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so I really want a relationship and sex. I don't masturbate or watch porn as it doesn't do anything for me. I've never dated before as I don't click with people. I mean my personality is odd. and I don't find anyone attractive. I really want a boyfriend though:// I just don't understand what's wrong? like they need to be attractive. but nobody is attractive to me. it's like I can see that they are conventionally hot. but to me it doesn't matter??? idk://
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so I really want a relationship and sex. I don't masturbate or watch porn as it doesn't do anything for me. I've never dated before as I don't click with people. I mean my personality is odd. and I don't find anyone attractive. I really want a boyfriend though:// I just don't understand what's wrong? like they need to be attractive. but nobody is attractive to me. it's like I can see that they are conventionally hot. but to me it doesn't matter??? idk://
I mean its not uncommon to not watch porn or masturbate, i mean I dont either. And clicking with people is something a lot of people arent able to do so you shouldnt think of it as a reason why you cant have a bf. Besides lots of guys like a quirky girl, shows youre fun to be around. There is nothing witchu, you just havent found someone who makes that spark in you ignite. Ahh youre more the 'no lust, all love' kinda gal.
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I mean its not uncommon to not watch porn or masturbate, i mean I dont either. And clicking with people is something a lot of people arent able to do so you shouldnt think of it as a reason why you cant have a bf. Besides lots of guys like a quirky girl, shows youre fun to be around. There is nothing witchu, you just havent found someone who makes that spark in you ignite. Ahh youre more the 'no lust, all love' kinda gal.
omg yes the last part is true!! thanks dude )
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so I really want a relationship and sex. I don't masturbate or watch porn as it doesn't do anything for me. I've never dated before as I don't click with people. I mean my personality is odd. and I don't find anyone attractive. I really want a boyfriend though:// I just don't understand what's wrong? like they need to be attractive. but nobody is attractive to me. it's like I can see that they are conventionally hot. but to me it doesn't matter??? idk://
You've got a low libido. Asexuals have normal libidos.
Having a low libido in the long term can actually be indicative of physical or mental illness.
Do you feel like you can't 'click' with anyone or is it just prospective sexual partners? If so, I doubt that your aromantic.
I assume that your very young. Your still developing and finding your identity.

I suggest that you disguss this with a sympathetic GP.
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omg yes the last part is true!! thanks dude )
No worriesss I get you completely like im more or less the same so I kinda speak from experience nglll
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so I really want a relationship and sex. I don't masturbate or watch porn as it doesn't do anything for me. I've never dated before as I don't click with people. I mean my personality is odd. and I don't find anyone attractive. I really want a boyfriend though:// I just don't understand what's wrong? like they need to be attractive. but nobody is attractive to me. it's like I can see that they are conventionally hot. but to me it doesn't matter??? idk://
a fellow aro/ace here - so I just want to start off by saying sexuality is very fluid and it is a spectrum. So you don't have to completely identify with a poster-child version of an aro/ace. For instance, I identify as an asexual, but I'm figuring out where I am on the spectrum of an aromantic. You don't have to have to all figured out immediately! It takes time and that's fine too. I'd look up different forms of asexuality, for instance a demisexual or aceflux! Here is a great place to see where you fit in: https://www.glaad.org/amp/ace-guide-...your-community

Once again, it takes time and you don't have to self identify with anything yet if you are still figuring out. Have fun on the journey!
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You've got a low libido. Asexuals have normal libidos.
Having a low libido in the long term can actually be indicative of physical or mental illness.
Do you feel like you can't 'click' with anyone or is it just prospective sexual partners? If so, I doubt that your aromantic.
I assume that your very young. Your still developing and finding your identity.

I suggest that you disguss this with a sympathetic GP.
can't click with anyone. and I don't think that I have a low libido but idk. I'm 15 lol I don't think so cus most people my age date and even have sex sometimes...
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No worriesss I get you completely like im more or less the same so I kinda speak from experience nglll
ahh nice dude
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Compared to u guys I know I am a sex maniac lol! But seriously ur feelings may develop more suddenly. If u r young, then u can protect urself unconsciously from ur own developing sex drive. Somehow the mind knows it's not time for u to xpress it. Buuut, at some moment, things can change real fast and it can depend on who's around u... if u meet new and interesting ppl then u might find ur desire opens up and u want things that

Not saying for sure. It may not. But just giving u perspective. When I learned how to masturbate yrs ago when I was quite young I was like ho hum...nice but not essential. Suddenly when I got to 15 I felt wild urge to do it all the time and I started looking at dudes in a rlly different way...luckily things went well for me at 16 but my point is, it can change on u rl fast.
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Compared to u guys I know I am a sex maniac lol! But seriously ur feelings may develop more suddenly. If u r young, then u can protect urself unconsciously from ur own developing sex drive. Somehow the mind knows it's not time for u to xpress it. Buuut, at some moment, things can change real fast and it can depend on who's around u... if u meet new and interesting ppl then u might find ur desire opens up and u want things that

Not saying for sure. It may not. But just giving u perspective. When I learned how to masturbate yrs ago when I was quite young I was like ho hum...nice but not essential. Suddenly when I got to 15 I felt wild urge to do it all the time and I started looking at dudes in a rlly different way...luckily things went well for me at 16 but my point is, it can change on u rl fast.
I am 15 though haha
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I was 15 when my feelings changed and I had strong urges to act on them.
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