Dealing with a pathological abuser at work.

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There is a person I have the displeasure of working with. He is utterly hateful, he is not physically intimidating at all, but he is very good at getting under one’s skin.

He routinely makes inappropriate comments including racist remarks and sexual comments.

It is difficult to constantly ignore (and he has been there a lot longer than me, so reporting him would be futile), so I have started countering it by mocking him.

He is a divorcee and his alcoholism is a pretty open secret, so I use these against him.

The problem is that I am worried he might trick me into seeming like the bully, when in actual fact, I am simply verbally defending myself.
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Do your other co-workers know about his behavior? If so, you could all go to the boss or higher up and report him. Other wise I'd try to get proof he is treating you this way. Maybe try to film his behavior or have a friend?
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(Original post by DaysOfNight)
There is a person I have the displeasure of working with. He is utterly hateful, he is not physically intimidating at all, but he is very good at getting under one’s skin.

He routinely makes inappropriate comments including racist remarks and sexual comments.

It is difficult to constantly ignore (and he has been there a lot longer than me, so reporting him would be futile), so I have started countering it by mocking him.

He is a divorcee and his alcoholism is a pretty open secret, so I use these against him.

The problem is that I am worried he might trick me into seeming like the bully, when in actual fact, I am simply verbally defending myself.
You aren't verbally defending yourself though. In your own words you are 'countering it and mocking him'. People can bully each other.

You need to report it, or you are part of the problem.
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