Am I being played by the guy I've liked for years?Watch
We've tried to reconnect over the years, but things got in the way; I got into a relationship, his mental health, his job, he started seeing someone. So it was never the right time to get together. We went on a date earlier in the year, first time we'd seen eachother in nearly 6 years, it went well and I ended up spending the night, because I genuinely thought it was going to be the start of something, because that's what he said. A few days after rthat he stopped contacting me.
So here's the thing, we started speaking again a few days ago. He claims he wasn't mentally in the right place to start seeing me. But now he is. He says all the right things, tells me his feelings for me have never gone away and that he wants to treat me how I should be treated, and that he knows he should be with me. I have always worried he just wanted to sleep with me, but he tells me he doesn't.
I want to believe him. But the fact that I haven't spoken to him since makes me feel like that's it, he's disappeared again. Surely he can't lie about that stuff? It's been 3 days, and I thought he would have arranged to see me by now, or at least spoken to me. Because I'm kind of left hanging.
What should I do? Should I message him or leave it? Should I ask what's going on and ask to see him, or leave it up to him? I just don't want him to play me and get away with it. I feel like a doormat, because I feel he can come back to me when he wants. If he's not interested, I don't want him to make me believe he is. Because it's not fair and I'm left disappointed, because my feelings for him are very real.