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StriderHort
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no wonder our police are so stretched beyond belief as they have to mop up everyone’s dumb mistakes but if you’ve asked him to delete and he refuses go to police and tell them your ex bf has your nudes with a straight face and that you want them deleting from his devices.
..so on one hand you bemoan the waste of police time, but in the same screed tell the op they should bother the police over something that is neither a criminal offence nor a police matter?

You'd ask your DAD to sort it out? "Here Da I've sent out all these Jpegs of my bits but i've changed my mind now, go get them back for me"
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hey!

ignore the mean messages. we all make mistakes when we are young.

have you asked him to delete them? if not, ask him and say that you don’t feel comfortable with him keeping them. if he refuses, threaten action through saying you’ll tell his parents, teachers etc.

yes, you shouldn’t have sent them. but everyone makes silly mistakes and you shouldn’t be judged for it. if you are still in contact with him, i would arrange to meet and physically watch him delete them. that will calm your nerves.

i hope you’re okay! send me a PM if you need anything <3
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hey!

ignore the mean messages. we all make mistakes when we are young.

have you asked him to delete them? if not, ask him and say that you don’t feel comfortable with him keeping them. if he refuses, threaten action through saying you’ll tell his parents, teachers etc.

yes, you shouldn’t have sent them. but everyone makes silly mistakes and you shouldn’t be judged for it. if you are still in contact with him, i would arrange to meet and physically watch him delete them. that will calm your nerves.

i hope you’re okay! send me a PM if you need anything <3
This. Thank you for this. ❤️


To all of you making “whY seNd iT iN thE fiRsT plAce” comments, a) it’s a bit late for that now and b) OP recognises their mistake. None of you are helping with comments like that.
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yes, and watch him do it. I hope you have learned your lesson? Your ex is awful.
You missed the point lol, she can't Make him do anything, she can ask but he doesn't have to listen
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You missed the point lol, she can't Make him do anything, she can ask but he doesn't have to listen
Where did i say that she can make him do anything? Of course he does not have to listen but she can also make him accountable for any refusal if she us underage. His conduct is disgraceful.
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OP hasn't replied to clarify their age yet unfortunately.

Either you are over 18 when it was all done in which case there is no legal way to make him delete them and as long as he doesn't spread them he isn't doing anything illegal or you took and sent them under 18 in which case you produced and distributed child porn so going to the police may not help you much.

Not sure why nobody ever thinks this through and just claims it was a mistake because it takes a little while to take an image and sent it, plenty of time to consider the consequences.
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(Original post by pepsimaxcherry)
have you asked him to delete them? if not, ask him and say that you don’t feel comfortable with him keeping them. if he refuses, threaten action through saying you’ll tell his parents, teachers etc.

yes, you shouldn’t have sent them. but everyone makes silly mistakes and you shouldn’t be judged for it. if you are still in contact with him, i would arrange to meet and physically watch him delete them. that will calm your nerves.
Just my opinion, but bearing in mind we don't know any ages, would you really try complaining to parents and teachers? Doesn't that risk making things massively worse? esp making potentially malicious complaints against someone with the ability to cause extreme humiliation? Parents at the door counter claiming 'whats your ***t of a daughter doing sending this to out son? ect ect!'

It's not about blaming the OP for sending, ...but they do need to take some responsibility and understand that things can be out of their control. I'd hope never to be in this situation, bit see if q recent ex tried telling me i need to meet them and delete things in front of them? I'd say no on principle.

I;m always a bit sad on these threads how people jump to conclusions then refuse to let them go, the guy is always seemingly in the wrong
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Lol reading all this has gave me aids, only decent reply i have actually seen and everyone is ******** on him for saying what needs to be said
"ignore the mean messages. we all make mistakes when we are young." this is not what should be posted on these threads at all, she is just as much to blame as he is and her only option is the police if he refuses to delete and bringing parents in wont really do anything. And yes this is a massive waste of police time but if the girl is underage then the police will sort it all out regardless of what you idiots think, even if she is over 18 if she makes a report to the police with evidence they have no choice but to investigate and it doesn't take up any of their time or resources to quickly visit or call the lad even if they don't take any action.

If people didn't do this then we wouldn't all have to sit on forums and stuff telling them what is and isn't common sense and maybe sending nudes isn't such a good idea and on the other hand the police get thousands of these cases a day i would imagine and are probably pissed off themselves with the level of stupidity with teenagers nowadays, sure you'll get the snowflakes who comment on every post saying don't worry its okay you didn't mean it bla bla but thats not what we should be saying we should be saying no this isn't on and don't do it again, both people are to blame not just the guy but that doesn't mean people should snowflake the girl and tell her what she wants to hear and not what she needs to hear and that is don't send nudes..not its okay you made a mistake as it sends the wrong message that meh its nothing serious carry on your way.
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(Original post by StriderHort)
Just my opinion, but bearing in mind we don't know any ages, would you really try complaining to parents and teachers? Doesn't that risk making things massively worse? esp making potentially malicious complaints against someone with the ability to cause extreme humiliation? Parents at the door counter claiming 'whats your ***t of a daughter doing sending this to out son? ect ect!'

It's not about blaming the OP for sending, ...but they do need to take some responsibility and understand that things can be out of their control. I'd hope never to be in this situation, bit see if q recent ex tried telling me i need to meet them and delete things in front of them? I'd say no on principle.

I;m always a bit sad on these threads how people jump to conclusions then refuse to let them go, the guy is always seemingly in the wrong
I’ve never stated that the guy is in the wrong? He would be however if he refused to delete them.

I see your points, however the OP is young and needs guidance. They can’t fight this alone, hence why advice is given to consult trusted adults.

It’s great that you’d say no on principal, however we all make mistakes when we are young. Nobody should be bashing OP for sending, they clearly have learnt from their mistakes.
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