Gf breaking up with me coz I am against her smoking shish

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That wasn't what I asked though, what do you think is a fair mid point or compromise here? Does the 'compromise' mean her not smoking any more? IE you getting your way?

If you personally don't like smoking or find it attractive that it's entirely reasonable, but it isn't really for you tell others what they can or can't do either, you can only decide if you want to go along with it or not.
she wants to go hang out with her siblings I guess she can go to the shisha lounge hang out with her siblings but not smoke
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It is her choice, but to be honest if it worries you that much you're probably better not being together. I would never be with a smoker because I too have seen the damage it can do and just can't allow myself to get close to a person who might go on to suffer in that way.
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she wants to go hang out with her siblings I guess she can go to the shisha lounge hang out with her siblings but not smoke
So the compromise is she is allowed to see her family but not allowed to smoke. yea that's textbook controlling and no kind of compromise.

A compromise would be, for example, she doesn't smoke around you and you shut up about it.
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So the compromise is she is allowed to see her family but now allowed to smoke. yea that's textbook controlling and no kind of compromise.
No, I use to tell her to not go and hang out at their house coz she would lie to me and do things behind my back.
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No, I use to tell her to not go and hang out at their house coz she would lie to me and do things behind my back.
Because you are controlling.
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Because you are controlling.
I understand now, Thank youu
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she wants to go hang out with her siblings I guess she can go to the shisha lounge hang out with her siblings but not smoke
(Original post by Anonymous)
No, I use to tell her to not go and hang out at their house coz she would lie to me and do things behind my back.
Yeah this is coming off as you being controlling

An example of a compromise for this situation would maybe be she never smokes at home/in the house to prevent you from being exposed to the smoke but she can smoke elsewhere/ not when you are around

Ultimately if it matters that much to you (and tbh imo smoking can be a deal-breaker for people) then you should end it
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Just break up with her
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