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I wasn't raised to treat everyone as equal and my dad has always had a dim view on homosexuality. But as I grew older I started to accept people who are different than me and have met some really nice gay guys and been to a couple of pride events, which my dad doesn't know about. While we sat in the living room yesterday, eating dinner and watching TV, two gay guys appeared on screen and began kissing. A look of disgust appeared on my dad's face, but I couldn't help but notice he was reaching for the remote to turn over to another channel. It really upsets me that I'm related to someone like him, but he is still my dad. How do I get him to accept people like I did?
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I wasn't raised to treat everyone as equal and my dad has always had a dim view on homosexuality. But as I grew older I started to accept people who are different than me and have met some really nice gay guys and been to a couple of pride events, which my dad doesn't know about. While we sat in the living room yesterday, eating dinner and watching TV, two gay guys appeared on screen and began kissing. A look of disgust appeared on my dad's face, but I couldn't help but notice he was reaching for the remote to turn over to another channel. It really upsets me that I'm related to someone like him, but he is still my dad. How do I get him to accept people like I did?
Why does it matter? Are you gay? If not, it probably isn't worth it tbh
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Why does it matter? Are you gay? If not, it probably isn't worth it tbh
No, I am heterosexual. But it matters because I can't introduce my gay friends to my family. I know that if I could get my dad to change his views, it would make our family much more happy.
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nothing wrong with it
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nothing wrong with it
With what? Homosexuality or homophobia?
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nothing wrong with it
With homosexuality or homophobia?
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With homosexuality or homophobia?
I literally just asked the same question.
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I literally just asked the same question.
Your post showed when I posted mine, not a surprise it was being asked more than once.
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I wasn't raised to treat everyone as equal and my dad has always had a dim view on homosexuality. But as I grew older I started to accept people who are different than me and have met some really nice gay guys and been to a couple of pride events, which my dad doesn't know about. While we sat in the living room yesterday, eating dinner and watching TV, two gay guys appeared on screen and began kissing. A look of disgust appeared on my dad's face, but I couldn't help but notice he was reaching for the remote to turn over to another channel. It really upsets me that I'm related to someone like him, but he is still my dad. How do I get him to accept people like I did?
how is switching the channel with 2 gay people kissing homophobia?

If a gay pop-up ad appears on screen and a straight guy quickly closes it is he homophobic too?
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No, I am heterosexual. But it matters because I can't introduce my gay friends to my family. I know that if I could get my dad to change his views, it would make our family much more happy.
How would it make your family happy? Is anyone else in the family upset by this or is it just you? Whilst I get where your coming from, it's pretty hard to change bigoted thinking - and it may not be worth straining your relationship with your dad over
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how is switching the channel with 2 gay people kissing homophobia?

If a gay pop-up ad appears on screen and a straight guy quickly closes it is he homophobic too?
that's a good point
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how is switching the channel with 2 gay people kissing homophobia?

If a gay pop-up ad appears on screen and a straight guy quickly closes it is he homophobic too?
His attitude was the problem, hence the homophobia. Look, you don't know my dad. He would never defend a gay person, even if it turned out to be his own son, my brother is not gay but I used that as an example. My dad hates gay people and doesn't wish to engage with any of them. He believes prides are pointless and often uses the offensive words to describe them.
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His attitude was the problem, hence the homophobia. Look, you don't know my dad. He would never defend a gay person, even if it turned out to be his own son, my brother is not gay but I used that as an example. My dad hates gay people and doesn't wish to engage with any of them. He believes prides are pointless and often uses the offensive words to describe them.
Support for gay people is rising, but support is highest with white people

https://www.pewresearch.org/wp-conte...17/06/1_31.png

and higher education levels:

https://www.pewresearch.org/wp-conte...017/06/1_8.png

and also younger age groups (although this chart is 5 years out of date)
https://assets.pewresearch.org/wp-co...1-25-48-AM.png


what race is your dad? what's his education level? whats his age?

If you took all those factors into consideration then possibly his opinion would not be that surprising, as 5 years ago lots of the older age group still opposed it (can't find any more recent stats on age groups)
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No, I am heterosexual. But it matters because I can't introduce my gay friends to my family. I know that if I could get my dad to change his views, it would make our family much more happy.
Theres somewhat of a difference between actively hating homosexuals and just being decidedly uncomfortable with them, how do you know your dad doesnt simply fall into the latter?
Either way, you can always simply ask him his opinion on the matter and have a chin wag. Then again, given your comment about being ashamed to be related to him i'm questioning whether he's really the one at fault here.
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I wasn't raised to treat everyone as equal and my dad has always had a dim view on homosexuality. But as I grew older I started to accept people who are different than me and have met some really nice gay guys and been to a couple of pride events, which my dad doesn't know about. While we sat in the living room yesterday, eating dinner and watching TV, two gay guys appeared on screen and began kissing. A look of disgust appeared on my dad's face, but I couldn't help but notice he was reaching for the remote to turn over to another channel. It really upsets me that I'm related to someone like him, but he is still my dad. How do I get him to accept people like I did?
Hey anon, I can understand why you're feeling upset, even though some others here don't get it. Regardless of your own sexuality, I believe that it is worth educating others as more people are coming to terms with themselves, and you become more likely to encounter people who aren't cishet (cisgender or heterosexual). By teaching others to be kind, you help make the world a safer place for those like myself.
It's not your fault that you are unhappy with his views, and I am very proud that you have learned to accept and respect others who are different than the "normal" which is plastered all over the media and everywhere you go. I hope that one day you can get your dad to understand, you got this!
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It really upsets me that I'm related to someone like him
=> You're the one with the real issues.
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=> You're the one with the real issues.
eww imagine thinking like this :shifty:
Keep your head up anon and don't listen to these jerks.
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how is switching the channel with 2 gay people kissing homophobia?

If a gay pop-up ad appears on screen and a straight guy quickly closes it is he homophobic too?
i would close it asap
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With homosexuality or homophobia?
homophobia
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No, I am heterosexual. But it matters because I can't introduce my gay friends to my family. I know that if I could get my dad to change his views, it would make our family much more happy.
How do you think your dad would react to you introducing a gay friend? It could just be one of those topics you dont bring up in the house, most families have one or two topics like that. Its unfortunate but probably not the biggest deal as its not actively affecting you as a heterosexual.
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