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Hi guys,
I am a BTEC student who got D*D*D* and got a place confirmed at the University of Nottingham which is out of London, where I live. My second option was Brunel, which my mother tells me I should've gone to in order to avoid spending the extra living costs.
She keeps beating be down how selfish I am and that never think about the family. She wants to pay for all my expenses and blames me that she needs to work more or get another job. Doesn't allow me to get a student loan either.
I really don't know how to deal with the situation, I can't even get happy for getting into the University which I think is the best possible scenario with my circumstances. Please give me some advice on how to deal with the situation. Am I wrong here?
I am a BTEC student who got D*D*D* and got a place confirmed at the University of Nottingham which is out of London, where I live. My second option was Brunel, which my mother tells me I should've gone to in order to avoid spending the extra living costs.
She keeps beating be down how selfish I am and that never think about the family. She wants to pay for all my expenses and blames me that she needs to work more or get another job. Doesn't allow me to get a student loan either.
I really don't know how to deal with the situation, I can't even get happy for getting into the University which I think is the best possible scenario with my circumstances. Please give me some advice on how to deal with the situation. Am I wrong here?
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Student finance is there so that your mother doesn't have to get another job/work more. What is the reasoning behind not applying for the loan - and is that fees and maintenance or just maintenance?
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(Original post by ReadingMum)
Student finance is there so that your mother doesn't have to get another job/work more. What is the reasoning behind not applying for the loan - and is that fees and maintenance or just maintenance?
Student finance is there so that your mother doesn't have to get another job/work more. What is the reasoning behind not applying for the loan - and is that fees and maintenance or just maintenance?
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student finance loans are there for you to utilise and it would be silly not to take both the tuition loan and the maintenance loan. also, nottingham is more affordable to live in than london so that doesnt even make sense. go where you want to to and take the loans.
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Does your mother understand student loans or is there a religious aspect?
Does your mother understand student loans or is there a religious aspect?
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(Original post by Dralexus)
We are atheists, so no. In terms of the loans, my mother strongly believes that loans are something bad and should only be taken for a house eg mortgage. As a result, she doesn't even think about the rates, conditions or how they work either.
We are atheists, so no. In terms of the loans, my mother strongly believes that loans are something bad and should only be taken for a house eg mortgage. As a result, she doesn't even think about the rates, conditions or how they work either.
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I would echo that thought - if you think of it as a graduate tax, that many will never repay and that does not impact you ability to get other credit such as mortgages in the future (beyond the simple affordability calculations) then maybe that will help.
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(Original post by Dralexus)
We are atheists, so no. In terms of the loans, my mother strongly believes that loans are something bad and should only be taken for a house eg mortgage. As a result, she doesn't even think about the rates, conditions or how they work either.
We are atheists, so no. In terms of the loans, my mother strongly believes that loans are something bad and should only be taken for a house eg mortgage. As a result, she doesn't even think about the rates, conditions or how they work either.
You won't pay back the student loan, unless once you graduate and hit a certain salary.
And plus I believe after 25-30 years, if you haven't paid it off, the loan would be gone and no payback.
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(Original post by Dralexus)
Hi guys,
I am a BTEC student who got D*D*D* and got a place confirmed at the University of Nottingham which is out of London, where I live. My second option was Brunel, which my mother tells me I should've gone to in order to avoid spending the extra living costs.
She keeps beating be down how selfish I am and that never think about the family. She wants to pay for all my expenses and blames me that she needs to work more or get another job. Doesn't allow me to get a student loan either.
Hi guys,
I am a BTEC student who got D*D*D* and got a place confirmed at the University of Nottingham which is out of London, where I live. My second option was Brunel, which my mother tells me I should've gone to in order to avoid spending the extra living costs.
She keeps beating be down how selfish I am and that never think about the family. She wants to pay for all my expenses and blames me that she needs to work more or get another job. Doesn't allow me to get a student loan either.
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(Original post by Dralexus)
Hi guys,
I am a BTEC student who got D*D*D* and got a place confirmed at the University of Nottingham which is out of London, where I live. My second option was Brunel, which my mother tells me I should've gone to in order to avoid spending the extra living costs.
She keeps beating be down how selfish I am and that never think about the family. She wants to pay for all my expenses and blames me that she needs to work more or get another job. Doesn't allow me to get a student loan either.
I really don't know how to deal with the situation, I can't even get happy for getting into the University which I think is the best possible scenario with my circumstances. Please give me some advice on how to deal with the situation. Am I wrong here?
Hi guys,
I am a BTEC student who got D*D*D* and got a place confirmed at the University of Nottingham which is out of London, where I live. My second option was Brunel, which my mother tells me I should've gone to in order to avoid spending the extra living costs.
She keeps beating be down how selfish I am and that never think about the family. She wants to pay for all my expenses and blames me that she needs to work more or get another job. Doesn't allow me to get a student loan either.
I really don't know how to deal with the situation, I can't even get happy for getting into the University which I think is the best possible scenario with my circumstances. Please give me some advice on how to deal with the situation. Am I wrong here?
Either way, choose what uni you believe is best for you and do what’s best for you. It’s your future.
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