Is it normal to still get scared now?

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I was abused as a child, emotionally never physically. I still get scared now if someone raises their voice near me. My gut still drops if someone says 'can I have a word' I assume I'm in trouble. Is this normal for it to still affect me?
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it's completely natural for it to affect you, that's the nature of this, I'm afraid. Abuse follows you throughout your life - that being said, I'd try and confront it while I was still young by going to a therapist etc to help you cope, so that it won't affect your relationships too much. I'm sorry that happened to you, and you deserve to be able to move on fully - but it won't happen by itself.
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it's completely natural for it to affect you, that's the nature of this, I'm afraid. Abuse follows you throughout your life - that being said, I'd try and confront it while I was still young by going to a therapist etc to help you cope, so that it won't affect your relationships too much. I'm sorry that happened to you, and you deserve to be able to move on fully - but it won't happen by itself.
I'm not young now, I'm 32!!
I might speak to my GP about it
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Normal for someone who's had your experiences, I still flinch whenever anyone makes any sudden moves near me at 25. If it's bothering you, a professional would be the best person to talk to.
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Normal for someone who's had your experiences, I still flinch whenever anyone makes any sudden moves near me at 25. If it's bothering you, a professional would be the best perso to talk to.
I might speak to a professional.
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I feel like this is why I have so much anxiety. My dad always threatens to hit me with heavy things like waterbottles and tv remotes.
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I feel like this is why I have so much anxiety. My dad always threatens to hit me with heavy things like waterbottles and tv remotes.
I'm sorry. You know you can speak to someone about what is happening to you, If you are in danger ring 999
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I'm sorry. You know you can speak to someone about what is happening to you, If you are in danger ring 999
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Thank you
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If someone argues with me or near me I still panic and start to cry.
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(Original post by ROTL94)
Normal for someone who's had your experiences, I still flinch whenever anyone makes any sudden moves near me at 25. If it's bothering you, a professional would be the best person to talk to.
I always flinch too and sometimes I hit the other person out of involuntary self defense I guess?? Anyway I thought that was normal in everybody.
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