Boy keeps messaging me but I have a boyfriend

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pepsimaxcherry
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So this guy keeps messaging me and he’s really sweet and all, but I have a boyfriend and am not interested in this guy.

I have explained to him that I’m in a relationship but all he says is “I will wait for you, don’t worry”. I express that I will not be breaking up with my boyfriend, and even if I did, I would not be interested in him.

I find this kind of creepy? Like if I’ve told him I’m not interested, why is he saying he will wait?

I’ve blocked him before but had to unblock him to ask him to stop messaging my friends because it was making them uncomfortable.

Is this weird? Is he just being nice?

I don’t want to be harsh to him but idrk how to go forward haha!

EDIT - HE HAS BEEN BLOCKED SORRY I FORGOT TO SAY! just wondering if someone has had a similar experience or if I was too harsh?

Thanks for advice
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Block him then.
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How about blocking him and telling your friends to do the same.
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Block him then.
Yeah, I have. Just wondered if someone else has had something similar or if I was being too harsh?
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:erm: block them again and if they contact your friends, suggest to your friends to block them too if they're bothered by it. This is really weird behaviour.
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You could block him and tell your friends to do the same.
Yeah, he’s been blocked. Sorry I should’ve pointed that out! I was just wondering if someone has had something similar or if I was too harsh ahah
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Yeah, I have. Just wondered if someone else has had something similar or if I was being too harsh?
No, you're not being too harsh, he sounds like a little creep.
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:erm: block them again and if they contact your friends, suggest to your friends to block them too if they're bothered by it. This is really weird behaviour.
Thanks for the reply! He’s been blocked (should’ve pointed that out haha) and my friends are starting to block him too!
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No, you're not being too harsh, he sounds like a little creep.
It’s a little bit weird yeah!
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He sounds weird and obsessed.
Can you ask your bf or a guy friend to message him to stop pestering you?
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He sounds weird and obsessed.
Can you ask your bf or a guy friend to message him to stop pestering you?
I would but I’d feel like I’m dragging them into it and I don’t want to make him uncomfortable! I’ve blocked him so I’m hoping this may slow down haha
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Make sure you tell you're boyfriend about it, for relationships to last there must be transparency on both sides.

As for the guy who keeps messaging you, just keep him blocked and tell your friends to block him. If he gets creepier or weirder, you will need to speak to people of authority e.g. the police, university, halls of residence security etc to ensure that you are kept safe
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Make sure you tell you're boyfriend about it, for relationships to last there must be transparency on both sides.

As for the guy who keeps messaging you, just keep him blocked and tell your friends to block him. If he gets creepier or weirder, you will need to speak to people of authority e.g. the police, university, halls of residence security etc to ensure that you are kept safe
Hi! Yes my boyfriend is fully aware of everything and has seen texts and all that. No lies here haha!

He’s blocked and my friends are blocking him too. I’m not sure he’s dangerous or anything, probably just a crush that’s becoming obsessive. But yes, if things get worse I will take the necessary action! Thank you
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How many threads have you started?🙄

All you have to do is block him, which you said. There was no point starting a thread.

This is why people who genuinely need help don’t get any replies
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How many threads have you started?🙄

All you have to do is block him, which you said. There was no point starting a thread.

This is why people who genuinely need help don’t get any replies
And your issue is?

I have made one thread about this topic.

People who genuinely need help do get replies and if you’re so upset about my thread, leave and go respond to those who “genuinely need help”.

I’ve done nothing wrong here, you’re just looking for an issue. Bye
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Hi! Yes my boyfriend is fully aware of everything and has seen texts and all that. No lies here haha!

He’s blocked and my friends are blocking him too. I’m not sure he’s dangerous or anything, probably just a crush that’s becoming obsessive. But yes, if things get worse I will take the necessary action! Thank you
good stuff, if you see this guy in person and he comes and talks to you, you need to make it abundantly clear you want absolutely nothing to do with him, you might think it will sound harsh but he's clearly not getting the message so you need to lay it out real simple for him to understand.

Hopefully you won't need too but just in case
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(Original post by jacobf91)
good stuff, if you see this guy in person and he comes and talks to you, you need to make it abundantly clear you want absolutely nothing to do with him, you might think it will sound harsh but he's clearly not getting the message so you need to lay it out real simple for him to understand.

Hopefully you won't need too but just in case
yeah fingers crossed! it was just odd that he wanted to “wait”. like what haha? but yes, I’m sure I won’t see him and I’m sure things will stop now, but thank you for the advice if it does continue!
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(Original post by pepsimaxcherry)
And your issue is?

I have made one thread about this topic.

People who genuinely need help do get replies and if you’re so upset about my thread, leave and go respond to those who “genuinely need help”.

I’ve done nothing wrong here, you’re just looking for an issue. Bye
But you blocked him so why do you need any more advice?

TSR clout maybe?
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But you blocked him so why do you need any more advice?

TSR clout maybe?
TSR clout? Lmao sure thing bud.

I wanted to see if i was too harsh or if someone had gone through something similar - again, I have done nothing wrong by creating this thread.

Come off anonymous.
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Aww good luck, dw you'll be fine
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