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Tigerstripejump
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So I dated this guy for 1 month about a year or so ago and we labelled ourselves bf and gf, he was my first boyfriend. When I am asked by guys if ive had a boyfriend I say yes but my friend says that the one I had isnt worth counting.
The reason why is because we only saw each other at college 2 times a week totalling to about 3 hours a week together, we never went on a date, we never texted outside of college (because he had no interest in doing so), we only held hands and hugged, we never kissed. My friend said this wasn't a real relationship and when I tell people I have had one they'll think I mean a proper one and I'll make myself seem silly for saying it.
If you were me would you say to guys you've had a boyfriend before or not?
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(Original post by Tigerstripejump)
So I dated this guy for 1 month about a year or so ago and we labelled ourselves bf and gf, he was my first boyfriend. When I am asked by guys if ive had a boyfriend I say yes but my friend says that the one I had isnt worth counting.
The reason why is because we only saw each other at college 2 times a week totalling to about 3 hours a week together, we never went on a date, we never texted outside of college (because he had no interest in doing so), we only held hands and hugged, we never kissed. My friend said this wasn't a real relationship and when I tell people I have had one they'll think I mean a proper one and I'll make myself seem silly for saying it.
If you were me would you say to guys you've had a boyfriend before or not?
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Maybe just say you've dated someone for a few weeks, but never had a serious or long term relationship so far
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Sounds about as real as a 'relationship' you have when you're 12, I personally wouldn't bother mentioning it.
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I've got friends with whom I've had more interaction than you had with this 'boyfriend'! You can't be dating someone you don't go on dates with. I wouldn't bother mentioning it to people.
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If my friend told me that then I would say it doesn't count either.
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I personally wouldn’t tell people I’ve had a boyfriend if that is all that happened. I understand that it was your first “thing” with a boy so by all means you can count it! But I wouldn’t tell people you’ve been in a relationship as it just sounds like a close friendship.
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Damn this sounds awfully similar to the relationship I was in.
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(Original post by Tigerstripejump)
So I dated this guy for 1 month about a year or so ago and we labelled ourselves bf and gf, he was my first boyfriend. When I am asked by guys if ive had a boyfriend I say yes but my friend says that the one I had isnt worth counting.
The reason why is because we only saw each other at college 2 times a week totalling to about 3 hours a week together, we never went on a date, we never texted outside of college (because he had no interest in doing so), we only held hands and hugged, we never kissed. My friend said this wasn't a real relationship and when I tell people I have had one they'll think I mean a proper one and I'll make myself seem silly for saying it.
If you were me would you say to guys you've had a boyfriend before or not?
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if it was less then 3 weeks and/or toxic then it won't count but that's my personal opinon
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