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Before any of you guys say, “Don’t hide who you really are!”, I would like to.

I don’t look gay (in that you wouldn’t look at me and think yeah he’s defo gay, I dress ‘straight’ if that’s a thing) nor do I particularly sound it. I have a deepish voice.

However, I need help with typical things straight guys do: mannerisms, interests, manly drinks (I’ve heard vodka is the go to gay drink, I thought it was a ‘straight’ drink but apparently not), how to act around guys?? I don’t have many guy friends at all, what is ‘off limits’??


Please help, I desperately just want male friends.
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(Original post by arthurpendragon1)
Before any of you guys say, “Don’t hide who you really are!”, I would like to.

I don’t look gay (in that you wouldn’t look at me and think yeah he’s defo gay, I dress ‘straight’ if that’s a thing) nor do I particularly sound it. I have a deepish voice.

However, I need help with typical things straight guys do: mannerisms, interests, manly drinks (I’ve heard vodka is the go to gay drink, I thought it was a ‘straight’ drink but apparently not), how to act around guys?? I don’t have many guy friends at all, what is ‘off limits’??


Please help, I desperately just want male friends.
Even though I object to everything this post is about... join a rugby team
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Even though I object to everything this post is about... join a rugby team
Why do you object? It’s my choice if I want to hide my sexuality. I was robbed of the chance to come out and I’m not hot on the whole “gay and proud” thing personally. I just see it as a tiny insignificant part of me.
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I was robbed of the chance to come out.
How did that come to be?
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Why do you object? It’s my choice if I want to hide my sexuality. I was robbed of the chance to come out and I’m not hot on the whole “gay and proud” thing personally. I just see it as a tiny insignificant part of me.
Of course you’re allowed to keep it private. But it seems to me that you haven’t accepted yourself yet. You shouldn’t try and be someone you’re not. If you want vodka have it. Literally no one cares. Straight guys don’t go around thinking “I can’t do this because”.

If you can’t accept yourself. You won’t ever be truly happy.
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Of course you’re allowed to keep it private. But it seems to me that you haven’t accepted yourself yet. You shouldn’t try and be someone you’re not. If you want vodka have it. Literally no one cares. Straight guys don’t go around thinking “I can’t do this because”.

If you can’t accept yourself. You won’t ever be truly happy.
No, I fully accept myself. Not conscious about it or anything, I would just like to be more masculine. Once I’ve made friends with guys I’ll then come out again yk
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No, I fully accept myself. Not conscious about it or anything, I would just like to be more masculine. Once I’ve made friends with guys I’ll then come out again yk
Yeah I get that. I also aim to make more male friends. I don’t know why I find it so hard tho because I can make friends with girls just fine. And it’s not because I’m crushing on them or anything because I don’t even like most of them like that. If you figure out what the secret is then tell us! 😭
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I don't think there are 'gay' drink and such, everyone ik who drinks, drinks vodka, cider, beer, rum and what not.
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Mate... you can be gay and have male friends. That's not something you should worry about - and not all gay men act feminine either, so don't worry about it. Be yourself, please - vodka isn't for gays only, I think you're overthinking this and creating your own stereotypes.
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Before any of you guys say, “Don’t hide who you really are!”, I would like to.

I don’t look gay (in that you wouldn’t look at me and think yeah he’s defo gay, I dress ‘straight’ if that’s a thing) nor do I particularly sound it. I have a deepish voice.

However, I need help with typical things straight guys do: mannerisms, interests, manly drinks (I’ve heard vodka is the go to gay drink, I thought it was a ‘straight’ drink but apparently not), how to act around guys?? I don’t have many guy friends at all, what is ‘off limits’??


Please help, I desperately just want male friends.
Uni is the one place where you should be able to be yourself.
That said instead of the ridiculousness of trying to be something you arent, what I suggest is you tone down behaviour that identifies sexuality and just be neutral or private and then be friendly.

A straight guy who finds out you have been pretending to be straight will distrust you, not because you are gay, but because you have pretended to be something you are not.

Just dont make sexuality an issue and let them assume if needs be. Its fine not to be interested in girls or private and you can hide amongst that group.
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All you will do is create a fake version of yourself drinking things you don't like, saying things you don't agree with and such. You can make male friends and not hide being gay, not all guys will feel uncomfortable.

What people really hate is fake people. Don't become one of them.
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No, I fully accept myself. Not conscious about it or anything, I would just like to be more masculine. Once I’ve made friends with guys I’ll then come out again yk
From this I assume you mean that you are worried that knowledge of you being gay will socially ostracize you from other men?
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even though im a firm believer of being who you are and being proud of it, if you really want to act "straight" then go for rowdy night outs with straight men and join sport teams.
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you mean more masculine?
idk tbh, i'm a wlw girl and i act "straight" and most people think i'm straight and very girly. lmaoo, bet you couldn't even tell that i like girls. anyways, maybe dress more masculine, idek? idk how to explain. idk i'm a girl so i wouldn't know lmaoo.
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