My friend is flirting with my crush

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before this sounds petty, this friend tends to hook up with boys. A few months ago she hooked up with my friends unofficial boyfriend, which is why i don’t exactly think this is innocent flirting.

She knows i like this guy, and i’m kinda shy and the only single friend left, but everyone thinks me and this guy get along really well and keep saying we would be good together. It seemed like he was starting to like me and I was really excited too. She seems to support it too, but then she flirts with him so much, and clings to him every time we meet up on weekends. She forces herself onto him so much i think he’s starting to like her, and i’m like... crushed lol. When we were alone at a party everyone else left to give us space hoping moves could be made, but she wouldn’t leave it alone at all. I know she doesn’t like him, because my friends have asked several times. She just does it because she’s bored and likes male attention, as she even flirts with my friends boyfriend. I don’t want to confront her about it but I’m also so sad about the whole situation and the fact she’s doing this. Any advice?
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(Original post by sourcorgi)
before this sounds petty, this friend tends to hook up with boys. A few months ago she hooked up with my friends unofficial boyfriend, which is why i don’t exactly think this is innocent flirting.

She knows i like this guy, and i’m kinda shy and the only single friend left, but everyone thinks me and this guy get along really well and keep saying we would be good together. It seemed like he was starting to like me and I was really excited too. She seems to support it too, but then she flirts with him so much, and clings to him every time we meet up on weekends. She forces herself onto him so much i think he’s starting to like her, and i’m like... crushed lol. When we were alone at a party everyone else left to give us space hoping moves could be made, but she wouldn’t leave it alone at all. I know she doesn’t like him, because my friends have asked several times. She just does it because she’s bored and likes male attention, as she even flirts with my friends boyfriend. I don’t want to confront her about it but I’m also so sad about the whole situation and the fact she’s doing this. Any advice?
Have you thought about meeting up with him when she isn't there? x
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Have you thought about meeting up with him when she isn't there? x
I would love to but we hang out as a big group, I cant just stop her from going (especially when she comes out every time, she’s in college so we’re the only time she goes out). She’s pretty much there every time we hang out
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I would love to but we hang out as a big group, I cant just stop her from going (especially when she comes out every time, she’s in college so we’re the only time she goes out). She’s pretty much there every time we hang out
I guess that's difficult but maybe consider talking to him separately and see how he feels about going out alone with you x
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This sort of dating competition is common and unless she’s a good mate you can’t really call her out on it. You just need to press your case harder and think of some strategies to marginalise her influence. Perhaps invite him to something where she is definitely not invited. If he’s interested he’ll see though her blocking strategy and get with you.
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Ye your friends toxic. Known loads of girls like this. She's doing it on purpose because she can't stand not being the center of attention. It's probably going to happen with every new guy you like if you stay friends with her.
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