Advice for a mature student - should I move out of flatshare?

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I'm a mature student who's just moved to Liverpool after 2 years of study elsewhere and I've moved into a flat with 7 other people. When I arranged my accommodation in the Summer, I was specifically told that I would not be housed with first years - turns out all but one of my current flatmates (there is one still yet to move in) are first years.

The people who I live with are all nice people and everyone tidies up after themselves (which I feel like I've got lucky with tbf), but the reason why I was hesitant to move in with 18 year olds in the first place is because they're all excited to be living away from home and they're in party mode, which I totally understand because I'd have been the same at that age, but these days I'd rather not deal with the loud late nights.

I think the whole COVID situation is probably making things worse, as with the bars shutting at 10 they come back to the flat to drink - often bringing people back with them (which is another dilemma because I sometimes think I should grass them in but I also don't want to be THAT person).

On top of that, the windows don't do much to keep noise out, so when other students (not just those in my flat) are coming and going of a night you can hear them quite clearly, and I'm just so lucky to have my room located right by the entrance of the building....

COVID won't last forever, and seeing as my flatmates are bringing people over of a night when they're not supposed to be, I suspect that when restrictions are eventually lifted down the line they might invite even more people back and things may get even louder, and I don't want to act like a nagging mother telling them to keep it down all the time when they're not behaving any differently to any other typical student. So with all that in mind... should I attempt to look for somewhere else to live that might be more suited to me as a mature student?
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Hey can I ask how old you are? How mature of age are you?
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Hey can I ask how old you are? How mature of age are you?
I'm 30, which is why I originally asked to be housed with other mature students, I assumed that if I asked I would get which was seemingly very naive of me...
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Hi,

I'm a mature student who's just moved to Liverpool after 2 years of study elsewhere and I've moved into a flat with 7 other people. When I arranged my accommodation in the Summer, I was specifically told that I would not be housed with first years - turns out all but one of my current flatmates (there is one still yet to move in) are first years.

The people who I live with are all nice people and everyone tidies up after themselves (which I feel like I've got lucky with tbf), but the reason why I was hesitant to move in with 18 year olds in the first place is because they're all excited to be living away from home and they're in party mode, which I totally understand because I'd have been the same at that age, but these days I'd rather not deal with the loud late nights.

I think the whole COVID situation is probably making things worse, as with the bars shutting at 10 they come back to the flat to drink - often bringing people back with them (which is another dilemma because I sometimes think I should grass them in but I also don't want to be THAT person).

On top of that, the windows don't do much to keep noise out, so when other students (not just those in my flat) are coming and going of a night you can hear them quite clearly, and I'm just so lucky to have my room located right by the entrance of the building....

COVID won't last forever, and seeing as my flatmates are bringing people over of a night when they're not supposed to be, I suspect that when restrictions are eventually lifted down the line they might invite even more people back and things may get even louder, and I don't want to act like a nagging mother telling them to keep it down all the time when they're not behaving any differently to any other typical student. So with all that in mind... should I attempt to look for somewhere else to live that might be more suited to me as a mature student?
Yeah. You’ve seen what’s happening and you see what is likely to happen as well. It’s worth seeing if it possible but at the same time, maybe you’ll be able to tolerate it?

I mean, if they’re nice and they also tidy up it’s actually quite a big pro because it means when they aren’t mad drunk, they’ll be more accommodating just out of respect for you being their elder.

With them being younger you can focus on your own needs and studies whilst with like age group flatmates you might end up with people who want to party or socialise a lot — taking you away from studies

This is one way to look at it at least. Idk, I’d stick at it because the hassle of trying to find another place just seems long. But it’s really whether or not you want to put up with what you are expecting. And whether or not you will cope with it.
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(Original post by Omegatron)
Hi,

I'm a mature student who's just moved to Liverpool after 2 years of study elsewhere and I've moved into a flat with 7 other people. When I arranged my accommodation in the Summer, I was specifically told that I would not be housed with first years - turns out all but one of my current flatmates (there is one still yet to move in) are first years.

The people who I live with are all nice people and everyone tidies up after themselves (which I feel like I've got lucky with tbf), but the reason why I was hesitant to move in with 18 year olds in the first place is because they're all excited to be living away from home and they're in party mode, which I totally understand because I'd have been the same at that age, but these days I'd rather not deal with the loud late nights.

I think the whole COVID situation is probably making things worse, as with the bars shutting at 10 they come back to the flat to drink - often bringing people back with them (which is another dilemma because I sometimes think I should grass them in but I also don't want to be THAT person).

On top of that, the windows don't do much to keep noise out, so when other students (not just those in my flat) are coming and going of a night you can hear them quite clearly, and I'm just so lucky to have my room located right by the entrance of the building....

COVID won't last forever, and seeing as my flatmates are bringing people over of a night when they're not supposed to be, I suspect that when restrictions are eventually lifted down the line they might invite even more people back and things may get even louder, and I don't want to act like a nagging mother telling them to keep it down all the time when they're not behaving any differently to any other typical student. So with all that in mind... should I attempt to look for somewhere else to live that might be more suited to me as a mature student?
Is the accommodation uni owned?
On what basis can you leave? Have you talked to the LL about this and are they ok with it ?
Would you live on your own?

If you can get away, then yes I would probably leave as what you seem to want is either more personal space and somewhere quieter. Students will calm down after the first term, but you sound like youd much prefer a studio or a smaller flat with older students.
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Is the accommodation uni owned?
On what basis can you leave? Have you talked to the LL about this and are they ok with it ?
Would you live on your own?

If you can get away, then yes I would probably leave as what you seem to want is either more personal space and somewhere quieter. Students will calm down after the first term, but you sound like youd much prefer a studio or a smaller flat with older students.
No it's not uni owned, I'm fairly certain it says in my contract that I can leave but it's my responsibility to get someone else in the flat (which might be the tricky part), ideally yeah I would much prefer a smaller flat with older students but I'll have to look into what properties are still available at this point
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No it's not uni owned, I'm fairly certain it says in my contract that I can leave but it's my responsibility to get someone else in the flat (which might be the tricky part), ideally yeah I would much prefer a smaller flat with older students but I'll have to look into what properties are still available at this point
So of its a private flat then its much more difficult.
Getting out of the contract is much more the issue.
How many people do you think are looking to rent at the moment considering CV19?

When you asked about being put with older students what did they say? Your best argument is to use that to say it was misrepresented and you would never have moved in if they hadnt given you some reassurances about age. Get onto them now about it and say you have spoken to CAB. They will say about finding a replacement and you will say that doesnt bind you because of them not delivering. You know what went on.

As for the other then go and see if you can find a mature student or postgrad house.
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