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Been here for a week and I already want to leave uni. Obviously due to COVID 19 I wasn’t expecting it to be extremely easy socially but the complete lack of socialising I’m doing is ridiculous. All events and societies have either been cancelled or are strictly online so there’s no actual face to face contact with people and the majority of my classes are online.
So my only option is to become friends with my flat mates but it’s hard to become friends with people that don’t even leave their room or talk to me. Also as we have security for our accommodation we’re not even allowed to interact or go into other peoples flats due to COVID 19.
I’m just extremely upset at the moment as whenever I go to the shops I see other flats all hanging out together in their kitchens and drinking yet I’m stuck with the most unsocial people ever, I’ve tried to talk to them but I haven’t even seen 3 out of 6 people yet (I’m not joking I don’t even know what they look like) and the rest either find it hard to talk or just completely ignore me.
I was thinking of switching accommodations but were not allowed to switch till the end of November so there’s no point.
There’s honestly no way of me making friends and now I’m going to be completely alone for the next 3 years of uni.
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realx take it easy and dont overthink stuff. all will be well. you will socialise dont painc. just go with the flow
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Sounds like heaven to me.
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I completely understand you, even as a second year now it feels weird in terms of socialising despite us having going past the awkward socialising phase that we all go through during the beginning of first year. Its definitely not easy but don't let it put you off of the entirety of your time at uni, Covid has put us in a time of uncertainty, we don't know what's going to happen In the near future, so you never know, your second semester might be a lot more sociable. in terms of your flatmate maybe its worth writing a little note and leaving it In the kitchen/social space asking if anyone wants to hang out because they might be in a similar situation but they're too shy to speak up. keep in touch with your home friends and family regularly to clear your mind about the loneliness at uni, many first years are probably feeling the same.

Remember, uni is glamorised as being the best time of your life, but this isn't always the case for everyone and that's completely okay. I'm sorry corona has made it so *****y for you guys.
btw which uni are you at? you can always keep in touch with others outside your flat/accomodation/course via facebook pages.

hope this helps and if you have any more worries, keep in touch!
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hey man i feel like im in a similiar boat rn, my flat mates though actually are pretty nice, its just we havent clicked like i was hoping and yeah like you said, with corona and stuff its hard as **** to meet like classmates and stuff or have normal clubs and societies. my plan is just to join as many sports clubs and socities and i can and might be interested in and then hope to make some good friends there. but yeah, its ****ing hard rn.
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I'm the opposite. My flatmates are very sociable and most of them are partying in the kitchen right now (with other flats too even though there's covid going around *eye roll* and my uni said no)
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I completely get this.

Felt like this 3 years ago when I started uni and nothing was restricted. Wasn't so much that my lot were unsociable, but that they didn't include me in the small things like going clubbing or the pub so tried to make friends with just random people I came across; in first year most are in a similar boat and actually want to meet others so would just suggest to keep actively trying!
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I'm the opposite. My flatmates are very sociable and most of them are partying in the kitchen right now (with other flats too even though there's covid going around *eye roll* and my uni said no)
Yep, just when I want to sleep!
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Yep, just when I want to sleep!
same here
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I'm the opposite. My flatmates are very sociable and most of them are partying in the kitchen right now (with other flats too even though there's covid going around *eye roll* and my uni said no)
Honestly wish we could swap flatmates im dying of boredom
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Honestly wish we could swap flatmates im dying of boredom
Tbh I think students have been had over.They have been conned into signing up to unis so unis can grab the tuition fees and tenancy agreements so unis can pocket accommodation fees when they would have been better off mentally and physically staying home and doing this term on line.
I would try the kitchen note idea some people are really shy but good fun given a bit of encouragement!I mean hopefully things will improve next year in general but yeh I think you have been sold a pup!
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Try this: leave a note in kitchen saying “for random play, knock on my door 10 times in quick succession, followed by a brief pause, followed by 5 knocks - my room is: (describe location)” :ahee:
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I’m moving to my uni on Tuesday. I really hope I do not end up in the OP’s described position. OP, really sorry to hear/read that this has happened 😞 tbh I can’t imagine how the impending academic year can be at all enjoyable
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Is your university / hall of residence in or near a town? Could you try getting out and investigating what the rest of the world has to offer? For instance, your university may have shut everything down, but out in the real world, there are actual activities going on.

Also, may be a daft question, but you do know that the rooms are all occupied and it's not that you don't know what some of tour flatmates look like, because they aren't actually there...?
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i found that making friends was initiating conversations and asking them for a hand with something helps. For eg if u buy something like a poster or fairy lights or something for your room. Ask one of them whilst in the kitchen for some help. This will get you talking. Or when you’re in the kitchen offer them to use your salt / pepper / red sauce / bread whenever they like. It’s just something to say to break the ice. Mention you are going food shopping and if they’d like to come. Most people are feeling the way you are feeling - everyone is in the same boat Best of luck
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Been here for a week and I already want to leave uni. Obviously due to COVID 19 I wasn’t expecting it to be extremely easy socially but the complete lack of socialising I’m doing is ridiculous. All events and societies have either been cancelled or are strictly online so there’s no actual face to face contact with people and the majority of my classes are online.
So my only option is to become friends with my flat mates but it’s hard to become friends with people that don’t even leave their room or talk to me. Also as we have security for our accommodation we’re not even allowed to interact or go into other peoples flats due to COVID 19.
I’m just extremely upset at the moment as whenever I go to the shops I see other flats all hanging out together in their kitchens and drinking yet I’m stuck with the most unsocial people ever, I’ve tried to talk to them but I haven’t even seen 3 out of 6 people yet (I’m not joking I don’t even know what they look like) and the rest either find it hard to talk or just completely ignore me.
I was thinking of switching accommodations but were not allowed to switch till the end of November so there’s no point.
There’s honestly no way of me making friends and now I’m going to be completely alone for the next 3 years of uni.
You are being far too pessimistic and psychic! It is a difficult time gor everyone. You could see if you could get a job? take up an online hobby? join a gym? learn to play an instrument? go home every other weekend?
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Hey there,
Please don’t worry about this too much. This period of time has been depressing for many people and so a lot of people are currently in a similar position to you.
You will definitely make friends, just be patient for a little while longer. Think positive - it will affect your state of mind. Everything will come to pass.
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