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Is it okay to watch porn if you are in a relationship?

Me and my boyfriend are in a good relationship. We rarely argue and have little issues. Our sex life has always been so great, we have a lot of enjoyable sex and he takes a lot of pleasure in making sure I’m sexually satisfied. He gets very turned on from pleasuring me as do I.

I recently found out he watches porn. We don’t live together so I knew he must masturbate but I always assumed he masturbated over the nudes I send him.

Thinking about him masturbating over other women makes me feel very uncomfortable.

Is this an over reaction from me? Like I said We have a very active sex life and he treats me like an absolute princess. He’s always commenting on how much he loves me, loves my body & loves our relationship.

Ps. We are both 22
Yes definitely, it’s ok to watch porn in a relationship. However I advise against sending nudes, you never know what that person will do to them once you break up. Also, anyone can find those Nudes, even when “deleted”
personally it doesn’t sit right with me when i know my partner watches porn. i saw it on his phone once and it made me feel so insecure. I think if they do it they should just not talk about it - this way we won’t be feeling insecure. Also please note that if he develops an addiction to it this can cause ED and problems in the bedroom. I think most people watch porn but i would prefer being discrete about it so the other person isn’t left feeling bad about themselves.
It’s perfectly healthy but if it bothers you ask him to stop it or just ask him not to tell you about watching it - then you won’t think about it. Just hope it doesn’t turn into an addiction
Reply 3
Original post by Anonymous
Me and my boyfriend are in a good relationship. We rarely argue and have little issues. Our sex life has always been so great, we have a lot of enjoyable sex and he takes a lot of pleasure in making sure I’m sexually satisfied. He gets very turned on from pleasuring me as do I.
I recently found out he watches porn. We don’t live together so I knew he must masturbate but I always assumed he masturbated over the nudes I send him.
Thinking about him masturbating over other women makes me feel very uncomfortable.
Is this an over reaction from me? Like I said We have a very active sex life and he treats me like an absolute princess. He’s always commenting on how much he loves me, loves my body & loves our relationship.
Ps. We are both 22


I was always wondering about this myself, This is very personal but, I used to 5 finger discount Porno Mags , VHS pornos, DVDs from convenience stores when I was really young. So pretty much I have seen every Porno movie That I would ever want to see. Not all but most. I only had 2 girlfriends ever in my life, for short time. The way I see it was this a problem, or was I considered a perverted chauvinist that only likes beautiful women and not Fat obese women. When I had girl friends I felt way better, you know to have the real thing a Girl instead of a Video or Picture that isn't real It's Just a Picture ? It's porn. You have absolutely no need what so ever for Porn if You can have the real thing Right ? but that's just me. And If I never have another girlfriend in my life I will get by just fine Thanks. As Rod Stewart used to say Some Guys Have All The Luck 80s song. And I'm sorry I thought people thought of me as gay , because I tried to watch Trans Porno , it does not work for me , as much as I think that I can not ever have sex with a real girl ever again, probably can't anyway , I much prefer Porno like Nina Hartley, Raquel , Felicia the hottest women Like Lola , Porno stars as you know do not use their given names they use stage names, most of the time. That's what they told me anyhow. Keep in mind now as that late great Sitcom Show used to say On The Red Green Show - Red Green ? If The Women Don't Find You Handsome.. They Should At least Find You Handy - Or How About Neither? Stuck with Porn and being gay because of no girlfriend ? well also how about neither. If I am single ... and watch Porn because it's the only way does this look Bad for Me from other people ? As Is, do people look at you funny because of that ?
Original post by Nunkown
I was always wondering about this myself, This is very personal but, I used to 5 finger discount Porno Mags , VHS pornos, DVDs from convenience stores when I was really young. So pretty much I have seen every Porno movie That I would ever want to see. Not all but most. I only had 2 girlfriends ever in my life, for short time. The way I see it was this a problem, or was I considered a perverted chauvinist that only likes beautiful women and not Fat obese women. When I had girl friends I felt way better, you know to have the real thing a Girl instead of a Video or Picture that isn't real It's Just a Picture ? It's porn. You have absolutely no need what so ever for Porn if You can have the real thing Right ? but that's just me. And If I never have another girlfriend in my life I will get by just fine Thanks. As Rod Stewart used to say Some Guys Have All The Luck 80s song. And I'm sorry I thought people thought of me as gay , because I tried to watch Trans Porno , it does not work for me , as much as I think that I can not ever have sex with a real girl ever again, probably can't anyway , I much prefer Porno like Nina Hartley, Raquel , Felicia the hottest women Like Lola , Porno stars as you know do not use their given names they use stage names, most of the time. That's what they told me anyhow. Keep in mind now as that late great Sitcom Show used to say On The Red Green Show - Red Green ? If The Women Don't Find You Handsome.. They Should At least Find You Handy - Or How About Neither? Stuck with Porn and being gay because of no girlfriend ? well also how about neither. If I am single ... and watch Porn because it's the only way does this look Bad for Me from other people ? As Is, do people look at you funny because of that ?

... And you had the urge to revive a 4 year old thread to declare that your life is consumed by porn :confused:

Bro, whatever floats your boat and doesn't sink mine
Reply 5
Original post by Old Skool Freak
... And you had the urge to revive a 4 year old thread to declare that your life is consumed by porn :confused:
Bro, whatever floats your boat and doesn't sink mine

Well what ? Maybe you could explain that more detailed if you would please ? I have no Idea what that means ? What do you mean ? who is Bro ! ? I have no clue what you mean. Explain .
Original post by Nunkown
Well what ? Maybe you could explain that more detailed if you would please ? I have no Idea what that means ? What do you mean ? who is Bro ! ? I have no clue what you mean. Explain .

Can't believe I'm typing this, but...

"Bro" is short for brother... but in modern colloquialisms, it just means "mate" , "man", "dude" etc.

This board (in general) is against random people reviving very old threads as the person who composed it has probably resolved their issue by now. and it cloggs up the board so newer posts won't get the same exposure. I expect this thread will be locked before long, and you'll receive a message from the admins/ advising you of this.

As for what you wrote on the matter, IMHO it's a somewhat odd thing to proudly admit (without asking for help on the issue)... but if it makes you happy and you're not hurting anyone, who am I to judge or criticise?
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I think it depends. How does it affect him? What is the type of porn? Is it affecting his desire for you?

I don't think I like it, on the whole. It makes a man seem weak.