I never fit in throughout my undergrad degree. Will I have a better chance during my

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So, I did not enjoy my undergrad years at all. I had zero friends. Just a few acquaintances here and there. Plus I never felt like I belonged. I was isolated at first so I just continued to avoid anything social. Now, I want to compensate for that when I go for my masters. Is it possible to have fun while doing it? The difference between the two unis is that I did not choose the first. Now I am choosing this one and it is a lot more diverse.
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So, I did not enjoy my undergrad years at all. I had zero friends. Just a few acquaintances here and there. Plus I never felt like I belonged. I was isolated at first so I just continued to avoid anything social. Now, I want to compensate for that when I go for my masters. Is it possible to have fun while doing it? The difference between the two unis is that I did not choose the first. Now I am choosing this one and it is a lot more diverse.
Sorry to read you had such a poor experience at uni. Absolutely your uni experience should be enjoyable. Hopefully because you chose a different uni for your masters you will have a better experience.
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Neither did I and got rejected for a masters, so here I am sitting at home with nothing to do, losing contact with most people I knew and seeing people online getting together to have fun despite covid. Honestly it eats me up inside and really don't feel ready for a job just yet, so might apply for a master's again next year..
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Neither did I and got rejected for a masters, so here I am sitting at home with nothing to do, losing contact with most people I knew and seeing people online getting together to have fun despite covid. Honestly it eats me up inside and really don't feel ready for a job just yet, so might apply for a master's again next year..
Unis are will still take you for a masters - there is a small window to go this year. Be quick and apply to some other uni's. You represent £10k for unis so you can still get in this year.
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So, I did not enjoy my undergrad years at all. I had zero friends. Just a few acquaintances here and there. Plus I never felt like I belonged. I was isolated at first so I just continued to avoid anything social. Now, I want to compensate for that when I go for my masters. Is it possible to have fun while doing it? The difference between the two unis is that I did not choose the first. Now I am choosing this one and it is a lot more diverse.
Masters degrees are obviously a step up in complexity to undergrad, but you should still be able to socialise and have a good work-life balance. Obviously the pandemic may affect that though.
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well as you get older you become wiser. The fact that you chose this uni you may feel more comfortable here and maybe open up more. Just make sure you approach others first that way you can get to know lots of people and it'll increase your confidence
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I was definitely more social in masters degree than undergrad - as my social anxiety diminished somewhat and I stopped drinking - so I could talk to people easier. A lot of people say a masters is harder than undergrad so you work all the time, but for me that wasn’t true at all they were both more or less the same.
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Neither did I and got rejected for a masters, so here I am sitting at home with nothing to do, losing contact with most people I knew and seeing people online getting together to have fun despite covid. Honestly it eats me up inside and really don't feel ready for a job just yet, so might apply for a master's again next year..
Okay I'm in a pretty similar situation (except I did get into my masters but decided not to do it last minute bc I realised I hated the subject lol). But tbh all those other messages here are very reassuring and make me feel way better about myself, hope you'll be alright too!
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So, I did not enjoy my undergrad years at all. I had zero friends. Just a few acquaintances here and there. Plus I never felt like I belonged. I was isolated at first so I just continued to avoid anything social. Now, I want to compensate for that when I go for my masters. Is it possible to have fun while doing it? The difference between the two unis is that I did not choose the first. Now I am choosing this one and it is a lot more diverse.
I think you can tell from the above responses that your experience isn't unique, unfortunately this happens to a lot of people.

What I would say first is, do you have any thoughts as to WHY you never felt you "fit in"? Was it that everyone on your course seemed to have very different interests? There could be dozens of reasons. Its good to have a think about why-thats not to say every reason you come up with will/should be negative comments about yourself. There's no point trying to force yourself to become close friends with someone who has clear differences and who maybe doesn't want to be friends with you.

After these negative experiences it can be so easy to just retreat (saying this from personal experience as well). I found the best way to try and build friendships was participating in societies, trying to find people with similar interests on my course/accomodation ASAP. Its not always easy, unfortunately it won't always work, but it's probably the best advice I can give. A masters degree is a new chance to add to yourself in many ways.

Best of luck!
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