to be younger (already wants that stuff and more time for multiple kids) i would say that a 22-24 year old woman is probably optimum.
It's quite hard to say really though because you've also got to factor in optimum ages of the male and female in a relationship. Most women from 22 onward are done with education but if your having 3 kids in 5 years then your window is basically 22-35 to meet the guy while your fertile. Men of course are eternally fertile and don't career peak until around 50 so can afford to be say ten years older if not more.
Original post by Rakas21
Well statistically speaking the average age of you getting knocked up will be 28 and the average age you'll get married is 35 having dated said person for 3 years. This would imply 32 (i must say i was surprised that we Brits get married so much later than Americans despite spitting out children from about the same time) and not to the father of your first child.
Using my anecdotal experience (not married) although i was in relationships i never really cared about marriage or children until i was about 23/24, before that i just liked relationships and the benefits they brought so as a man i would say that in a perfect world i'd have been marrying in the 25-27 range. Allowing for it being better for the woman to be younger (already wants that stuff and more time for multiple kids) i would say that a 22-24 year old woman is probably optimum.
It's quite hard to say really though because you've also got to factor in optimum ages of the male and female in a relationship. Most women from 22 onward are done with education but if your having 3 kids in 5 years then your window is basically 22-35 to meet the guy while your fertile. Men of course are eternally fertile and don't career peak until around 50 so can afford to be say ten years older if not more.
Using my anecdotal experience (not married) although i was in relationships i never really cared about marriage or children until i was about 23/24, before that i just liked relationships and the benefits they brought so as a man i would say that in a perfect world i'd have been marrying in the 25-27 range. Allowing for it being better for the woman to be younger (already wants that stuff and more time for multiple kids) i would say that a 22-24 year old woman is probably optimum.
It's quite hard to say really though because you've also got to factor in optimum ages of the male and female in a relationship. Most women from 22 onward are done with education but if your having 3 kids in 5 years then your window is basically 22-35 to meet the guy while your fertile. Men of course are eternally fertile and don't career peak until around 50 so can afford to be say ten years older if not more.
Yes I get you! I want to be married before I have kids though ( just a preference) is it normal to meet a future spouse in the workplace?
18+ at least so as not to make it other peoples problem.
Original post by Anonymous
Yes I get you! I want to be married before I have kids though ( just a preference) is it normal to meet a future spouse in the workplace?
Where you meet your spouce is much more varied now as people go to pubs/clubs less and go online more but the workplace (or associated events) is as good a place as any. And yes, i suspect most people want to be married before children.
There's no right time. Some people meet someone at 16 and live together until they're 100, still in love.
I met my most recent ex at age 18, stayed with him for 6 years, then split up. I thought he was the one. Now I'm with my partner who I met when I was 27 and I can't imagine my life being any different!
My parents were married for 30 years and then split.
Just because you find someone and think they're 'the one' doesn't mean they are, and doesn't mean it will last. You will find a boyfriend when the time is right, it might last it might not, but the one thing for sure is that there's little point worrying about when is the right time, as you can't force these things, nor predict how the relationship is going to go.
I met my most recent ex at age 18, stayed with him for 6 years, then split up. I thought he was the one. Now I'm with my partner who I met when I was 27 and I can't imagine my life being any different!
My parents were married for 30 years and then split.
Just because you find someone and think they're 'the one' doesn't mean they are, and doesn't mean it will last. You will find a boyfriend when the time is right, it might last it might not, but the one thing for sure is that there's little point worrying about when is the right time, as you can't force these things, nor predict how the relationship is going to go.
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