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Yana la
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So my husband with whom I have 2 children started uni this year, he started chating on whats up with this fellow student saying I' ll make you my work buddy, then he had a joke about errection , well he is studying cardiac physiology and at the end he went to lend a book to the lidrary where he complimented her , I am not sure if I am over the top with my insecurity, or would it be classed as cheating. P.S. He cheated before and we had no sex for more than a month no, he doesnt ckmpliment me. What would you guys think. He is very charming lier.
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On its own, this isn't cheating. It may make you uncomfortable, as it would me, but it isn't enough to be classed as cheating in my view. However, based on your comment about his history, I think there's reason to be concerned. Pull him up on it and have a talk about respecting boundaries, and perhaps ask him if there's anything going on. If there is, you may want to take further action.
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I think this is a perfect example of trashy Britishness.
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(Original post by Yana la)
So my husband with whom I have 2 children started uni this year, he started chating on whats up with this fellow student saying I' ll make you my work buddy, then he had a joke about errection , well he is studying cardiac physiology and at the end he went to lend a book to the lidrary where he complimented her , I am not sure if I am over the top with my insecurity, or would it be classed as cheating. P.S. He cheated before and we had no sex for more than a month no, he doesnt ckmpliment me. What would you guys think. He is very charming lier.
Tricky one. Like the previous post has said, talk to him about it.
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It's up to every couple to decide what the acceptable boundaries are in their relationship. If you're not sure, discuss it with them and explain that it's made you feel a bit uncomfortable.
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(Original post by JustOneMoreThing)
I think his is a perfect example of trashy Britishness.
Lol its trashy Zimbabwean 42 year old must be midlife crisis
(Original post by Admit-One)
It's up to every couple to decide what the acceptable boundaries are in their relationship. If you're not sure, discuss it with them and explain that it's made you feel a bit uncomfortable.
Talk is he is talking, but what if I am given the silent treatment? I am afraid to think of divorce as I have 2 children, but he was born a liar high value man would never do that, he would never admit anything, he doesn't even feel guilty, if something it would be me to blame for finding it out.
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I don't think that it is cheating until there is intimate physical sexual contact.
But still vulgar and highly unpleasant conduct.

That said, I've had to work with quite a few guys who habitually made crude comments like this; viewing their behaviour as either that of a creepy jerk or the start of sexual harassment by a pervert capable of restraining their hands & feet from earning them a place on the sexual offenders register.
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(Original post by Yana la)
Talk is he is talking, but what if I am given the silent treatment?
I can't really answer this, as I would expect a grown man to be able to discuss with their partner how they were feeling, rather than gaslighting them and trying to make them feel bad for raising it, (IE making it the upset persons fault, rather than his behaviour).

Obviously your situation is complex, but this person has cheated on your and is now flirting with people, so trying to make you feel bad about it seems like a garbage response from them.
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(Original post by JustOneMoreThing)
I think this is a perfect example of trashy Britishness.
What's trashy britishness?
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(Original post by JustOneMoreThing)
I think this is a perfect example of trashy Britishness.
Yeah, no one in any other country or of any other race does things like this. Just doesn't happen!
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Yeah, no one in any other country or of any other race does things like this. Just doesn't happen!
I just blame it on men 🤣🤣
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Yeah, no one in any other country or of any other race does things like this. Just doesn't happen!
You’re wrong actually, it does happen in other countries, my comment wasn’t something to be taken at face value.

This is just something you see every now and then in Britain, it could very well be on an episode of coronation street, hence my comment.
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