I feel like I wasted my first year at university

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As the title says, i feel like I could have done much more this year to develop myself as a person more. I have really bad social anxiety and I just stuck to 2 close friends I made at university cause I was too shy to meet other people. I didn't bother to join any clubs or societies because I was too afraid to join alone and look like a weirdo. I also didn't even bother to get a part time job when I feel like I needed one but it's been really hard to find one lately with the ongoing situation. Do you think I can change that in my 2nd and 3rd year by joining more societies, meeting more people and building my confidence with a job next year or am I too late? I really wanted uni to be my chance to turn my life around but I just don't have the guts to put myself out there more.
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It's just the start of your uni life, there is no reason to believe you can't do something new in the years to come. I'm about to start my uni life this year so I don't have actual experience but I do believe there is no definite time to change, you can do what you want at anytime.
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As the title says, i feel like I could have done much more this year to develop myself as a person more. I have really bad social anxiety and I just stuck to 2 close friends I made at university cause I was too shy to meet other people. I didn't bother to join any clubs or societies because I was too afraid to join alone and look like a weirdo. I also didn't even bother to get a part time job when I feel like I needed one but it's been really hard to find one lately with the ongoing situation. Do you think I can change that in my 2nd and 3rd year by joining more societies, meeting more people and building my confidence with a job next year or am I too late? I really wanted uni to be my chance to turn my life around but I just don't have the guts to put myself out there more.
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That's okay. Everyone feels different when starting at university and have this sort of feelings. I believe in you that you 100% can change that in your 2nd year onward. Easy way to do that is to sign up to societies during your freshers events as there will be many people in the same place as you are and societies are one of the best place to build confidence and meet new people as well as make friends. A lot of people do join societies and get a part time job during their second year as it feels more comfortable as you have lived and know more about the place you live in. Just take a step at a time and move with the flow.

Hope this help, let us know if you have any questions.


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As the title says, i feel like I could have done much more this year to develop myself as a person more. I have really bad social anxiety and I just stuck to 2 close friends I made at university cause I was too shy to meet other people. I didn't bother to join any clubs or societies because I was too afraid to join alone and look like a weirdo. I also didn't even bother to get a part time job when I feel like I needed one but it's been really hard to find one lately with the ongoing situation. Do you think I can change that in my 2nd and 3rd year by joining more societies, meeting more people and building my confidence with a job next year or am I too late? I really wanted uni to be my chance to turn my life around but I just don't have the guts to put myself out there more.
Hello!

It's never too late to try something new! You can absolutely try different things in your second and third year.

It's completely normal to feel this way, and there's so many others in the same boat. I for one didn't make my lifelong friends at uni, I didn't join clubs or societies or go out much, but that's totally okay. Everyone's university experience is different.

I'd definitely recommend thinking about joining a club or society, you'll be surrounded with people with similar interests, which can make conversation that much easier then Or have a think about becoming a student ambassador, volunteering, getting a part-time job? There's no pressure to do any of those things though, you can keep your focus entirely on your studies which is something I did!

I definitely grew in confidence as the years went on at uni, I was more confident in my final year, so don't worry too much about how your first year went. It's all a learning experience

I wish you the very best of luck with your second and final year, I hope you flourish in the way you want to

Becky
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I wish I did what you did because during my 1st year I met too many people. Too many 'bad' people and time wasters, it's better to keep your friendships circle small please trust me. In year 2/3 you can always meet new people, but be warned, be careful what you wish for.
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As the title says, i feel like I could have done much more this year to develop myself as a person more. I have really bad social anxiety and I just stuck to 2 close friends I made at university cause I was too shy to meet other people. I didn't bother to join any clubs or societies because I was too afraid to join alone and look like a weirdo. I also didn't even bother to get a part time job when I feel like I needed one but it's been really hard to find one lately with the ongoing situation. Do you think I can change that in my 2nd and 3rd year by joining more societies, meeting more people and building my confidence with a job next year or am I too late? I really wanted uni to be my chance to turn my life around but I just don't have the guts to put myself out there more.
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It’s never too late. I made some of my closest friends in uni, in second and third year, through my course and part time job as a student ambassador. Definitely try and join societies, no one will mind you joined alone since at the start of uni loads of people no nobody and are in the same position. Other activities such as volunteering and part time work on campus may also help build your confidence.

I hope this helps and Good luck!

Zaira 😊
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As the title says, i feel like I could have done much more this year to develop myself as a person more. I have really bad social anxiety and I just stuck to 2 close friends I made at university cause I was too shy to meet other people. I didn't bother to join any clubs or societies because I was too afraid to join alone and look like a weirdo. I also didn't even bother to get a part time job when I feel like I needed one but it's been really hard to find one lately with the ongoing situation. Do you think I can change that in my 2nd and 3rd year by joining more societies, meeting more people and building my confidence with a job next year or am I too late? I really wanted uni to be my chance to turn my life around but I just don't have the guts to put myself out there more.
It's never too late.
I suck at socialising too, I've literally been to 1 party and that's it. But I found that making a kind of 'social-sona' for social situations helped a lot, it's basically fake it til you make it.
It's like the responsibility-sona you have when you need to get **** done but really cba
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Hi!
You can always try something new, its never too late, and it's your life, do what you think its best for you!
You could try and join some societies or clubs, you will make new friends and have something to do besides uni work! Try not to stress too much about it!
Good luck 😊
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