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My boyfriend earns 80k more than me, and I juts feel really wierd if that makes sense. Like I feel wierd cuz i earn way less than him and I feel like a bit of a good digger but not really??! If that makes sense
Why do I feel like that
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Like I just feel awkward
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I think you feel like that because he earns more than you
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Don't worry or allow the disparity in income to makes you unhappy.
Try to focus on your bf's personality, enjoying the relationship and making lots of happy memories.
As a teenaged schoolgirl I dated guys with trust funds, six figure annual bonuses and seven figure personal investment portfolios.
The relationships rarely survived 100 days, I ended things as soon as I realised we were incompatible or got bored.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
My boyfriend earns 80k more than me, and I juts feel really wierd if that makes sense. Like I feel wierd cuz i earn way less than him and I feel like a bit of a good digger but not really??! If that makes sense
Why do I feel like that
Anon #3 was a bit rude, however it is "generally", true that women prefer to earn a bit less than their partners and vice versa for men. You don't need to feel like a gold digger if you aren't one, many guys who are high earners would prefer a girl who earns less so they can unwind once they've put their work down rather than have their partner stressing about their own work that a high income job would provide
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(Original post by IVLIVSCAESAR)
Anon #3 was a bit rude, however it is "generally", true that women prefer to earn a bit less than their partners and vice versa for men. You don't need to feel like a gold digger if you aren't one, many guys who are high earners would prefer a girl who earns less so they can unwind once they've put their work down rather than have their partner stressing about their own work that a high income job would provide
Just because you earn less does not mean your job is any less stressful.
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Just because you earn less does not mean your job is any less stressful.
Well yes and no. Someone earning 20k may have a much more stressful job than someone earning 25k. However, given the magnitude mentioned by the OP, we could speculate that she earns somewhere between 20-30k and he earns 100-110k. In this context, it is very likely that the latter job will be more stressful
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(Original post by IVLIVSCAESAR)
Well yes and no. Someone earning 20k may have a much more stressful job than someone earning 25k. However, given the magnitude mentioned by the OP, we could speculate that she earns somewhere between 20-30k and he earns 100-110k. In this context, it is very likely that the latter job will be more stressful
That is about the salary of a nurse, would you say having people lives in your hands is a walk in the park?
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Troll rating 2/10
Spelling gives it away
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stop overthinking it
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That is about the salary of a nurse, would you say having people lives in your hands is a walk in the park?
I didn't infer, or at least did not try to infer, that a lower salary job such as a nurse or careworker isn't stressful. However, in the vast majority of cases, a 100k+ job would be more stressful due to constant demand. Obviously that won't always be the case, but most of the guys who I know who earn that kind of money work 65-70+ hours a week, every week and are on call, which is far more than typical
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(Original post by IVLIVSCAESAR)
Anon #3 was a bit rude, however it is "generally", true that women prefer to earn a bit less than their partners and vice versa for men. You don't need to feel like a gold digger if you aren't one, many guys who are high earners would prefer a girl who earns less so they can unwind once they've put their work down rather than have their partner stressing about their own work that a high income job would provide
Again this is just out of date - I know plenty of females who earn more than their partners and some stay-at-home dads. How people decide to live is their business.
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Again this is just out of date - I know plenty of females who earn more than their partners and some stay-at-home dads. How people decide to live is their business.
I didn't say that I had anything against it or that it was right, I merely stated an observation without moral judgement of it. That is why I used the word "generally", obviously there will be a large amount of variance, but there is a tendency for women to have a preference for men who have an income that is equal or greater
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(Original post by IVLIVSCAESAR)
I didn't say that I had anything against it or that it was right, I merely stated an observation without moral judgement of it. That is why I used the word "generally", obviously there will be a large amount of variance, but there is a tendency for women to have a preference for men who have an income that is equal or greater
Where is the evidence of that statement though?
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whats his job
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My boyfriend earns 80k more than me, and I juts feel really wierd if that makes sense. Like I feel wierd cuz i earn way less than him and I feel like a bit of a good digger but not really??! If that makes sense
Why do I feel like that
So long as your not dating him for his money, no, your not a gold-digger nor should you feel like one.
All it is is income. It really should have no effect on your relationship unless you let it.
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Where is the evidence of that statement though?
There is a fairly substantial amount of evidence within the fields of Social Psychology and Evolutionary Biology that reaffirm that position. As stated, there is a large amount of variance and overlap between the distribution of male perspectives and female perspectives on this when considered from a statistical perspective, however there is some difference between the "mean", of these perspectives
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There is a fairly substantial amount of evidence within the fields of Social Psychology and Evolutionary Biology that reaffirm that position. As stated, there is a large amount of variance and overlap between the distribution of male perspectives and female perspectives on this when considered from a statistical perspective, however there is some difference between the "mean", of these perspectives
Such as...?
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(Original post by IVLIVSCAESAR)
There is a fairly substantial amount of evidence within the fields of Social Psychology and Evolutionary Biology that reaffirm that position. As stated, there is a large amount of variance and overlap between the distribution of male perspectives and female perspectives on this when considered from a statistical perspective, however there is some difference between the "mean", of these perspectives
Post a link ... not true amongst the people I know
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