Should I push myself?

Just got told by my uni that we have the option to study online all year. I was prepared to move to campus, excited to meet new people etc as i've always been introverted and shy during undergrad and not got friends. Due to a recent breakup and financial problems the thought of moving back home and studying online makes me feel happy. looking for grotty cheap as chips flats i can barely afford has left me feeling uneasy and dreading it.

My gut is telling me to move back home where i can focus on studying, save up, and take train to campus occasionally for socialising. Even though my parents are difficult and it's a small town. My mind telling me this is the safe option and i will miss out. But because of corona the year will not be very sociable anyway. but will people view me as a loser for moving back home instead of living life in the city. I've been in the city for a while now to 'live life' a bit more but pandemic and depression mean i've felt no enthusiasm to do that. Feel empty inside.

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I would probably recommend just doing this year online then tbh it seems like it would be better for you atm, then next year you will be able to prepare better. Its probably best to get multiple opinions but it seems to me this would be your best option, it makes you happy and i cant imagine you will miss much this year anyway considering coronavirus is still prominent

Reply 3

Bexjw

I would go with your gut. You’re only just able to afford the accommodation and you’re not even looking forward to it.

It’s a very sensible idea to live at home, study online and get back on your feet. You’ll probably be a lot happier.

I never found anyone living at home to be at a disadvantage and certainly with COVID, I imagine a lot of people will be in the same boat. Once things do pick up and socialising becomes the norm again, you’ll be free to come and go and join in. 😊

Reply 4

University of Sunderland Student Ambassador

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Hi~!
I agree with the other posts saying to go with your gut! If you really feel like you aren’t going to enjoy living away from home this year it probably is the best year to move back!

Absolutely nobody will think you are a loser! Hundreds of students live at home still and never even moved out before the pandemic. To be honest, I was always jealous of those who lived at home because some student flats aren’t the nicest. It seems like you have a great plan for living at home too and that extra money will be great in the future.

I would recommend talking to your wellbeing team at your university, if they have one, since you are feeling pretty down. This has been a tough year but we’re all together in it! Don’t be afraid to reach out.

Hope I’ve helped,
Kirsty

Reply 5

Arden University

Original post by Anonymous

Hi, I agree with all the above. It's clear you know what is best for you. People will not think you are a loser, many many students are commuter students nowadays, it is so common! You do you and then you can get a bit of a reset going to somewhere comfortable and familiar to reset, then you will probably feel happier and more willing to make the effort to go to campus to socialise when the time is right and you want to. In the meantime, maybe try make the most of any online discussion forums and any virtual activities/events that your university run - I'm sure they will do something of the sort so that you can still get involved in university life from home.

Take it easy on yourself - this year has been tough and these decisions are always difficult to make. But I would say trust your gut :smile:

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