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I feel so confused and sad. I want to move out for uni but my parents won't let me. I have very strict Arab parents and they think I'm abandoning them and embarrassing them by moving out. I want to move out and live a uni life and make friends but they won't let me. I also love them a lot and don't want them to hate me but I know i will regret it if i commute. Please what do I do? How do i convince them to let me move out? Also all my older cousins are commuting so I will be seen as a disobedient person if i move out by my distant family also. What do I do?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I feel so confused and sad. I want to move out for uni but my parents won't let me. I have very strict Arab parents and they think I'm abandoning them and embarrassing them by moving out. I want to move out and live a uni life and make friends but they won't let me. I also love them a lot and don't want them to hate me but I know i will regret it if i commute. Please what do I do? How do i convince them to let me move out? Also all my older cousins are commuting so I will be seen as a disobedient person if i move out by my distant family also. What do I do?
I feel so confused and sad. I want to move out for uni but my parents won't let me. I have very strict Arab parents and they think I'm abandoning them and embarrassing them by moving out. I want to move out and live a uni life and make friends but they won't let me. I also love them a lot and don't want them to hate me but I know i will regret it if i commute. Please what do I do? How do i convince them to let me move out? Also all my older cousins are commuting so I will be seen as a disobedient person if i move out by my distant family also. What do I do?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I feel so confused and sad. I want to move out for uni but my parents won't let me. I have very strict Arab parents and they think I'm abandoning them and embarrassing them by moving out. I want to move out and live a uni life and make friends but they won't let me. I also love them a lot and don't want them to hate me but I know i will regret it if i commute. Please what do I do? How do i convince them to let me move out? Also all my older cousins are commuting so I will be seen as a disobedient person if i move out by my distant family also. What do I do?
I feel so confused and sad. I want to move out for uni but my parents won't let me. I have very strict Arab parents and they think I'm abandoning them and embarrassing them by moving out. I want to move out and live a uni life and make friends but they won't let me. I also love them a lot and don't want them to hate me but I know i will regret it if i commute. Please what do I do? How do i convince them to let me move out? Also all my older cousins are commuting so I will be seen as a disobedient person if i move out by my distant family also. What do I do?
If you're 18, they can't stop you. However, they may not pay what student finance assumes that they will, and there are the relationship issues. Can you argue that you have to move for the best university that you can get?
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(Original post by RogerOxon)
I'm sorry that your parents are making this so difficult. IMO, going away to university is a major step in adulthood.
If you're 18, they can't stop you. However, they may not pay what student finance assumes that they will, and there are the relationship issues. Can you argue that you have to move for the best university that you can get?
I'm sorry that your parents are making this so difficult. IMO, going away to university is a major step in adulthood.
If you're 18, they can't stop you. However, they may not pay what student finance assumes that they will, and there are the relationship issues. Can you argue that you have to move for the best university that you can get?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I feel so confused and sad. I want to move out for uni but my parents won't let me. I have very strict Arab parents and they think I'm abandoning them and embarrassing them by moving out. I want to move out and live a uni life and make friends but they won't let me. I also love them a lot and don't want them to hate me but I know i will regret it if i commute. Please what do I do? How do i convince them to let me move out? Also all my older cousins are commuting so I will be seen as a disobedient person if i move out by my distant family also. What do I do?
I feel so confused and sad. I want to move out for uni but my parents won't let me. I have very strict Arab parents and they think I'm abandoning them and embarrassing them by moving out. I want to move out and live a uni life and make friends but they won't let me. I also love them a lot and don't want them to hate me but I know i will regret it if i commute. Please what do I do? How do i convince them to let me move out? Also all my older cousins are commuting so I will be seen as a disobedient person if i move out by my distant family also. What do I do?
Dont go to a uni you dont wnat to.
Apply to the unis you want in 2021.
Decline the place if they wont let you go.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Maybe im not sure. Im not 18 yet. Im really scared because I don't want to lose them and for us to disown eachother but i dont want to waste and regret my life
Maybe im not sure. Im not 18 yet. Im really scared because I don't want to lose them and for us to disown eachother but i dont want to waste and regret my life
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I feel so confused and sad. I want to move out for uni but my parents won't let me. I have very strict Arab parents and they think I'm abandoning them and embarrassing them by moving out. I want to move out and live a uni life and make friends but they won't let me. I also love them a lot and don't want them to hate me but I know i will regret it if i commute. Please what do I do? How do i convince them to let me move out? Also all my older cousins are commuting so I will be seen as a disobedient person if i move out by my distant family also. What do I do?
I feel so confused and sad. I want to move out for uni but my parents won't let me. I have very strict Arab parents and they think I'm abandoning them and embarrassing them by moving out. I want to move out and live a uni life and make friends but they won't let me. I also love them a lot and don't want them to hate me but I know i will regret it if i commute. Please what do I do? How do i convince them to let me move out? Also all my older cousins are commuting so I will be seen as a disobedient person if i move out by my distant family also. What do I do?
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While I do think that you should have more independance if you are 18, why would you want to move out if you can help it? you save so much money by living at home (also, most lectures will be virtual this coming year so it makes even less sense to move out!) financially you will be much better off.
imo you should just get through these 3 years at uni and then you can move wherever you want after you are done.
Best of luck!
imo you should just get through these 3 years at uni and then you can move wherever you want after you are done.
Best of luck!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Does anyone know what i can say for them to let me move out?
Does anyone know what i can say for them to let me move out?
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(Original post by Fredericks1)
While I do think that you should have more independance if you are 18, why would you want to move out if you can help it? you save so much money by living at home (also, most lectures will be virtual this coming year so it makes even less sense to move out!) financially you will be much better off.
imo you should just get through these 3 years at uni and then you can move wherever you want after you are done.
Best of luck!
While I do think that you should have more independance if you are 18, why would you want to move out if you can help it? you save so much money by living at home (also, most lectures will be virtual this coming year so it makes even less sense to move out!) financially you will be much better off.
imo you should just get through these 3 years at uni and then you can move wherever you want after you are done.
Best of luck!
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(Original post by ZR246)
That you are the person who will choose the care home for them when they will be old and vulnerable, so they'd better be nice to you.
That you are the person who will choose the care home for them when they will be old and vulnerable, so they'd better be nice to you.
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Hi OP,
It might be worth applying to further away Universities that are not commutable and telling your parents that you prefer those unis- worth a shot!
It might be worth applying to further away Universities that are not commutable and telling your parents that you prefer those unis- worth a shot!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
2021
2021
(Original post by Anonymous)
Theyre kinda already old and vunerable. My dad is 65 and my mum is 52 and im 17
Theyre kinda already old and vunerable. My dad is 65 and my mum is 52 and im 17
If you are hoping to go to University next year, there is a possibility that accommodation will be offered as normal. You should give proper consideration to taking a room.
A good compromise for you might be to apply for a place which isn't a long way from where you live. I don't mean to turn down something which is ideal but, say, do Medicine at Manchester if you live in Leicester, rather than somewhere in the South-West or Scotland.
Which subject appeals to you and in which region do you live?
Last edited by Kerzen; 4 months ago
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(Original post by AB_student_7)
Hi OP,
It might be worth applying to further away Universities that are not commutable and telling your parents that you prefer those unis- worth a shot!
Hi OP,
It might be worth applying to further away Universities that are not commutable and telling your parents that you prefer those unis- worth a shot!
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(Original post by Kerzen)
Anon, 52 isn't old.
If you are hoping to go to University next year, there is a possibility that accommodation will be offered as normal. You should give proper consideration to taking a room.
A good compromise for you might be to apply for a place which isn't a long way from where you live. I don't mean to turn down something which is ideal but, say, do Medicine at Manchester if you live in Leicester, rather than somewhere in the South-West or Scotland.
Which subject appeals to you and in which region do you live?
Anon, 52 isn't old.
If you are hoping to go to University next year, there is a possibility that accommodation will be offered as normal. You should give proper consideration to taking a room.
A good compromise for you might be to apply for a place which isn't a long way from where you live. I don't mean to turn down something which is ideal but, say, do Medicine at Manchester if you live in Leicester, rather than somewhere in the South-West or Scotland.
Which subject appeals to you and in which region do you live?
Btw can you get accommodation yet visit your parents every two days etc??
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Theyre kinda already old and vunerable. My dad is 65 and my mum is 52 and im 17
Theyre kinda already old and vunerable. My dad is 65 and my mum is 52 and im 17
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I live in Manchester. i want to do economics or accounting.
Btw can you get accommodation yet visit your parents every two days etc??
I live in Manchester. i want to do economics or accounting.
Btw can you get accommodation yet visit your parents every two days etc??
I'm trying to think of where would be good for economics/accounting.
Obviously, London would be good ...... Birmingham perhaps.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Does anyone know what i can say for them to let me move out?
Does anyone know what i can say for them to let me move out?
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