One thing I'd like to say
I WISH I COULD PHYSICALLY KNOCK SOME SENSE INTO YOUR JERK, EXCUSE ME, BOYFRIENDS HEAD!
Education can help. Not for the recidivists coz they will do what they do anyway. But for the mass of moderate ppl who see certain things happening nad when it gets called out firmly, they take more of a stand themselves and set the bar higher for those around them. This is how we change things constructively and permanently.