Boyfriend is a disgusting people pleaser.

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My boyfriend likes to please everyone all the time he is such a people pleaser. It’s a good thing he’s kind and open to helping everyone out but it’s getting too much . I don’t live with him but I live about 10 mins away.

He’s always allowing people to stay when they need to or when they ask and he has a lot of friends that are girls( which I’ve met) this one girl is a artist and me and her kinda fell out due to miscommunication but I don’t like her and my bf said she can do her music video in his house because he has a penthouse and it’s just pissing me off seeing it on his social media.

To make matters worse, my bf does have an issue with me not cleaning his house but then you want to invite so many people over. Why would I clean up after them? ( he don’t ask to clean after them but if It’s couple days later I’m sure there mess will still be there)

Is this a good enough excuse to leave him? What do I do? I honestly am SO PUT OFF AT HIS PEOPLE PLEASING.
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Hmmmmmm interesting... I'd love to take you out for dinner
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My boyfriend likes to please everyone all the time he is such a people pleaser. It’s a good thing he’s kind and open to helping everyone out but it’s getting too much . I don’t live with him but I live about 10 mins away.

He’s always allowing people to stay when they need to or when they ask and he has a lot of friends that are girls( which I’ve met) this one girl is a artist and me and her kinda fell out due to miscommunication but I don’t like her and my bf said she can do her music video in his house because he has a penthouse and it’s just pissing me off seeing it on his social media.

To make matters worse, my bf does have an issue with me not cleaning his house but then you want to invite so many people over. Why would I clean up after them? ( he don’t ask to clean after them but if It’s couple days later I’m sure there mess will still be there)

Is this a good enough excuse to leave him? What do I do? I honestly am SO PUT OFF AT HIS PEOPLE PLEASING.
Hmmmmmm interesting... I'd love to take you out for dinner
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(Original post by Anonymous)
My boyfriend likes to please everyone all the time he is such a people pleaser. It’s a good thing he’s kind and open to helping everyone out but it’s getting too much . I don’t live with him but I live about 10 mins away.

He’s always allowing people to stay when they need to or when they ask and he has a lot of friends that are girls( which I’ve met) this one girl is a artist and me and her kinda fell out due to miscommunication but I don’t like her and my bf said she can do her music video in his house because he has a penthouse and it’s just pissing me off seeing it on his social media.

To make matters worse, my bf does have an issue with me not cleaning his house but then you want to invite so many people over. Why would I clean up after them? ( he don’t ask to clean after them but if It’s couple days later I’m sure there mess will still be there)

Is this a good enough excuse to leave him? What do I do? I honestly am SO PUT OFF AT HIS PEOPLE PLEASING.
Same thing happened to me, my boyfriend used to be like that inviting people over and he has more girl friends than boys and I talked to them thinking they were pretty cool and I come to his house one day seeing him kiss one of the girls. It's clearly frustrating you and your boyfriend is such an idiot to ask you to clean up the house, so sis leave his ASS. It's better to do it now then to see the consequence later
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LOOOOL the title of this thread made me LOL
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Hmmmmmm interesting... I'd love to take you out for dinner
Hmmmmmm interesting... I'd love to take you out for dinner
Lmfao.
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Hmmmmmm interesting... I'd love to take you out for dinner Hmmmmmm interesting... I'd love to take you out for dinner
An anon love story part 3...
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First world problems
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Personally, I just think you’re insecure, get over it or break up... he can have friends that are girls, he wants to do good things for his friends. Do u not do that or are u a bad friend?
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Perhaps u need to have lots of friends who r boys and invite them over for a Snap/IG session at urs....
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Is this a good enough excuse to leave him? What do I do? I honestly am SO PUT OFF AT HIS PEOPLE PLEASING.
You don't need to justify leaving him to anyone other than yourself.
The bold part makes me think that you want to leave him. If so, just do it.
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Why does he make you clean his house?
I wouldnt want to be with anyone who couldnt even clean up after themselves in their own home. They seem helpless.
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Hmmmmmm interesting... I'd love to take you out for dinner
Hmmmmmm interesting... I'd love to take you out for dinner
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(Original post by Anonymous)
My boyfriend likes to please everyone all the time he is such a people pleaser. It’s a good thing he’s kind and open to helping everyone out but it’s getting too much . I don’t live with him but I live about 10 mins away.

He’s always allowing people to stay when they need to or when they ask and he has a lot of friends that are girls( which I’ve met) this one girl is a artist and me and her kinda fell out due to miscommunication but I don’t like her and my bf said she can do her music video in his house because he has a penthouse and it’s just pissing me off seeing it on his social media.

To make matters worse, my bf does have an issue with me not cleaning his house but then you want to invite so many people over. Why would I clean up after them? ( he don’t ask to clean after them but if It’s couple days later I’m sure there mess will still be there)

Is this a good enough excuse to leave him? What do I do? I honestly am SO PUT OFF AT HIS PEOPLE PLEASING.
ngl Im a people pleaser as well and tbh your boyfriend seems nice for being kind and open but it seems like he is taking it a bit far if you know what I mean - like he has a lot of friends who are girls and that's nice that he has lots of friends but if it makes you seem left out then you should tell him how you feel.
I really suggest telling your boyfriend how you feel - with the cleaning up bit, it seems like you are doing stuff for him that you shouldn't be doing. The people who make the mess should be cleaning it up NOT you. It's not fair that you are cleaning HIS house. He should be cleaning it tbh.
Again I suggest talking to your boyfriend instead of jumping straight to leaving him and if he doesn't listen to you then leave him. That's the only thing you can do if he doesn't listen and change his ways when you talk to him.
Hope this helps lovely,
Zara x :hugs:
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