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No it’s not. But like, I don’t want to do this. I don’t want to be here if I have to stay in this place.
Okay, well if it's just the settling in to a new place/being in a room that isn't 'yours', then this wouldn't be different anywhere except at home. So if you're not willing to try, then commute from home, there's no other option.
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Okay, well if it's just the settling in to a new place/being in a room that isn't 'yours', then this wouldn't be different anywhere except at home. So if you're not willing to try, then commute from home, there's no other option.
It’s not just the room. There’s other stuff too that I don’t want to go into, like to do with other people in the house. I want to commute but my parents kicked me out saying I have to get the uni experience, though idk what experience they think I will get during a pandemic with everything cancelled or online.
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It should be possible to swap rooms. Maybe to a much quieter room with say post grads? Or non drinkers, depending on the issues.
There is a chaplaincy on campus, by the main entrance (building 23) which is supposed to be good place for calm reflection and I assume a kind word from someone. All faiths and non faiths welcome.
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How had today been? They finally liked off our second year modules so we can see the module details and books needed, so spent a fun few hours on amazon eBay looking for older versions to save some money. Even watched sone of next weeks lectures as was feeling keen!
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There aren’t any jobs available in the area due to COVID and it’s a really run down area.
QMUL isn't in a run down area, I wouldn't have said so.
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Yeah. There just isn’t much going on at all and some of the things that I can attend clash with the multiple welcome zooms I have for each lecturer. Also, I don’t think I could do most of that stuff without a panic attack. I haven’t left my room in a couple of days.
I would advise against staying in your room so much, you should go out when you can, even if just for a brisk walk.
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I moved into a RG uni in London on Thursday. It was a bit lonely but everyone else has moved in now. They’re all nice, no issues there. But I don’t want to live here.

I don’t like sleeping in a room that feels like someone else’s, I hate the smell of the room and the fridge and freezer and I have ASD so my sense of smell is very sensitive. I’ve tried to cover it but it doesn’t work. I can’t find the motivation to leave my room to buy food or explore, and I have booked myself on things but don’t want to do them. It’s not like I can do much though, with COVID and all ruining things.


But ignoring the lectures, I don’t like living on campus. What should I do? I don’t think I’d be allowed to move back home and it would be embarrassing moving out already, but I’m getting so depressed in my room.

What should I do?
Commuting that distance isn't sensible and is quite risky at the moment. What have you used to change the smell? You need something like neutradol - normal sprays don't work. Did you apply for DSA? I'd suggest seeing your personal tutor ...
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This looks good, there does seem to be good support at QMUL:

http://www.dds.qmul.ac.uk/

I think that it will be really beneficial for you to tough this out - it will give you confidence in your ability to cope with challenging times in the future.
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This looks good, there does seem to be good support at QMUL:

http://www.dds.qmul.ac.uk/

I think that it will be really beneficial for you to tough this out - it will give you confidence in your ability to cope with challenging times in the future.
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Commuting that distance isn't sensible and is quite risky at the moment. What have you used to change the smell? You need something like neutradol - normal sprays don't work. Did you apply for DSA? I'd suggest seeing your personal tutor ...
I’m registered with DDS, applied for DSA, still waiting on DSA to finish and DDS don’t seem to do much. My personal tutor has never spoken to me, I don’t think they care. I’ve dealt with challenging times, I’ve lived away from home before. That’s not the issue. This place is. People keep saying I was forced out to get the uni experience which will be leaving my room one day a week some weeks for a lab session and not being allowed to socialise outside of that, to make friend even though no one here actually talks to me much and they don’t make sense to me (I’ve never had friends that cared about me before so why would they start now?), and a bunch of other stuff. I was told if I commuted it would just feel like being at the open uni, not socialising much with people ok my course and at all in my building, it being more like a job. But that’s what I want. I’ve met loads of people, didn’t like a single one of them, but that’s not a surprise because people hate me and they always have. I’m used to being alone, so why is everyone forcing me to change that now. No one cared enough for the last 18 years of my life to include me in anything. There are people on my course living in the same small borough as me who are commuting. The entire first year will have no face to face lectures on my course I am 90% confident, so only commuting one day every week or every other week won’t be hard.
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Idk what to do
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I moved into a RG uni in London on Thursday. It was a bit lonely but everyone else has moved in now. They’re all nice, no issues there. But I don’t want to live here.

I don’t like sleeping in a room that feels like someone else’s, I hate the smell of the room and the fridge and freezer and I have ASD so my sense of smell is very sensitive. I’ve tried to cover it but it doesn’t work. I can’t find the motivation to leave my room to buy food or explore, and I have booked myself on things but don’t want to do them. It’s not like I can do much though, with COVID and all ruining things.

I don’t want to be here, I would rather commute 1 1/2 hrs each way a day via train and live at home in my own room with my parents and pets. My room is the same set up as at home so it’s not like it’s much of a benefit being here. You have to book to enter the library and apart from a 7 hr lab session one day a week, everything is online.

I know that I was probably silly but I looked at some of the lecture slides and I don’t understand anything and I even googled it and couldn’t find anything! Like it’s so hard already.

But ignoring the lectures, I don’t like living on campus. What should I do? I don’t think I’d be allowed to move back home and it would be embarrassing moving out already, but I’m getting so depressed in my room.

What should I do?
You’re depressed and you are on the spectrum. I can relate. This won’t go down well. Change your environment as quickly as you can is what I suggest or try very hard to change your mood and view of your current situation.

Drs and wellbeing service are worth a shot. If you need to message someone; hit me up. I will to the best of my ability try to give you as many solutions and ideas for overcoming your situation as I can.

From one ASD effected person to another. I wish you the best man, honestly! Act and change things now!
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You’re depressed and you are on the spectrum. I can relate. This won’t go down well. Change your environment as quickly as you can is what I suggest or try very hard to change your mood and view of your current situation.

Drs and wellbeing service are worth a shot. If you need to message someone; hit me up. I will to the best of my ability try to give you as many solutions and ideas for overcoming your situation as I can.

From one ASD effected person to another. I wish you the best man, honestly! Act and change things now!
Thank you. No one will let me get out of this environment. My doctor never does anything. . No wellbeing service I’ve ever seen has cared. Idk what to do. Idk where to go.
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Thank you. No one will let me get out of this environment. My doctor never does anything. No wellbeing service I’ve ever seen has cared. Idk what to do. Idk where to go.
Have you tried to see a different doctor in the gp you’re registered at?

have you tried self referral to a mental health service for assessment?

if the wellbeing service is not working. Try the Samaritans, they can offer advice safely.

otherwise; send me a message and you can speak about problems and I’ll try to offer any solutions I can; if not that, you can try to right down your thoughts into a virtual/private diary - it night help to feel less stressed by it all (believe it or not, this can have a very good effect)

if you’re on good terms with your parents; you have to tell them what’s going on.
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I would suggest ringing these people on 020 8475 8080, as they cover your area. I'm pretty sure that you must be in Tower Hamlets.

https://www.elft.nhs.uk/service/425/...king-Therapies
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Thank you. No one will let me get out of this environment. My doctor never does anything.No wellbeing service I’ve ever seen has cared. Idk what to do. Idk where to go.
Have you registered with the GPs who cover the University?

https://app.patientaccess.com/prereg...obetownsurgery
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By the way, you are within reach of so many interesting places. What about starting with the Whitechapel Art Gallery? It's nice there, I like it.

https://www.whitechapelgallery.org/v...ok-your-visit/

Re your Mental Health, I would suggest giving the Tower Hamlets Mental Health Line a call.

https://www.elft.nhs.uk/service/446/...risis-Line-247
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