I dont like that my boyfriend smokes weed so much.Watch
Anyway, it's better if you speak to him about it. Raise your concerns (again).
Personally drugs is something I would dump someone for in an instant. Especially if I raised my concerns and they brushed them off like this guy has done. Unfortunately things like this, someone can only change for themselves. If it bothers you I would consider finding someone who has more like values as you, ie someone that doesnt smoke and drink.
Either way, this is a decision only you can make depending on whether you can tolerate him blazing away. It might be worth considering that this is just a 'phase' though, especially given the dubious influence of his mum so trying to get him away from that might help?
All being said though, you're within your rights to not want to be with a stoner though, nothing wrong with taking that view.
U admit u have done the same xact thing with him too....
I scanned ur post for the more customary specific issues triggered by his weed use with Mama and u didn't mention any (lack of capacity and drive in normal life; inability to satisfy u in bed etc). So if it's general unease y make this into a monster deal? Let's be real. Ppl need to find room in rels. Partners just don't do ALL things the way WE WANT them to. That's not rl life. In some Disney fantasy maybe... we all need to lrn to accommodate ppl being real.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and 6months now, and he recently started smoking a lot of weed. It's been like this for over 2 months now, and i think his mom coming back into the picture is a reason for it. She is super pressuring when she asks him to smoke weed WITH her, and it is super weird. I told him I didn't like it, and it makes me super unhappy. And I'm not even against it fully, me and him have smoked weed together a couple of times to have fun, but like we would go months without it. It was just extremely rare. I'm against him doing it so much because I wanted to be with someone who is mostly sober, and didn't drink a lot or smoke, because I grew up with my mom on drugs and her boyfriend's drinking, and I always told myself when I was older it would be different, and now it feels like its the same way again, and I'll have to live with it all over again. He knows about this too, and i've tried to get it through to him, he said he is going to stop smoking so much, but I'm not sure. And I don't know if I'm asking him for too much, or if it's dumb I should even me upset about it, or if I should leave him if he doesn't actually stop smoking it so much. I love him alot, and I really wanted to be with him. It feels like as soon as his mom came back everything changed..
I would have another conversation about it and tell him that you don't want to be with someone smoking all the time. If he carries on he is not right for you as he is selfish. And his mother is a piece of work - very weird.