Is it uncommon for men not to have any interest in sex?

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I'm a 22yr old guy whose never had sex but masturbated. Even then, it only took me until 2 years ago to start. I didn't grow up in a religious household or get abused, I just had no interest. Even now, I find it disappointing.

Many of my male friends say that this is weird and since the sex drive is highest during ones teens/twenties so I should have an interest in sex/masturbation. There's only one male friend that is like me, who says he's a grey-asexual/asexual.

I've searched this up and it seems a lack of interest in sex/masturbation is way more common in women than men.

Are any other guys on TSR like me?
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I’m Ace and either Biromantic or Aromantic. I’ve known since I was just starting uni.

It’s definitely not that common and probably is more common in women but maybe because how people normally think of it men are less likely to be honest about it.
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Yeah I think so. This sit is not as rare as pop culture would have u believe. The "conventional wisdom" asserts women aren't as sexual....but that's not "wisdom" that's just ideology. Then, lets be real girls get no social cred from saying yeah I've banged a hundred dudes whereas among the macho groups dudes r xalted for this kind of knowledge, confidence and xperience.

Still, women **** (and cheat) a ton more than anyone wants to admit. So there's tons of wat sociologists call "reporting bias" in these surveys; underreporting of sexual activity by females, overreporting and fantasy by males; hidden affairs by women, revealed affairs by men; watering down of girly kink habits, exaggeration of dude kink etc.

As for reality, well I have not met any male whose sex drive matches mine except for my master. It's not a huge deal but it's for real.

Master has met a lot of attached women and the only common factor was that they were all successful in hiding their extra-curriculars from their hubs/bfs/partners. The dudes oth do truly dumb things and often blow it all up.

Just one note; women are not v tolerant of sexual incompatibility. If ur drive is much less than hers, then u absolutely will need to find an arrangement that works for the longer term. Not saying she can't love u for who u are indeed very probable coz u don't seem to be a jackass about this.
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same. while i do masturbate, i do it more out of boredom and not like "omg i am feeling really horny let me masturbate to release the tension". so i will only spend like maximum half an hour doing it and that's all, move on.

i'm 17, and i am pretty sure other 17 y/os are not like this. that's why i'm floating the idea of asexuality, although the sexual attraction is towards other guys (i mean, i watch gay porn) but the actual urges are not very strong at all. yes i might find a guy good looking but really that's all
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ya like above and master said

men over-report

women under-report

but yes it is uncommon to have no interest in sex, since it is one of our most fundamental urges

bit like saying is it uncommon to not be interested in food
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Consider it a blessing. Having a high sex drive is horrible lol. Especially if you end up with a partner who has a low sex drive.
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(Original post by tashkent46)
ya like above and master said

men over-report

women under-report

but yes it is uncommon to have no interest in sex, since it is one of our most fundamental urges

bit like saying is it uncommon to not be interested in food
To be honest, I don't agree. Though the sex drive is very strong, I don't think it can be comoared to food. Without food, water, shelter, you die. I'd say even human contact while not necessarily a need for function will drive one insane. I remember the terrorist Ramzi Yousef saying that he was going insane being in a maximum security prison for so long with no contact for 20+ years.

I also know that the sex drive comes during teen years. I had a happy childhood before my sex drive and still after, but I never felt like I was missing out on anything. Compare that to human contact which I don't think I've ever gone without in my life.
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same. while i do masturbate, i do it more out of boredom and not like "omg i am feeling really horny let me masturbate to release the tension". so i will only spend like maximum half an hour doing it and that's all, move on.

i'm 17, and i am pretty sure other 17 y/os are not like this. that's why i'm floating the idea of asexuality, although the sexual attraction is towards other guys (i mean, i watch gay porn) but the actual urges are not very strong at all. yes i might find a guy good looking but really that's all
I'm 15 and a girl and you're so right! I've tried it but it doesn't do anything for me :// like I feel it but it's just boring??? everyone else dates but I feel like nobody is 'hot' ( I'd love a boyfriend but nobody would understand how I feel...
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