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I Love my bf, when he is at his best he is so sweet and kind and a gentleman. But since he has moved away he has been so distant and disrespectful. He keeps bringing up the topic of nudes which I already expressed multiple times that I am uncomfortable with. He brings up previous experiences we’ve had to guilt trip me and because he doesn’t get what he wants, He starts talking like he hates me.
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Break up with him!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I Love my bf, when he is at his best he is so sweet and kind and a gentleman. But since he has moved away he has been so distant and disrespectful. He keeps bringing up the topic of nudes which I already expressed multiple times that I am uncomfortable with. He brings up previous experiences we’ve had to guilt trip me and because he doesn’t get what he wants, He starts talking like he hates me.
The usual TSR advice .....break up with him!
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Stay with him and be unhappy for the rest of your life.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I Love my bf, when he is at his best he is so sweet and kind and a gentleman. But since he has moved away he has been so distant and disrespectful. He keeps bringing up the topic of nudes which I already expressed multiple times that I am uncomfortable with. He brings up previous experiences we’ve had to guilt trip me and because he doesn’t get what he wants, He starts talking like he hates me.
Tell him its all over between you two he is very immature he is showing no real love or respect for you at all block him on everything
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Yes.
Plenty of much more appealing fishes in the dating sea.
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leave
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Dump him.
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Anonymous #1
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I spoke to him about it and said that I am unhappy in the relationship etc and he is promising to change and better him self?
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I spoke to him about it and said that I am unhappy in the relationship etc and he is promising to change and better him self?
They never change dont be taken in walk away before its to late
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I spoke to him about it and said that I am unhappy in the relationship etc and he is promising to change and better him self?
He might change for a week.
The second you said no should have been when he changed his behaviour.
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I spoke to him about it and said that I am unhappy in the relationship etc and he is promising to change and better him self?
Give him one set of second chances.

No more nagging you for nudes - or he's out.

His blackmailing you or guilt tripping you to get what he wants should be limited to once every 3 months, on average. Any more often than that and he can sling his hook.

The talking like he hates you, allow him a maximum of 2 such negatively emotional outbursts per year. We can all have the odd bad day. Nobody's perfect. Lover's tiff's do happen. You are not going to agree on everything. But talking like he hates you is not on if he does it regularly. He's supposed to love you, not hate you.

Set high standards. High standards in terms of your own behaviour. High standards in terms of what you are willing to accept form any boyfriend that you ever have.
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Thank you guys for your advice I really appreciate it x
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(Original post by Dunnig Kruger)
Give him one set of second chances.

No more nagging you for nudes - or he's out.

His blackmailing you or guilt tripping you to get what he wants should be limited to once every 3 months, on average. Any more often than that and he can sling his hook.

The talking like he hates you, allow him a maximum of 2 such negatively emotional outbursts per year. We can all have the odd bad day. Nobody's perfect. Lover's tiff's do happen. You are not going to agree on everything. But talking like he hates you is not on if he does it regularly. He's supposed to love you, not hate you.

Set high standards. High standards in terms of your own behaviour. High standards in terms of what you are willing to accept form any boyfriend that you ever have.
I really like this. Thank you I will definitely try this and it it fails I guess it is better to walk away.
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Why would you stay with someone who cannot realize your uncomftorable? Or even worse who chooses to ignore it?
You deserve better.
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You answered your own question.
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Anonymous #1
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I broke up with him and now I feel so low
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I broke up with him and now I feel so low
You need to talk with your friends
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I broke up with him and now I feel so low
Partake in some hobbies, talk with your friends and loved ones, try your best to take your mind off it :console:
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You need to talk with your friends
I did but their not understanding of me being upset, they just say I need to get over it and its a good thing
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