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Original post by Koreaboo
my parents go to bed at 12, they work pretty late. most people don't go out until like 12. Pres even start at like 10/11. If I were u just study your home layout and parents sleeping time to find the best time to sneak out.

I don't want to drink or go clubbing I'm Muslim and I'm sure their will be others like me in the uni. I also can't sneak out because of the cameras but I'm just saying they want me home by 8 before quarantine when I used to go out and in the winter it was earlier and I'm just thinking that is going to be so hard for socialising at university.
Original post by mnot
At 18 they have to be more realistic.
Societies are mostly in the evening.
What if you end up working in the library till 1am...


It doesn’t work like that for everyone though. Different religions and cultures have different upbringings. I hear what you’re saying, but just because someone turns 18 doesn’t mean they instantly get independence. As OP said his parent would just likely kick him out and rightly so tbh.
Because when you think about it, if students wanted complete independence then that means moving out and not relying on their parents when they need money or food or anything. If i make sense
Original post by Anonymous
It doesn’t work like that for everyone though. Different religions and cultures have different upbringings. I hear what you’re saying, but just because someone turns 18 doesn’t mean they instantly get independence. As OP said his parent would just likely kick him out and rightly so tbh.
Because when you think about it, if students wanted complete independence then that means moving out and not relying on their parents when they need money or food or anything. If i make sense

I know I can't have it both ways. I'm just thinking it's going to be a struggle making friends however their will be people like me hopefully.
Original post by Anonymous
I don't want to drink or go clubbing I'm Muslim and I'm sure their will be others like me in the uni. I also can't sneak out because of the cameras but I'm just saying they want me home by 8 before quarantine when I used to go out and in the winter it was earlier and I'm just thinking that is going to be so hard for socialising at university.


Don’t feel pressured into doing anything you don’t want to do. For one your groupchat won’t have everyone on your course in it. Theres likely so many more missing. And you’ll be surprised how many young students feel the same way and have no interest in drinking or clubbing or going out late. There are students who would rather go home and study and focus on their studies. You’re also likely to meet other muslims on your course or through societies aswell so don’t worry too much. Over thinking won’t help sweetie
Original post by Anonymous
I know I can't have it both ways. I'm just thinking it's going to be a struggle making friends however their will be people like me hopefully.


I was agreeing with you lol and saying i understand
Original post by Anonymous
Everyone in my uni groupchat is arranging to meet up for drinks at a pub and go on a night out before the course starts and it's making me so scared. I'm Muslim and don't drink and I scared that when I start they will all know each other and be friends and I won't have anyone similar to me. I'm not moving out either so I can't make friends with flat mates. My uni barely has any societies as well so I'm doomed to make no friends.


Other muslims?
Failing that just get on the sauce, you might just like it.
Original post by Anonymous
Don’t feel pressured into doing anything you don’t want to do. For one your groupchat won’t have everyone on your course in it. Theres likely so many more missing. And you’ll be surprised how many young students feel the same way and have no interest in drinking or clubbing or going out late. There are students who would rather go home and study and focus on their studies. You’re also likely to meet other muslims on your course or through societies aswell so don’t worry too much. Over thinking won’t help sweetie

Yeah I think theirs a 1000 people just doing my course for my year and the group only has about 100 that I know of. It's just theirs other Muslims as well but they're parents are a lot more lenient so even if I do meet Muslims they're probably still allowed to do things im not unfortunately. But I have to respect my parents decisions if I live in their house so will just try convincing them and try to get home early as well. Thank you for the advice I knew you were agreeing with me and where I was coming from.
Original post by Zürich
Other muslims?

They're probably will be some but none that I can see from the group but the group only has 100/1000 students on the course.
Bro, just drink raw eggs from a bucket, it's what i do to assert my dominance
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah I think theirs a 1000 people just doing my course for my year and the group only has about 100 that I know of. It's just theirs other Muslims as well but they're parents are a lot more lenient so even if I do meet Muslims they're probably still allowed to do things im not unfortunately. But I have to respect my parents decisions if I live in their house so will just try convincing them and try to get home early as well. Thank you for the advice I knew you were agreeing with me and where I was coming from.


Exactly so thats 1/10. A very small minority. Don’t overthink it as it won’t help hunny. Believe me uni is a massive place. Theres someone for everyone. And clubs are not and won’t be open before uni anyway so that solves half of the issue.

Longterm you won’t want to be friend with people who want to club and drink for fun if thats not what you’re into. You’re better off waiting and finding quality friends. Not everyone in chat will be going, you could pop some up privately and get to know them? Suggest meeting for food or something ?
Original post by Anonymous
Exactly so thats 1/10. A very small minority. Don’t overthink it as it won’t help hunny. Believe me uni is a massive place. Theres someone for everyone. And clubs are not and won’t be open before uni anyway so that solves half of the issue.

Longterm you won’t want to be friend with people who want to club and drink for fun if thats not what you’re into. You’re better off waiting and finding quality friends. Not everyone in chat will be going, you could pop some up privately and get to know them? Suggest meeting for food or something ?

Thank you I really appreciate the advice. My parents are not even allowing me to go meet with friends because of corona as some of my family is vulnerable. They gave me freedom before corona and I was always allowed to meet friends but because of corona I can't.
Original post by Anonymous
Thank you I really appreciate the advice. My parents are not even allowing me to go meet with friends because of corona as some of my family is vulnerable. They gave me freedom before corona and I was always allowed to meet friends but because of corona I can't.


And i agree with that decision then. Meeting with friends isn’t more important than not putting your family at risk. Everyone is in the same boat. It’s not that big a deal. You don’t have to make friends on the 1st day or before uni. You’ll be fine
Original post by Anonymous
Everyone in my uni groupchat is arranging to meet up for drinks at a pub and go on a night out before the course starts and it's making me so scared. I'm Muslim and don't drink and I scared that when I start they will all know each other and be friends and I won't have anyone similar to me. I'm not moving out either so I can't make friends with flat mates. My uni barely has any societies as well so I'm doomed to make no friends.

Hi! There are still a lot of ways to make friends since you're only 20 mins drive away. Join a group chat for your course and arrange to meet a few of them during the day. There will be a lot of people who prefer doing that than going out to the pub. Also join some societies, their activities will likely be online which is even better for you :smile:
I hear you. I'm worried because I'm going to Oxford university and lots of freshers are posting their photos and interesting/witty stuff about themselves on the freshers 2020 insta but honestly its not me to do that. I'm pretty boring. I love my ps4, drinking with my mates, watching Netflix and Grime. I don't have any hobbies as such, don't play sports and I'm dreading that everyone will have networked before they even arrive and I'll find it even more difficult to socialise with new people. So far not one freshers profiles I've read mentions grime - I'm starting to panic. They all seem so together.
Make friends with classmates? If there are no societies that interest you then make one?

Not everyone drinks and party at clubs there are people believe it or not that don't want to spend their time partying at clubs, find those people and befriend them.
Original post by Anonymous
I hear you. I'm worried because I'm going to Oxford university and lots of freshers are posting their photos and interesting/witty stuff about themselves on the freshers 2020 insta but honestly its not me to do that. I'm pretty boring. I love my ps4, drinking with my mates, watching Netflix and Grime. I don't have any hobbies as such, don't play sports and I'm dreading that everyone will have networked before they even arrive and I'll find it even more difficult to socialise with new people. So far not one freshers profiles I've read mentions grime - I'm starting to panic. They all seem so together.


Start a grime society to attract other like minded people and befriend them.
Original post by Mr T 999
Start a grime society to attract other like minded people and befriend them.

You make an extremely good point. Would I have the balls to do that? I might have to grow a pair!
Original post by Anonymous
Everyone in my uni groupchat is arranging to meet up for drinks at a pub and go on a night out before the course starts and it's making me so scared. I'm Muslim and don't drink and I scared that when I start they will all know each other and be friends and I won't have anyone similar to me. I'm not moving out either so I can't make friends with flat mates. My uni barely has any societies as well so I'm doomed to make no friends.

Hi,

Are you allowed to go out with them but not drink? I had MANY friends who are non-drinkers and they still went out with us! Whenever we did anything with alcohol they still joined in but didn't drink alcohol at all!!

Do make yourself isolated just because you don't drink.

Maybe join Facebook/messenger group chats and ask if there are any students who don't drink and organise something with them?

Ask if anyone is a Muslim?

Honestly, involve yourself! You can have fun without drinking!!!!!!

Marlena- Official Student Rep :smile:

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