Flirting is cheating?

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It seems obvious to me. If you are dating someone and flirt with someone else (whether it’s your ex or not, even though with the ex the line seems to be a bit more blatant)... even though you don’t consume in an act.. it’s cheating right? I m not saying it’s the thing to do in all cases but for me cheating must be responded with a definite break up (from thecheated one). If I were cheated on I d break up. But... bout flirting - do you see it as a soft way of cheating which would require a talk or some rough measures but not implying breaking up? As in you try to sort things out and solve stuff
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(Original post by Eccentric Goatie)
It seems obvious to me. If you are dating someone and flirt with someone else (whether it’s your ex or not, even though with the ex the line seems to be a bit more blatant)... even though you don’t consume in an act.. it’s cheating right? I m not saying it’s the thing to do in all cases but for me cheating must be responded with a definite break up (from thecheated one). If I were cheated on I d break up. But... bout flirting - do you see it as a soft way of cheating which would require a talk or some rough measures but not implying breaking up? As in you try to sort things out and solve stuff
yeah technically its cheating.
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Just don't cheat and don't forgive those who cheat. trust me on that one. And flirting is cheating no matter who says what. you wanna flirt? go flirt with your partner!
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Just don't cheat and don't forgive those who cheat. trust me on that one. And flirting is cheating no matter who says what. you wanna flirt? go flirt with your partner!
Exactly I have that opinion but I vê seen couples move on from that.. I think I can’t forgive a cheating.. and for me flirting is crossing that line. I wouldn’t feel comfortable moving on with that
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lol, is this thread about me?
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Exactly I have that opinion but I vê seen couples move on from that.. I think I can’t forgive a cheating.. and for me flirting is crossing that line. I wouldn’t feel comfortable moving on with that
Yeah don't forgive then. Just move on. I don't think it's worth staying
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lol, is this thread about me?
Originated yeah, but tbh was a dilemma I had in mind
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(Original post by Eccentric Goatie)
It seems obvious to me. If you are dating someone and flirt with someone else (whether it’s your ex or not, even though with the ex the line seems to be a bit more blatant)... even though you don’t consume in an act.. it’s cheating right? I m not saying it’s the thing to do in all cases but for me cheating must be responded with a definite break up (from thecheated one). If I were cheated on I d break up. But... bout flirting - do you see it as a soft way of cheating which would require a talk or some rough measures but not implying breaking up? As in you try to sort things out and solve stuff
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yeah technically its cheating.
I think regarding flirting as cheating is a little much tbh.

A lot of girls with bf's will flirt on a night out, but when you to try and take things further (number or kiss them) say they have a bf.

whilst flirting in a relationship is not ideal, i wouldn't say it's cheating......
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(Original post by Eccentric Goatie)
Originated yeah, but tbh was a dilemma I had in mind
well tbh, i don't think it's cheating. it's cheating if you do things such as dating others and/or having sex while in a commited relationship. yep, it's wrong. but i wouldn't consider it cheating.
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is liking two people at once also cheating when one of them is your partner and one of them is not?
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Flirting is flirting. Cheating is cheating.

If someone has a fun cheeky character it's just harmless. If it starts getting really sexual and over the line then it's no longer flirting
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Flirting is flirting. Cheating is cheating.

If someone has a fun cheeky character it's just harmless. If it starts getting really sexual and over the line then it's no longer flirting
yeah, depends if there is intention behind the flirting? and also if you imagine your s/o was there would they think it's appropriate?
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yeah, depends if there is intention behind the flirting? and also if you imagine your s/o was there would they think it's appropriate?
Yea i guess there is definitely different tones and also comes down to the person's personality.
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noooooo its not
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(Original post by ANM775)
I think regarding flirting as cheating is a little much tbh.

A lot of girls with bf's will flirt on a night out, but when you to try and take things further (number or kiss them) say they have a bf.

whilst flirting in a relationship is not ideal, i wouldn't say it's cheating......
Are you sure about your second paragraph??

You said that a lot of girls will flirt resgardless of whether they may have a bf. However they won't do anything more. Really?! If that was true then cheating wouldn't be happening.

For the record, if you go to a nightclub you don't ask whether the other man/woman has a partner. You just get your hands on and whatever comes...comes.
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Are you sure about your second paragraph??

You said that a lot of girls will flirt resgardless of whether they may have a bf. However they won't do anything more. Really?! If that was true then cheating wouldn't be happening.

For the record, if you go to a nightclub you don't ask whether the other man/woman has a partner. You just get your hands on and whatever comes...comes.
haven't been clubbing for a while, but in my experience a lot of girls who have bf's will flirt but won't go no further.
i'm sure there has been girls who have gone further though......., just not with me :/
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haven't been clubbing for a while, but in my experience a lot of girls who have bf's will flirt but won't go no further.
i'm sure there has been girls who have gone further though......., just not with me :/
If you push it then it usually happens... All girls have a threshold...
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Flirting isn't cheating - not least because it's incredibly subjective. Some people see any male-female conversation as 'flirty'.
It's down to you to make your boundaries clear and your partner to decide if they want to respect them, imo, and that will be different for every couple.
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I don't think that whether it's "cheating" or not matters. You shouldn't do things that make your partner uncomfortable, whether a TSR user told you it was technically cheating or not.
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