In a Relationship and Bored

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. Although i love him, i have felt bored for the last couple of months. the sex isn't great (in fact, its pretty average), he never treats me or buys me anything, and sometimes i just find him generally annoying and would rather be doing other things than being with him. having said that, he is a lovely person and has provided me with a lot of emotional support since we have been dating, which i'll always be grateful for.

the thing is i'm in a bit of a dilemma because we have exactly the same friends, so if i dump him i'd still have to see him all the time, which would be pretty awkward. plus i don't like being single and worry everything will be 10 times worse if we split up. aww i just don't know what to do :frown:

Reply 1

sarCAZm

11

You seem much more inclined to break up with him that make things work and try to make things better...
Maybe you would be better off apart, atleast then he can find someone who doesn't wanna be with him just cos its easier than being single :/

Reply 2

sassy_girl

Hmmm well ok this can go many ways but the main question is do you think that this is just a faze, a bumpy patch in your relationship & things will pick up or do you think that it has been going on a while now and you're losing interest. Maybe you're spending too much time with him because when couples live in each others pockets they can irritate each other very easily. So do you think that you're relationship is worth saving?

Reply 3

netprime

14

Take one of those 'trial seperation' things I see on TV all the time. If you both prefer being apart, wahey! If you don't, you can just get back together.

Though sounds to me your out of the 'honeymoon period' and it's a bit of a boring relationship, could try and do something fun and interesting before splitting up? Go rock climbing, or just jump on a train and see where you get off.

To quote a band I truely hate... "Spice up your life!"

Reply 4

sarCAZm

11

netprime

To quote a band I truely hate... "Spice up your life!"

HOw can you hate the spice girls? They made something **** like feminism into something secksay like girl power :wink:

Reply 5

inksplodge

17

You need to try new things! Nobody ever got anywhere by doing the same old thing every day! :smile:

Also the trial separation thing is a good idea. My bf and I tried it and got back together within 3 days. :p:

!!

Reply 6

Liverpool's Number 9

10

Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. Although i love him, i have felt bored for the last couple of months. the sex isn't great (in fact, its pretty average), he never treats me or buys me anything, and sometimes i just find him generally annoying and would rather be doing other things than being with him. having said that, he is a lovely person and has provided me with a lot of emotional support since we have been dating, which i'll always be grateful for.

the thing is i'm in a bit of a dilemma because we have exactly the same friends, so if i dump him i'd still have to see him all the time, which would be pretty awkward. plus i don't like being single and worry everything will be 10 times worse if we split up. aww i just don't know what to do :frown:

Have you tried to spice things up? Have you talked to him about it? Do you care enough to?

If you do or don't either way you have your answer.

Reply 7

netprime

14

sarCAZm

HOw can you hate the spice girls? They made something **** like feminism into something secksay like girl power :wink:

Seein' as I'm a guy, girl power scares me :woo:

Plus my younger sister had them on CONSTANTLY for like, 4 years, it gets to you eventually.

Reply 8

sarCAZm

11

netprime

Seein' as I'm a guy, girl power scares me :woo:

Plus my younger sister had them on CONSTANTLY for like, 4 years, it gets to you eventually.

...fair shout oldboy.

Reply 9

netprime

14

sarCAZm

...fair shout oldboy.

Yeah, old man at 1... Oh my hips just went.

:shifty:

EDIT: And by girl power, I mean a time when girls will ravage city streets beating up guys. Not the whole girl power movement which was started in the late 1800s. I'm very pro-equal rights tyvm.

Reply 10

sarCAZm

11

netprime

Yeah, old man at 1... Oh my hips just went.

:shifty:

never ph33r. stair lifts are awesome.

Reply 11

RoosterUK

9

Hmm, from the tone of your post I'd say you are more likely to leave him - you seem to fear the effects of splitting up rather than enjoying being with him. I would say this is a phase you can get through but if it has lasted a few months I don't think that very likely.

Reply 12

netprime

14

sarCAZm

never ph33r. stair lifts are awesome.

So are those little car things you can get...

Btw, I am not an old man, just not a fan of the Spice Girls. :biggrin:

Reply 13

Profesh

20

Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. Although i love him, i have felt bored for the last couple of months. the sex isn't great (in fact, its pretty average), he never treats me or buys me anything, and sometimes i just find him generally annoying and would rather be doing other things than being with him. having said that, he is a lovely person and has provided me with a lot of emotional support since we have been dating, which i'll always be grateful for.

the thing is i'm in a bit of a dilemma because we have exactly the same friends, so if i dump him i'd still have to see him all the time, which would be pretty awkward. plus i don't like being single and worry everything will be 10 times worse if we split up. aww i just don't know what to do :frown:

This should never, ever be your paramount reason for remaining attached.

Reply 14

sarCAZm

11

netprime

So are those little car things you can get...

Btw, I am not an old man, just not a fan of the Spice Girls. :biggrin:

and those walk in baths are the ****.
You are an old man. By order of the rule whereby if you are older than me you are old. :biggrin:

Reply 15

netprime

14

sarCAZm

and those walk in baths are the ****.
You are an old man. By order of the rule whereby if you are older than me you are old. :biggrin:

Damn, got me on that one...

Reply 16

sarCAZm

11

netprime

Damn, got me on that one...

Ofc. I'm always right. It's kinda the law :wink:

You are learning fast.

Reply 17

netprime

14

sarCAZm

Ofc. I'm always right. It's kinda the law :wink:

You are learning fast.

Although, after looking at your profile, it says your 18 and I'm only 17.

Therefore. Your wrong. Ha. :yep:

Reply 18

sarCAZm

11

netprime

Although, after looking at your profile, it says your 18 and I'm only 17.

Therefore. Your wrong. Ha. :yep:

...****. My whole life hypothesis has been crushed. If I'm not always right, the world doesn't revolve around me....****.... -implodes-

Reply 19

annarchy

10

I've been there are trust me the friends that are loyal to you won't drift apart when you break up. Which you should. I did so, and it was like a breath of fresh air, a weight off my mind. And we're still friends, ho ho.

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