My Gf Gets annoyed at me for unfair reasons

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Dronnietyke
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Hi, so basically i have recently loved to university and its a very local uni to where i live and where my gf lives (8 mins on the train) and my gf says its too far and makes out i will leave her and find someone better and im living in halls wit three girls and two boys and everyone has a gf and bf but my gf is annoyed im living with but i cant help that and they have bfs and gfs she gets annoyed saying i will leave her and i see her every weekend and during the week but she still says that not enough she sometimes makes me feel like im missing out and lonely what do i do and i feel like if i tell her sell be upsetThankyou
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That must be the smallest hall of residence in the world. Only 6 of you?

Ask your girlfriend what she wants you to do.

Does she really want you to be unsociable?
And to not talk to people round campus? To not make new friends? To not have a full social life? To not grow and develop as a person? To not get better at your interpersonal skills?
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(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
That must be the smallest hall of residence in the world. Only 6 of you?

Ask your girlfriend what she wants you to do.

Does she really want you to be unsociable?
And to not talk to people round campus? To not make new friends? To not have a full social life? To not grow and develop as a person? To not get better at your interpersonal skills?
I said this to her then she became very upset and said im holding you back im holding you back and she said whats the point etc. and i was like sympathizing saying your not and you've got to let me meet people but she keeps doing she has been in a past abusive relationship so she gets worried etc. but its annoying
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you need to talk it out with her, explain how what she is doing is unnecessary and reassure her, and if that doesn’t work i’d personally end things.
she’ll only become more controlling, especially if the work load increases and you’re unable to see her as much!
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You don't have to reassure her.

Just keep calm and carry on.

Live uni life to the full.

If she can't hack you doing this, then the problem is with her and there's nothing about your behaviour that you should change.
To some extent you may need to give her some "tough love". Be assertive about your own behaviour. Live your uni life to the full.

If your relationship comes to an end: so be it.
If it continues: so be it.
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That would do my head in, she’s trying to manipulate & control you, id tell her straight to grow up, if she throws a fit id end it.
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