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Left me for his ex...now wants to come back??
Hi, keep anon.
Basically I was seeing a guy for about a month everything was great. Then his ex who he was with for about 7months came back into the picture and she tried to get back with him.
I can tell he was acting weird with me, so asked him whats going on, he was honest said his ex is talking to him a lot these days. He said he was confused and his head is all over the place. So I said fine let's end this between me and you and he was like you seem so eager to. And I said it's not that..but i'd rather not be with someone who still has there head some where else. Both agreed. Ended it. Still friends....though my friends think I'm an idiot for even still speaking to him?? what do you think?
Btw to note his ex left him before because she cheated on him with someone else and he still took her bad. So he told me he got back with her (but not officially b/f and g/f).
Anyhoo...the other day he was out and obivously drunk and txt me a couple of times saying I should be there and he's thinking of me. I was a bit shocked, I still kind of like him btw but I got too much pride to go back to him after he left me for his ex. So I didn't txt back. My friend did and said I couldn't be botherd to txt back. After that haven't really spoken to him..other than online when he asked why my friend txt him that. I think he kind of got the impression I wasn't bothered.
I don't know weather I should talk to him? or just leave it? I don't mind being friends. But do you think he deserves my friendship after that?
Basically I was seeing a guy for about a month everything was great. Then his ex who he was with for about 7months came back into the picture and she tried to get back with him.
I can tell he was acting weird with me, so asked him whats going on, he was honest said his ex is talking to him a lot these days. He said he was confused and his head is all over the place. So I said fine let's end this between me and you and he was like you seem so eager to. And I said it's not that..but i'd rather not be with someone who still has there head some where else. Both agreed. Ended it. Still friends....though my friends think I'm an idiot for even still speaking to him?? what do you think?
Btw to note his ex left him before because she cheated on him with someone else and he still took her bad. So he told me he got back with her (but not officially b/f and g/f).
Anyhoo...the other day he was out and obivously drunk and txt me a couple of times saying I should be there and he's thinking of me. I was a bit shocked, I still kind of like him btw but I got too much pride to go back to him after he left me for his ex. So I didn't txt back. My friend did and said I couldn't be botherd to txt back. After that haven't really spoken to him..other than online when he asked why my friend txt him that. I think he kind of got the impression I wasn't bothered.
I don't know weather I should talk to him? or just leave it? I don't mind being friends. But do you think he deserves my friendship after that?
well he was with her for a little while.. and when someone like that suddenly comes back into your life, it can be a right mess. You did the right thing in ending it with him..Maybe after seeing his ex he has realised that no, hes not missing out, and that he likes you more. Dont be too off-ish with him.. if you still like him abit, then surely its worth being friendly to him anyway?
Speaking from experience, I would not have anything to do with him.
I got mixed up in the same thing with an ex. He left me for his ex. A few months later he gets in touch with me, giving me general chit chat and I respond. After a few days of general chit chat txts he says he still wants to be with me. I get used to having him back in my life again and I go back with him only for him to leave me for his ex again. This happens repeatedly until I finally wake up and realise that he only txts me when things are going crap with her. And his his way of getting himself back in my life is to send me friendly txts which get me thinking about him again. I finally walked away from him by never responding to his txts and totally deleting him from my life. I spent 8 years of my life in that stupid situation with him.
I went on to see another guy who left me for his ex. He crawled back and I took him back only for him to go back to his ex again. That was a lesson learned not to ever do it again.
Then a few months ago I got involved with a guy who seemed lovely. Then last week he dropped the bombshell (well I should've expected it!) that he was going back to his ex!!!
He will at some point come crawling back but I shall not be giving this one a second chance. When he txts me (which he will do), intend on sending him a txt back saying I don't know who they are as I don't have their no in my phone.
If I could give you one bit of advice, don't waste your time on men who you know aren't right for you. If a man is truely right for you he will want to be with you 100%, no other girl could tempt him away. You will never trust him again not to do the same thing and what is the point in having a friend that you don't trust? In my experience if you go back with an ex you spend your time worrying that they'll leave you again. I also find that men who go back to their ex's never last with them as they (after the few months honeymoon period - usually 2 months) realise why that person became their ex in the first place.
I got mixed up in the same thing with an ex. He left me for his ex. A few months later he gets in touch with me, giving me general chit chat and I respond. After a few days of general chit chat txts he says he still wants to be with me. I get used to having him back in my life again and I go back with him only for him to leave me for his ex again. This happens repeatedly until I finally wake up and realise that he only txts me when things are going crap with her. And his his way of getting himself back in my life is to send me friendly txts which get me thinking about him again. I finally walked away from him by never responding to his txts and totally deleting him from my life. I spent 8 years of my life in that stupid situation with him.
I went on to see another guy who left me for his ex. He crawled back and I took him back only for him to go back to his ex again. That was a lesson learned not to ever do it again.
Then a few months ago I got involved with a guy who seemed lovely. Then last week he dropped the bombshell (well I should've expected it!) that he was going back to his ex!!!
He will at some point come crawling back but I shall not be giving this one a second chance. When he txts me (which he will do), intend on sending him a txt back saying I don't know who they are as I don't have their no in my phone.
If I could give you one bit of advice, don't waste your time on men who you know aren't right for you. If a man is truely right for you he will want to be with you 100%, no other girl could tempt him away. You will never trust him again not to do the same thing and what is the point in having a friend that you don't trust? In my experience if you go back with an ex you spend your time worrying that they'll leave you again. I also find that men who go back to their ex's never last with them as they (after the few months honeymoon period - usually 2 months) realise why that person became their ex in the first place.
This is a complicated love story. However, I think he got with you when he wasn't really over this girl. Just move on. It's okay to still be friends because he didn't do anything bad like cheat, but you shouldn't be that close to him either since he did drop you for this girl.
Im in a similar situation including an ex coming back, and he didnt tell me - she did. He was with her for nearly a year and they didnt really end on good terms, it was nearly a year ago they broke up and they hadnt really spoken since. He told me one thursday (our 4 months) that she had messaged him on facebook on the sunday before and the talking continued on msn but thats all he told me, he begged for my forgiveness for even talking to her. The next day she told me he had gone to meet her on the monday and that he took her to lunch and to the cinema and even to ann summers. He kissed her and told her he loved her and that he wanted to be with her again, that night he came to mine and acted completely normal. I broke up with him straight away when i found out but he didnt let me go, he said he made a mistake and that talking to her confused him about the feelings he used to have for her but he now realised that it was me he loved - not her. He stopped talking to her after telling her it was a mistake and that she wasnt worth loosing me for and that he didnt love her, then blocked and deleted her from everything and said he never wants to talk to her ever again. It's been 3 weeks now and ive still been seeing him - he's brought me flowers and chocolate and took me to the cinema and all that, and he's been trying to make things better everytime since. But i never would have thought anything like this would ever have happened - we had discussed his ex before and he said i had nothing to worry about, he always said "i would never cheat on you" and he cheated on me - with his ex. Quite possibly the worst case scenario I think... I do love him and we have fun together and we laugh together and we have a good relationship - but im wondering if id ever be able to trust him again, will i ever be able to get over the betrayal? It's so hard because i don't want to let him go - he's perfect for me, we get on so well. But i can't understand why he would do this to me if he says he loves me and cares about me and says im the most important thing in his life, he promises he would never do anything like this again. He said he's felt so low because of what hes done hes thought that everone would be better of if he was dead. Can someone do something this bad and be sincere in not doing it again? He lied to me, he cheated on me, and it hurts. Any advice? An outsiders point of view?
Thanks.
Thanks.
That's gotta be a hell no.
Original post by Grung3bae
Dont do it, it hurts more the second time around... nothing's worse than reopening a old wound.
Original post by vexed1234
Stay away from people like those,
they are the reason my sister's a single mum with mental issues at 20, whilst being a happy uni student 2 years ago.
they are the reason my sister's a single mum with mental issues at 20, whilst being a happy uni student 2 years ago.
Christ almighty, this thread is 10 years old!!!
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, keep anon.
Basically I was seeing a guy for about a month everything was great. Then his ex who he was with for about 7months came back into the picture and she tried to get back with him.
I can tell he was acting weird with me, so asked him whats going on, he was honest said his ex is talking to him a lot these days. He said he was confused and his head is all over the place. So I said fine let's end this between me and you and he was like you seem so eager to. And I said it's not that..but i'd rather not be with someone who still has there head some where else. Both agreed. Ended it. Still friends....though my friends think I'm an idiot for even still speaking to him?? what do you think?
Btw to note his ex left him before because she cheated on him with someone else and he still took her bad. So he told me he got back with her (but not officially b/f and g/f).
Anyhoo...the other day he was out and obivously drunk and txt me a couple of times saying I should be there and he's thinking of me. I was a bit shocked, I still kind of like him btw but I got too much pride to go back to him after he left me for his ex. So I didn't txt back. My friend did and said I couldn't be botherd to txt back. After that haven't really spoken to him..other than online when he asked why my friend txt him that. I think he kind of got the impression I wasn't bothered.
I don't know weather I should talk to him? or just leave it? I don't mind being friends. But do you think he deserves my friendship after that?
Basically I was seeing a guy for about a month everything was great. Then his ex who he was with for about 7months came back into the picture and she tried to get back with him.
I can tell he was acting weird with me, so asked him whats going on, he was honest said his ex is talking to him a lot these days. He said he was confused and his head is all over the place. So I said fine let's end this between me and you and he was like you seem so eager to. And I said it's not that..but i'd rather not be with someone who still has there head some where else. Both agreed. Ended it. Still friends....though my friends think I'm an idiot for even still speaking to him?? what do you think?
Btw to note his ex left him before because she cheated on him with someone else and he still took her bad. So he told me he got back with her (but not officially b/f and g/f).
Anyhoo...the other day he was out and obivously drunk and txt me a couple of times saying I should be there and he's thinking of me. I was a bit shocked, I still kind of like him btw but I got too much pride to go back to him after he left me for his ex. So I didn't txt back. My friend did and said I couldn't be botherd to txt back. After that haven't really spoken to him..other than online when he asked why my friend txt him that. I think he kind of got the impression I wasn't bothered.
I don't know weather I should talk to him? or just leave it? I don't mind being friends. But do you think he deserves my friendship after that?
The exact same thing happened to me
Got back with his ex during us being together, then we end it, I have gotten the cold shoulder from him but funnily enough he try to act besties with my best friends and has even started to constantly text one of them. What a great guyOriginal post by Anonymous
Hi, keep anon.
Basically I was seeing a guy for about a month everything was great. Then his ex who he was with for about 7months came back into the picture and she tried to get back with him.
I can tell he was acting weird with me, so asked him whats going on, he was honest said his ex is talking to him a lot these days. He said he was confused and his head is all over the place. So I said fine let's end this between me and you and he was like you seem so eager to. And I said it's not that..but i'd rather not be with someone who still has there head some where else. Both agreed. Ended it. Still friends....though my friends think I'm an idiot for even still speaking to him?? what do you think?
Btw to note his ex left him before because she cheated on him with someone else and he still took her bad. So he told me he got back with her (but not officially b/f and g/f).
Anyhoo...the other day he was out and obivously drunk and txt me a couple of times saying I should be there and he's thinking of me. I was a bit shocked, I still kind of like him btw but I got too much pride to go back to him after he left me for his ex. So I didn't txt back. My friend did and said I couldn't be botherd to txt back. After that haven't really spoken to him..other than online when he asked why my friend txt him that. I think he kind of got the impression I wasn't bothered.
I don't know weather I should talk to him? or just leave it? I don't mind being friends. But do you think he deserves my friendship after that?
Basically I was seeing a guy for about a month everything was great. Then his ex who he was with for about 7months came back into the picture and she tried to get back with him.
I can tell he was acting weird with me, so asked him whats going on, he was honest said his ex is talking to him a lot these days. He said he was confused and his head is all over the place. So I said fine let's end this between me and you and he was like you seem so eager to. And I said it's not that..but i'd rather not be with someone who still has there head some where else. Both agreed. Ended it. Still friends....though my friends think I'm an idiot for even still speaking to him?? what do you think?
Btw to note his ex left him before because she cheated on him with someone else and he still took her bad. So he told me he got back with her (but not officially b/f and g/f).
Anyhoo...the other day he was out and obivously drunk and txt me a couple of times saying I should be there and he's thinking of me. I was a bit shocked, I still kind of like him btw but I got too much pride to go back to him after he left me for his ex. So I didn't txt back. My friend did and said I couldn't be botherd to txt back. After that haven't really spoken to him..other than online when he asked why my friend txt him that. I think he kind of got the impression I wasn't bothered.
I don't know weather I should talk to him? or just leave it? I don't mind being friends. But do you think he deserves my friendship after that?
if you still like him, It's not too bad if you still wanna be friends with him. As long as you will know where you stand and know your boundaries then you're good.
If you find him worthy of the chance then give it to him. He made mistakes and he just proved to himself that you are the person that he loves.
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