Poll: Do you agree with arranged marriages?
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Could you possibly be any more ambiguous?
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If it was for me personally, against. But I've got a few friends it's worked pretty well for, so I won't say it should be gotten rid of or anything.

Depends on the people. The cultures you were brought up in. It wouldn't work for the English at all, but the right cultures, yeah it's a great thing.
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You're looking at arranged marriages from a western point of view, as well as what marriage means in countries where this system operates.

However, I'm very much against it. It deprives an individual or choice. What's life without independent thought and choice?
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(Original post by Charlybob)
If it was for me personally, against. But I've got a few friends it's worked pretty well for, so I won't say it should be gotten rid of or anything.

Depends on the people. The cultures you were brought up in. It wouldn't work for the English at all, but the right cultures, yeah it's a great thing.
Pretty much sums up my opinion too
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Against unless the person for whom the marriage is being arranged has a fair chance of expierencing socialising by themselves and still wants an arranged marriage.
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Against - but not as much as I am against telling other cultures what to do. Yeah I wouldn't wanna practise it myself but if other families feel they should its none of my business really.

Maybe if I was brought up in Yemen I'd be pro-arranged marriage ...
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(Original post by Charlybob)
If it was for me personally, against. But I've got a few friends it's worked pretty well for, so I won't say it should be gotten rid of or anything.

Depends on the people. The cultures you were brought up in. It wouldn't work for the English at all, but the right cultures, yeah it's a great thing.
lol, they used to have arranged marriages here for the English too many years ago.

If people are happy have AM, then it's cool.
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lol, they used to have arranged marriages here for the English too many years ago.

If people are happy have AM, then it's cool.
I think it's reasonable to assume that when I said "it wouldn't work for the enlgish", I didn't mean the long dead ones.
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I think it's reasonable to assume that when I said "it wouldn't work for the enlgish", I didn't mean the long dead ones.
How do you know it won't work? Heard of blind dates? more or less the same concept.
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I'm against, and I don't really have any problem telling other cultures what to do.

That people are often put under pressure to do what their culture and family says, to the extent that people have been murdered in the past after refusing is a good enough reason to me that it shouldn't happen under any circumstances. It's hardly runs with the principle of personal freedoms, such as to marry who you want.

I'd find it very wrong if a parent try to interfere, coerce or influence how their child voted, or what university and course they applied to at university. I'm hardly going to agree with the principle of arranged marriage because it's their culture.
ur talking of an extreme . . thats a very rare case and these days the person getting married has a big say normally . .
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Those who have said For need to get their heads examined. I just don't understand it. Love is for a reason, you choose not someone else. Disgusting.
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I'm against forced marriages. Fortunately, these are different from arranged marriages.
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(Original post by Charlybob)
I think it's reasonable to assume that when I said "it wouldn't work for the enlgish", I didn't mean the long dead ones.
ARRANGED (as opposed to FORCED) is alive and kicking today as it has been for centuries, and yes, there are certain levels & degrees as to how arrangements work within different socio-cultural settings.

I'm sure most people who have arranged marriages actually have a say; they can pick 'n' choose. It's probably no different from being introduced to (or being set-up) a partner through a mate, a blind date, a singles club (they are, in varying degrees all 'arranged').
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most of my family (mum, dad, uncles, cousins) have had arranged marriages and it seems to have worked OK for them.
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http://www.newscientist.com/channel/...term-love.html
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For, when chosen marriages have a high fail rate and arranged marriages are a lot more succesful you can't really knock it.
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Some arranged marriages are forced, and some are optional but from what I come to learn it works for some, and it doesn't for others. I don't think anyone here can really criticise what is now predominantly an Eastern 'thing' in favour of the traditional Western way of getting married when we have 50% divorce rates as of late. So, whatever works for you I guess :p:
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There is a difference between arranged and forced marriages. The fact is that many marriages in the UK are still highly arranged, if not by parents, then social circles. Many of us date within a certain social niche, and come to know someone we are with through friends and family. In fact, it would not surprise me if many marriages are mostly engineered within the upper segments of our society, where wealth, power and position must be secured and preserved.
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(Original post by Meus)
I don't think anyone here can really criticise what is now predominantly an Eastern 'thing'
They can if they want. It's called freedom of speech.

Personally, I think marriage is a silly idea. I would hate to grow up in a culture where (potentially) meddling family members would arrange a partner. Call me cynical, but parents don't necessarily know what their children will find attractive in a partner, and could be injecting their own values into the decision.

Also, a high divorce rate is not necessarily a sign of things being wrong, and a low divorce rate is not a sign of things being right. In a situation with high divorce rates, it may be that people who would otherwise be stuck in loveless or even abusive marriages are leaving their spouses. Not being attached to any religious nonsense about marriage, I'd say people leaving loveless marriages is probably a good thing. Perhaps we should get to the point where people stop getting married as a cultural norm. Married people certainly shouldn't be given financial benefits of any kind.
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