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I need some help on deciding whether I should wear the hijab or not. I am 14 years old and I don't want to say I'm wearing the hijab cus when I'm older I may change my mind and I don't want to be put in that position where I wore the hijab when I was younger then I take it off when I am older.
Part of me wants to wear it and try and strengthen my faith yet part of me doesn't want to wear it cus I always get complimented and my hair as its quite thick and naturally very dark and people always say it looks nice when I style it and I really like having my hair down and having it in all these fancy hairstyles at school u know?
Sorry if I sound like Im complaining - as a 14-year-old who really has no experience in wearing the hijab and having no close relatives who wear it I just don't know what to do.
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Hi everyone,
I need some help on deciding whether I should wear the hijab or not. I am 14 years old and I don't want to say I'm wearing the hijab cus when I'm older I may change my mind and I don't want to be put in that position where I wore the hijab when I was younger then I take it off when I am older.
Part of me wants to wear it and try and strengthen my faith yet part of me doesn't want to wear it cus I always get complimented and my hair as its quite thick and naturally very dark and people always say it looks nice when I style it and I really like having my hair down and having it in all these fancy hairstyles at school u know?
Sorry if I sound like Im complaining - as a 14-year-old who really has no experience in wearing the hijab and having no close relatives who wear it I just don't know what to do.
People who may be able to help:
Hellohsjakodsmka
noturhabibti
jellybellyb
Nialler x
SuperiorPotato
H4ttie03
nikkiblonsky
Rufus the red (he will probably be no help but I didnt want to leave him out)
HI zara! first of all I would just like to say that it is entirely up to you whether you want to so dont force anyone to make you wear it!
second of can you tell me of any other reasons you wanna wear it? (not judging btw)
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HI zara! first of all I would just like to say that it is entirely up to you whether you want to so dont force anyone to make you wear it!
second of can you tell me of any other reasons you wanna wear it? (not judging btw)
Hi Nikki!
The first thing you said was literally the exact thing my mosque teacher said to me on Thursday...and I oop-
Don't worry I know ur not judging - I want to wear it as I want to strengthen my faith. I can't really pray as much well I can but it gives me pain due to my arthritis so I thought if I wear it I could strengthen my faith more. Another reason I want to wear it is cus I watch Muslim tik toks hehe and I see all these girls similar and or a bit older than me wearing hijab and they look so nice in it and they have outfits that go really nicely with it and everything and it inspires me to wear it too.
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Hi Nikki!
The first thing you said was literally the exact thing my mosque teacher said to me on Thursday...and I oop-
Don't worry I know ur not judging - I want to wear it as I want to strengthen my faith. I can't really pray as much well I can but it gives me pain due to my arthritis so I thought if I wear it I could strengthen my faith more. Another reason I want to wear it is cus I watch Muslim tik toks hehe and I see all these girls similar and or a bit older than me wearing hijab and they look so nice in it and they have outfits that go really nicely with it and everything and it inspires me to wear it too.
oh ok well all of the reasons sound nice apart from the tiktok one... I get that it looks nice but remember it isnt really seen as an accessory you can just put on and off again(sorry I dont want to lecture you since I know its a big decision) and if it's truly the thing you want to do then I say go for it!
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To be honest it probably won’t strengthen your faith from what I see in your comments, I think you’d be better off not wearing it and strengthening your faith through other means.

Your primary focus seems to be appearance which is fine at your age, just don’t confuse the hijab with clothing accessories aimed to make you look good.
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oh ok well all of the reasons sound nice apart from the tiktok one... I get that it looks nice but remember it isnt really seen as an accessory you can just put on and off again(sorry I dont want to lecture you since I know its a big decision) and if it's truly the thing you want to do then I say go for it!
Thank u for the advice Nikki - much appreciated!
I think I am gonna go for it but I am going to think about a bit more u know

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To be honest it probably won’t strengthen your faith from what I see in your comments, I think you’d be better off not wearing it and strengthening your faith through other means.

Your primary focus seems to be appearance which is fine at your age, just don’t confuse the hijab with clothing accessories aimed to make you look good.
Thank you for your comment - much-appreciated advice.
You say I should strengthen my faith through other means - what kind of things do you mean?
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I do agree with it is much harder to take it off, after you have worn it once. One reason is because you are used to it, another is because of what others will say (and unfortunately they say a lot)

Truth is, any good deed is rewarded and if you start to wear the hijab, for however long you wear it and however long others copy you, you get reward. Ofc, if you take it off, you are exposing your satr (parts required to be covered) and the one thing you do not want is other to copy you.

If you want to wear the hijab or are considering it, you want all the pros and cons. I am sure on this thread you will come to hear of many cons. For the pros, why don't you ask on I-soc? Get a real understanding as to why the hijab is actually worn?

One thing I can point out is that it can be a constant reminder to you about who you are and can stop you doing things that are not befitting for a Muslim. It does help you feel closer to Islam, it's like carrying your own symbol of Islam in a way. It does strengthen your faith when you wear it not to copy but with an understanding of what it is all about.

People tend to say, it's about what is in your heart. It is. But what is in your heart manifests in your appearance, in your speech and talk, in the way you hold yourself outwardly too. This is one way to show that yes you do believe in Islam.

If you do choose to wear it, don't fall into that group of poeple who think they don't need to take care of their hair anymore You may not need to style it as much, but everyone wants healthy good looking hair.

People I know have started off just wearing it full time out of the house, others tried it out a few times to get used to before they made the choice.

Whatever you do, you will always get people who are/aren't happy with your decisions. You need to know and worry about what you should do, not what others think about you.

I think it is really good you are looking at ways to be closer to Islam. Don't just suffice on this though. The more things you do to become close to Islam and God, the closer you will become.

You mentioned you find it hard to pray due to arthiritis? What do you mean by that?
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I do agree with it is much harder to take it off, after you have worn it once. One reason is because you are used to it, another is because of what others will say (and unfortunately they say a lot)

Truth is, any good deed is rewarded and if you start to wear the hijab, for however long you wear it and however long others copy you, you get reward. Ofc, if you take it off, you are exposing your satr (parts required to be covered) and the one thing you do not want is other to copy you.

If you want to wear the hijab or are considering it, you want all the pros and cons. I am sure on this thread you will come to hear of many cons. For the pros, why don't you ask on I-soc? Get a real understanding as to why the hijab is actually worn?

One thing I can point out is that it can be a constant reminder to you about who you are and can stop you doing things that are not befitting for a Muslim. It does help you feel closer to Islam, it's like carrying your own symbol of Islam in a way. It does strengthen your faith when you wear it not to copy but with an understanding of what it is all about.

People tend to say, it's about what is in your heart. It is. But what is in your heart manifests in your appearance, in your speech and talk, in the way you hold yourself outwardly too. This is one way to show that yes you do believe in Islam.

If you do choose to wear it, don't fall into that group of poeple who think they don't need to take care of their hair anymore You may not need to style it as much, but everyone wants healthy good looking hair.

People I know have started off just wearing it full time out of the house, others tried it out a few times to get used to before they made the choice.

Whatever you do, you will always get people who are/aren't happy with your decisions. You need to know and worry about what you should do, not what others think about you.

I think it is really good you are looking at ways to be closer to Islam. Don't just suffice on this though. The more things you do to become close to Islam and God, the closer you will become.

You mentioned you find it hard to pray due to arthiritis? What do you mean by that?
Thank you for your comment - much appreciated.
I understand what you mean.
When I say I find it hard to pray with my arthritis I mean cus you have to sit down and get back up a lot my knees click and half the time I cant get back up and at the end I get really bad pain in the knee joints
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Thank you for your comment - much appreciated.
I understand what you mean.
When I say I find it hard to pray with my arthritis I mean cus you have to sit down and get back up a lot my knees click and half the time I cant get back up and at the end I get really bad pain in the knee joints
I see, you talking about the 5 time salaah.
You know that in Islam, due to arthiritis etc if you find it difficult to bend down and get back up, you can pray sitting on a chair, or sitting on the ground?
You know how to do that?
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Hi everyone,
I need some help on deciding whether I should wear the hijab or not. I am 14 years old and I don't want to say I'm wearing the hijab cus when I'm older I may change my mind and I don't want to be put in that position where I wore the hijab when I was younger then I take it off when I am older.
Part of me wants to wear it and try and strengthen my faith yet part of me doesn't want to wear it cus I always get complimented and my hair as its quite thick and naturally very dark and people always say it looks nice when I style it and I really like having my hair down and having it in all these fancy hairstyles at school u know?
Sorry if I sound like Im complaining - as a 14-year-old who really has no experience in wearing the hijab and having no close relatives who wear it I just don't know what to do.
People who may be able to help:
Hellohsjakodsmka
noturhabibti
jellybellyb
Nialler x
SuperiorPotato
H4ttie03
nikkiblonsky
Rufus the red (he will probably be no help but I didnt want to leave him out)
Salaam

Everything is about intention, wisdom and motivations:
Q1. Who are you wearing it for?
Q2. Why have you been commanded to wear it?
Q3. What relevance does it have to you personally?

I can answer the above from how I'd see this if I were you but ultimately it is down to you...

A1. You are wearing it for Allah, the Loving, the Wise, who has given us guidance because He loves us and wants good for us, and He knows about the strengths and weaknesses of human beings, both apparent and unapparent, better than we know our own selves.

A2. You have been commanded to wear it:
(a) To protect you from the unaverted gazes of men. Hair is attractive and covering it properly (and not fashionably like social media Muslimahs in turbans and such) will reduce how eyecatching you look. Men should lower their gazes but of course not all of them do, so you do what is in your control to mitigate against it.
(b) A constant sign of your modesty is a reminder to yourself and others about Allah. Those who wear Hijab often (though obviously not always) feel more reluctant to sin whilst wearing a Hijab because it makes them feel guilty.
(c) It shows you are a Muslim and you become an example to others.

A3. At the end of the day, life is short, and the only thing that will go to your grave with you will be your deeds - both good and bad. You have no idea how long you have left, and none of us were ever promised a long life; one thing we were promised is that every soul will taste death. We should thus maximise the good we do and try to love and obey Allah as much as we can, and in turn receive His love and mercy.
Given the above answers also, you will only benefit from wearing it, and it is only Shaytan which will encourage you to take it off or discouraging you from wearing it.

May Allah guide you and us all and may He grant you Jannah
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I see, you talking about the 5 time salaah.
You know that in Islam, due to arthiritis etc if you find it difficult to bend down and get back up, you can pray sitting on a chair, or sitting on the ground?
You know how to do that?
Really?! U can do it on a chair or on the ground?
Nope I don't know how to do that - I would want to learn how to do it cus then Im not missing out on salah
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Salaam

Everything if about intention, wisdom and motivations:
Q1. Who are you wearing it for?
Q2. Why have you been commanded to wear it?
Q3. What relevance does it have to you personally?

I can answer the above from how I'd see this if I were you but ultimately it is down to you...

A1. You are wearing it for Allah, the Loving, the Wise, who has given us guidance because He loves us and wants good for us, and He knows about the strengths and weaknesses of human beings, both apparent and unapparent, better than we know our own selves.

A2. You have been commanded to wear it:
(a) To protect you from the unaverted gazes of men. Hair is attractive and covering it properly (and not fashionably like social media Muslimahs in turbans and such) will reduce how eyecatching you look. Men should lower their gazes but of course not all of them do, so you do what is in your control to mitigate against it.
(b) A constant sign of your modesty is a reminder to yourself and others about Allah. Those who wear Hijab often (though obviously not always) feel more reluctant to sin whilst wearing a Hijab because it makes them feel guilty.
(c) It shows you are a Muslim and you become an example to others.

A3. At the end of the day, life is short, and the only thing that will go to your grave with you will be your deeds - both good and bad. You have no idea how long you have left, and none of us were ever promised a long life; one thing we were promised is that every soul will taste death. We should thus maximise the good we do and try to love and obey Allah as much as we can, and in turn receive His love and mercy.
Given the above answers also, you will only benefit from wearing it, and it is only Shaytan which will encourage you to take it off or discouraging you from wearing it.

May Allah guide you and us all and may He grant you Jannah
Wa Alaikum salam,
Thank you for your comment - much appreciated. You have put a lot of Islamic knowledge into this. This is really helpful - again thank you.
May Allah guide you and all of us and may he grant you Jannah as well.
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Wa Alaikum salam,
Thank you for your comment - much appreciated. You have put a lot of Islamic knowledge into this. This is really helpful - again thank you.
May Allah guide you and all of us and may he grant you Jannah as well.
Ameen, thank you

One last thing I would point out to you is that not everyone in this thread will be coming from an Islamic perspective. Atheists, ex-Muslims, liberals etc all have different moral premises to you - what they see as good and bad will not be the same as what a Muslim sees as good and bad, and many do not believe in the Day of Judgement or God. It is up to you whose advice you take but be cognizant of the fact that not everyone will be thinking of your soul and eternal happiness, rather just temporary happiness in this life.
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Really?! U can do it on a chair or on the ground?
Nope I don't know how to do that - I would want to learn how to do it cus then Im not missing out on salah
You do everything the same, except when it comed to ruku (the first bending down) you bend a bit and when it comes to sajdah (the one where you normally put your forehead on the ground) if you are on a chair you bend forward further than in ruku and if you are sitting on the ground you can do it as normal.

If you are sitting on a chair, you can choose to stand and then sit when it comes to doing the things you would normally do when you sit on the ground

Does this make sense?
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You do everything the same, except when it comed to ruku (the first bending down) you bend a bit and when it comes to sajdah (the one where you normally put your forehead on the ground) if you are on a chair you bend forward further than in ruku and if you are sitting on the ground you can do it as normal.

If you are sitting on a chair, you can choose to stand and then sit when it comes to doing the things you would normally do when you sit on the ground

Does this make sense?
that actually makes sense - thank u for telling me this hehe
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that actually makes sense - thank u for telling me this hehe
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If you need more help regarding things, happy to help. If you need, you can PM me.
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Hi everyone,
I need some help on deciding whether I should wear the hijab or not. I am 14 years old and I don't want to say I'm wearing the hijab cus when I'm older I may change my mind and I don't want to be put in that position where I wore the hijab when I was younger then I take it off when I am older.
Part of me wants to wear it and try and strengthen my faith yet part of me doesn't want to wear it cus I always get complimented and my hair as its quite thick and naturally very dark and people always say it looks nice when I style it and I really like having my hair down and having it in all these fancy hairstyles at school u know?
Sorry if I sound like Im complaining - as a 14-year-old who really has no experience in wearing the hijab and having no close relatives who wear it I just don't know what to do.
People who may be able to help:
Hellohsjakodsmka
noturhabibti
jellybellyb
Nialler x
SuperiorPotato
H4ttie03
nikkiblonsky
Rufus the red (he will probably be no help but I didnt want to leave him out)
Heyyyyy Zara wearing a hijab is something v personal I think and it's up to u if you want to wear it or not. As well you shouldnt feel like anyone is going to force you to wear it or not
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Heyyyyy Zara wearing a hijab is something v personal I think and it's up to u if you want to wear it or not.
As well you shouldnt feel like anyone is going to force you to wear it or not
Hi Hattie! :hugs:
Yh true it is something very personal.
That's the thing my mosque teacher said to me when I was talking to her about it on Thursday - she kept telling me no one should force me to wear it.
Thank you for your advice Hattie - very helpful
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Hi Hattie! :hugs:
Yh true it is something very personal.
That's the thing my mosque teacher said to me when I was talking to her about it on Thursday - she kept telling me no one should force me to wear it.
Thank you for your advice Hattie - very helpful
Yeah definitely and remember theres no rush to decide, you've got plenty of time
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