29 year old asking out an 18 year old. Is it right?

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I am a 29 year old guy and I like an 18 year old girl. Despite the age difference, I want to ask her out. Is it wrong to have feelings for a girl that age? I look like a teenager myself and still get ID'd at supermarkets. Would this make it less awkward?
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I am a 29 year old guy and I like an 18 year old girl. Despite the age difference, I want to ask her out. Is it wrong to have feelings for a girl that age? I look like a teenager myself and still get ID'd at supermarkets. Would this make it less awkward?
You have 11 years more life experience and maturity than her, I can't see that being a particularly healthy relationship for either of you...
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I'd only consider it if it was the younger person asking out the older one. The older person should have some self control. Gonna be super awkward and uncomfortable for her if she doesn't like you.
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I am a 29 year old guy and I like an 18 year old girl. Despite the age difference, I want to ask her out. Is it wrong to have feelings for a girl that age? I look like a teenager myself and still get ID'd at supermarkets. Would this make it less awkward?


some people won't like it, but if you waited to get 100% approval before you start dating others you'd never get the 100% approval as there's always going to be someone who objects to the relationship whether it be because you're different religions, same sex, not married, under 21, different race, jealousy.....
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some people won't like it, but if you waited to get 100% approval before you start dating others you'd never get the 100% approval as there's always going to be someone who objects to the relationship whether it be because you're different religions, same sex, not married, under 21, different race, jealousy.....
when i was 26 I was on dating sites. women my own age were ignoring my messages enmass, but several 18 year olds were sending me unsolicited messages. A few women my age sent messages to me unsolicited but they were morbidly obese and also had unattractive faces. I had a choice to make. Date the morbidly obese women who I was not attracted to or start talking to the much younger but legally adult girls who were DM-ing me.

I decided to go with the latter. :dontknow:
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Anyone who thinks it is actively wrong, without knowing anything about the two people involved, is rather small minded.
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The age gap is not wrong.
I only date guys at least 15 years older than me.

Is the girl single, open to dating and giving a positive impression of her personality?
Best to chat with her and make sure that she isn't in a relationship.
Then you will have a better idea of whether there is a chance of mutual interest.
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You're both legaly adults I can't tell you who you can and cannot enter into legal relationships with. But unless you know for sure that she's interested, this is all academic.
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The age gap is not wrong.
I only date guys at least 15 years older than me.

Is the girl single, open to dating and giving a positive impression of her personality?
Best to chat with her and make sure that she isn't in a relationship.
Then you will have a better idea of whether there is a chance of mutual interest.
So far it has been positive. She's always laughing and smiling when we talk.
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U should do it! Life is short and she and u may rlly connect well. I have been there too and yeah some ppl simply want to control ur actions but ur both adults and their opinions truly do not matter at all.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I am a 29 year old guy and I like an 18 year old girl.

You know that its not right, otherwise you wouldn't be here asking questions, so leave the 18 year old alone.
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I am a 29 year old guy and I like an 18 year old girl. Despite the age difference, I want to ask her out. Is it wrong to have feelings for a girl that age? I look like a teenager myself and still get ID'd at supermarkets. Would this make it less awkward?
Just because your older doesn't make you a bad person, the fact you ask implies your not looking to hurt her.
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The fact you're asking shows you care, not that you think it is wrong.
My boyfriend is 17 years older than me and he normally goes for older women. Sometimes, you just click.
Go slow but go for it. You're both adults.
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I'm 29 and like ... there is, in most people, a huge amount of difference between those ages in experience, in life goals, in expectation of what home life might be like, etc. I would absolutely not do this as the start to a proper relationship. The fact that you look young yourself is basically irrelevant wtf? Unless you mean is she more likely to be attracted to someone who looks closer to her age? Which, idk, maybe, maybe not, that's an individual thing.
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You’re both legal adults so there isn’t anything wrong with the age gap. However, you have 11 years on her. That is a massive difference in levels of life experience and possibly maturity. You’re both in different stages of life, she’s going into her twenties which are normally the “care free” years and you’re going into your thirties where society expects you to start settling down.

There’s nothing wrong with you pursuing the relationship, however you need to discuss certain topics such as your future together. You’re in different stages of adulthood, which could hinder the chances of a successful relationship.

You’ve got nothing to lose! Just be cautious that it may not progress how you want it to.
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Can someone explain why in general, men date younger and women date older? I've heard that a man only goes for a really young women when he's too immature for his own age (not judging OP, just what I've heard).
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(Original post by Mhazie)
The fact that you look young yourself is basically irrelevant wtf? Unless you mean is she more likely to be attracted to someone who looks closer to her age? Which, idk, maybe, maybe not, that's an individual thing.
Well yes, that is what I mean. I look like a person within her age group, rather than a guy in his late 20s / early 30s.
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