It is time for me to move out because I don’t get along with my family

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I am nearly 26 and I just want to move out. I ain’t gonna get married so it is looking likely I am going to live a very lonely life cause I have no friends.

I want to move out because I don’t have a good relationship with my mum and dad. I spend all day in my room and quite frankly that is disgraceful at this age. I barely talk to my dad and he just insults me. My mum, despite her deteriorating muscle wasting condition, bullies me because she can’t understand my quiet nature.

I am thinking the right thing to do is for me to find a graduate scheme to start september 2021 and then move into a city with ‘said’ graduate job. I live in London and I am looking to move out of London.

Anyone in similar positions? What age did you move out of your parents house?
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if you wanna move out, do it
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(Original post by vix.xvi)
if you wanna move out, do it
It’s so hard to move out from an african background. Your either moving out to get married or to move back to Africa, and neither of that I want to do!! ☹️
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Your either moving out to get married or to move back to Africa,
Felt that.
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Felt that.
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It's probably a good thing to consider if your current living situation isn't healthy.

Are you working already/do you have savings or is this something you'll have to work towards? I'd obviously consider the financial implications first and work out how much roughly it'll cost you each month to rent and whatnot.

I first moved out when I was 19 and hadn't been back to my parents since.
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Oh I'm not 18 yet but I did bring the topic up of moving out once I'm an adult and financially independent. Obvs I'd help my family out financially as well... but it didn't really go down to well lmao
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It's probably a good thing to consider if your current living situation isn't healthy.

Are you working already/do you have savings or is this something you'll have to work towards? I'd obviously consider the financial implications first and work out how much roughly it'll cost you each month to rent and whatnot.
This is something I am working towards. I am praying that a graduate scheme will accept me hopefully next year and that’s when I will use it as an excuse to move out. I’m currently studying a masters but I am planning to save up money by finding a part time job hopefully

I have some savings but that is not enough right now to move out. I do blame myself, having a mental health condition in an african home is not the best and it is the reason why the relationships has just gotten worse. I would have thought, after I finished my undergraduate last year and moving back home that my ‘4 year absence’ would have brought me and my family but instead has made things far worse.

I’m rambling now but I am determined to move out but I’m sad it has to come to moving out the wrong way.
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Wish I could put a poll

What age did you guys move out?
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This is something I am working towards. I am praying that a graduate scheme will accept me hopefully next year and that’s when I will use it as an excuse to move out. I’m currently studying a masters but I am planning to save up money by finding a part time job hopefully

I have some savings but that is not enough right now to move out. I do blame myself, having a mental health condition in an african home is not the best and it is the reason why the relationships has just gotten worse. I would have thought, after I finished my undergraduate last year and moving back home that my ‘4 year absence’ would have brought me and my family but instead has made things far worse.

I’m rambling now but I am determined to move out but I’m sad it has to come to moving out the wrong way.
Well, being in London you have the geographical advantage in that there will probably be plenty of grad schemes around that you can apply to.

I'm sure it's not necessarily your fault, obviously I don't know your whole situation but it sounds like you've been going through quite a tough time. Are you getting help with your mental health?

I'm sorry that things haven't been working out for you, though I suppose not all things end up going as we've planned them to. If you do decide to move out then I wish you the best of luck :hugs:
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Hi. I understand that an African background doesn't help- it is very difficult in decision. However, the Human Rights work for everyone, and there should be a safe place to live for everyone. Not to say that your family is abusive, but I think you need a safer space. They should understand your quiet nature, everyone is different, and this is what makes the world unique. The graduate scheme is a good idea, and may be the first step for a brighter future.
Good luck!
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I am nearly 26 and I just want to move out. I ain’t gonna get married so it is looking likely I am going to live a very lonely life cause I have no friends.

I want to move out because I don’t have a good relationship with my mum and dad. I spend all day in my room and quite frankly that is disgraceful at this age. I barely talk to my dad and he just insults me. My mum, despite her deteriorating muscle wasting condition, bullies me because she can’t understand my quiet nature.

I am thinking the right thing to do is for me to find a graduate scheme to start september 2021 and then move into a city with ‘said’ graduate job. I live in London and I am looking to move out of London.

Anyone in similar positions? What age did you move out of your parents house?
17 😂 I got kicked out recently, and am about to turn 18. Good luck!
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I am nearly 26 and I just want to move out. I ain’t gonna get married so it is looking likely I am going to live a very lonely life cause I have no friends.

I want to move out because I don’t have a good relationship with my mum and dad. I spend all day in my room and quite frankly that is disgraceful at this age. I barely talk to my dad and he just insults me. My mum, despite her deteriorating muscle wasting condition, bullies me because she can’t understand my quiet nature.

I am thinking the right thing to do is for me to find a graduate scheme to start september 2021 and then move into a city with ‘said’ graduate job. I live in London and I am looking to move out of London.

Anyone in similar positions? What age did you move out of your parents house?
I'm 25 and returned home last year after 4 years at uni and a year living abroad and I feel you. My dad is an alcoholic so it's not fun - I ignore him and spend most of my time in my room too. Just remember that it's not forever and try your best to save some money so you can move out.

I also live in London and although I'm working I can't afford to move out as rent etc is so expensive and I don't want to live in a house share. So I'm saving as much as I can to get to the point where I can move out. I think if you plan on moving out of London it'll be cheaper.

I've applied for graduate schemes too but they're very competitive; so good luck in your applications! We've got this!
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If you want to move out then go for it.
I moved out at 16 due to problems with my family.
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17 😂 I got kicked out recently, and am about to turn 18. Good luck!
In this covid period? what did you do that made you to get kicked out
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If you want to move out then go for it.
I moved out at 16 due to problems with my family.
Why? what were the problems you had with family?

I want to move out but having no friends makes it harder to move out.
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