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I made several friends at my first couple weeks at uni, but they all live in the same flat together and hang out every day. I'm the only one in our group that lives in a different flat, so I miss out on a lot.

Since uni is online, I have to spend most of the week in my room in lectures and studying, so there's no opportunity to chat on campus or anything. It's also difficult to make new friends here as socialising is discouraged due to the pandemic.

I feel really lonely everyday. But I don't want to just keep inviting myself around to their flat randomly. It's not their responsibility to invite me around and stop me being lonely, but I feel left out anyway

What should I do?
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(Original post by mimilala)
I made several friends at my first couple weeks at uni, but they all live in the same flat together and hang out every day. I'm the only one in our group that lives in a different flat, so I miss out on a lot.

Since uni is online, I have to spend most of the week in my room in lectures and studying, so there's no opportunity to chat on campus or anything. It's also difficult to make new friends here as socialising is discouraged due to the pandemic.

I feel really lonely everyday. But I don't want to just keep inviting myself around to their flat randomly. It's not their responsibility to invite me around and stop me being lonely, but I feel left out anyway

What should I do?
Hey there! I’ve been struggling myself this year with COVID. It helped me to speak to someone I trusted a lot from a group that all live together and I’m the only one who doesn’t live there. He was really nice and told me I was always welcome to hang out with them and I’m always included. I bet if you spoke to one of them and say how you feel, they’ll be exactly the same!
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I am sure they are quite happy to see you as you are not their flatmate!
Everyone finds these particular weeks 5/6 difficult as the novelty of uni has worn off and new friendships seem frail compared to family and old schoolmates.I agree if you shared your worries your friends would reassure you.
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Thanks for your advice guys! I'm not quite sure how to broach the subject though, as I don't want to make it seem like it's their fault that they don't include me more. I'm usually pretty insecure and terrible at expressing my feelings verbally, and I'm worried about that I'll be encroaching on their flat too much.

I've made some friends on my course as well, but it's difficult to hang out with them due to covid. I just don't want to spend everyday with saying good morning briefly to my flatmates (as nice as they are) being my only human interaction. It seems that all my close friends from back home have found really good social groups at uni and don't seem to want to talk much over the phone any more, which makes me feel even more alone.

In addition I haven't spoken to anyone face to face in two weeks, since I had to isolate due to my flatmates' reckless partying. All my friends seem to have gotten even more tight knit together while I've been stuck alone within the same four walls for 14 days straight.

Sorry for going on a bit, but I guess I've just been going crazy recently. I kind of regret not deferring my uni place for a year now :/
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Thanks for your advice guys! I'm not quite sure how to broach the subject though, as I don't want to make it seem like it's their fault that they don't include me more. I'm usually pretty insecure and terrible at expressing my feelings verbally, and I'm worried about that I'll be encroaching on their flat too much.

I've made some friends on my course as well, but it's difficult to hang out with them due to covid. I just don't want to spend everyday with saying good morning briefly to my flatmates (as nice as they are) being my only human interaction. It seems that all my close friends from back home have found really good social groups at uni and don't seem to want to talk much over the phone any more, which makes me feel even more alone.

In addition I haven't spoken to anyone face to face in two weeks, since I had to isolate due to my flatmates' reckless partying. All my friends seem to have gotten even more tight knit together while I've been stuck alone within the same four walls for 14 days straight.

Sorry for going on a bit, but I guess I've just been going crazy recently. I kind of regret not deferring my uni place for a year now :/
Oh this does sound tough.Are you going to be released from quarantine soon?Tbh everyone seems to have gone a bit quiet on all phones and forums of late possibly because of ever changing situation but I am sure there are some of your friends will be wanting to chat again soon.Re the new friends situation maybe do not over think it.Like I said the people in the other flat will be pleased to see you precisely because you are a fresh face for them.
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Oh this does sound tough.Are you going to be released from quarantine soon?Tbh everyone seems to have gone a bit quiet on all phones and forums of late possibly because of ever changing situation but I am sure there are some of your friends will be wanting to chat again soon.Re the new friends situation maybe do not over think it.Like I said the people in the other flat will be pleased to see you precisely because you are a fresh face for them.
You were right I went to see them when quarantine was over, and everything went well. Things seemed to have ironed themselves out now.
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You were right I went to see them when quarantine was over, and everything went well. Things seemed to have ironed themselves out now.
So pleased. And I do love to be right! :blush:Thanks for the update.
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You were right I went to see them when quarantine was over, and everything went well. Things seemed to have ironed themselves out now.
A that's a relief! You did go through a tough time, but Scotney really was right.
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