What to do with dorm mate who keeps inviting people to our kitchen?

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My dorm has 4 people that share one kitchen and one of our dorm mates keeps inviting her friends to the kitchen. I didn't initially have an issue but I have issues with anxiety, and the fact there's a pandemic doesn't make me feel very comfortable either, and makes me feel rather claustraphobic when today as I was meal prepping 6+ people marched into the kitchen and made themselves at home. I'm not sure what to do because I'm scared of confrontation, I live on a ground floor room and I already have enough anxieties about that, and I know if they got told off for it they'd know that it was me who reported them. I'm not sure what to do honestly, do I just keep ignoring it like I have been trying to?
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My dorm has 4 people that share one kitchen and one of our dorm mates keeps inviting her friends to the kitchen. I didn't initially have an issue but I have issues with anxiety, and the fact there's a pandemic doesn't make me feel very comfortable either, and makes me feel rather claustraphobic when today as I was meal prepping 6+ people marched into the kitchen and made themselves at home. I'm not sure what to do because I'm scared of confrontation, I live on a ground floor room and I already have enough anxieties about that, and I know if they got told off for it they'd know that it was me who reported them. I'm not sure what to do honestly, do I just keep ignoring it like I have been trying to?
I would speak to whichever one of them seems most sensible and just say that you feel anxious about it. If they don't care or change what is happening. I'd report them.
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My dorm has 4 people that share one kitchen and one of our dorm mates keeps inviting her friends to the kitchen. I didn't initially have an issue but I have issues with anxiety, and the fact there's a pandemic doesn't make me feel very comfortable either, and makes me feel rather claustraphobic when today as I was meal prepping 6+ people marched into the kitchen and made themselves at home. I'm not sure what to do because I'm scared of confrontation, I live on a ground floor room and I already have enough anxieties about that, and I know if they got told off for it they'd know that it was me who reported them. I'm not sure what to do honestly, do I just keep ignoring it like I have been trying to?
Wait until you can catch her alone and ask her why she can’t go to one of her friends places to socialise there instead? It doesn’t have to be your place that gets used all the time for the parties. 👍🏻
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it’s probably recorded on cctv so just tell your landlord and they will warn them.
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My dorm has 4 people that share one kitchen and one of our dorm mates keeps inviting her friends to the kitchen. I didn't initially have an issue but I have issues with anxiety, and the fact there's a pandemic doesn't make me feel very comfortable either, and makes me feel rather claustraphobic when today as I was meal prepping 6+ people marched into the kitchen and made themselves at home. I'm not sure what to do because I'm scared of confrontation, I live on a ground floor room and I already have enough anxieties about that, and I know if they got told off for it they'd know that it was me who reported them. I'm not sure what to do honestly, do I just keep ignoring it like I have been trying to?
Hi! I think you could try talk to whoever is inviting people over and just see if they could ask you in advance before inviting lots of people over, and say that you would communicate to them the same if you had people over. Or even drop the person a message to let you know in advance if they're inviting others overs so you can have some alone time when you cook your dinner and get to use the kitchen that you have also paid for!

I think especially at the moment where we need to be limiting who we are seeing and trying to follow government guidelines your housemate should be understanding that you aren't that comfortable with having lots of people over all the time. Talk to the person first and hopefully they will let you know when they have people over or start going round other peoples houses instead of your own. Try not to ignore them and keep it friendly between everyone as I'm sure that it would be great to all hang out together.

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