How will I ever meet someone now with lockdown ?

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Realistically, we are going to be in and out of lockdown for the next few years.
I’m at uni but honestly my game plan was get married shortly after uni, and have kids. That’s my dream. I still want to be a nurse and have a career but I don’t have a deep desire for it like I do for a family.

But I’m so single, and not speaking to anyone. I won’t meet someone off of tinder I don’t like it at all. How will I ever meet someone with the continuous lockdowns ??? Will I just not get my dream.
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Realistically, we are going to be in and out of lockdown for the next few years.
I’m at uni but honestly my game plan was get married shortly after uni, and have kids. That’s my dream. I still want to be a nurse and have a career but I don’t have a deep desire for it like I do for a family.

But I’m so single, and not speaking to anyone. I won’t meet someone off of tinder I don’t like it at all. How will I ever meet someone with the continuous lockdowns ??? Will I just not get my dream.
I mean even in uni, you have different societies and stuff like that where you can meet and interact with ppl so it may not be as difficult as it seems to find a potential match. Besides what year are you at uni btw?
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Realistically, we are going to be in and out of lockdown for the next few years.
I’m at uni but honestly my game plan was get married shortly after uni, and have kids. That’s my dream. I still want to be a nurse and have a career but I don’t have a deep desire for it like I do for a family.

But I’m so single, and not speaking to anyone. I won’t meet someone off of tinder I don’t like it at all. How will I ever meet someone with the continuous lockdowns ??? Will I just not get my dream.
You must be meeting people at uni and on placements?
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Realistically, we are going to be in and out of lockdown for the next few years.
I’m at uni but honestly my game plan was get married shortly after uni, and have kids. That’s my dream. I still want to be a nurse and have a career but I don’t have a deep desire for it like I do for a family.

But I’m so single, and not speaking to anyone. I won’t meet someone off of tinder I don’t like it at all. How will I ever meet someone with the continuous lockdowns ??? Will I just not get my dream.
getting married straight after uni is too young. Please don't rush into ill advised relationships just for the sake of following a "game plan". Just concentrate on your studies for now and if there is a chance to socialise (even with social distancing) then take it.
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getting married straight after uni is too young. Please don't rush into ill advised relationships just for the sake of following a "game plan". Just concentrate on your studies for now and if there is a chance to socialise (even with social distancing) then take it.
I know plenty of people who got married whilst at uni or straight after and who are perfectly happy several years down the line.
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You can't always achieve your dream, especially when it is something so specific. You might marry someone and then you can't have children, you might not meet someone at all who is marriage material.

Stop wishing your life away and focus on the here and now and make the most of life. Why are you doing nursing if you're not that committed to it?
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Realistically, we are going to be in and out of lockdown for the next few years.
I’m at uni but honestly my game plan was get married shortly after uni, and have kids. That’s my dream. I still want to be a nurse and have a career but I don’t have a deep desire for it like I do for a family.

But I’m so single, and not speaking to anyone. I won’t meet someone off of tinder I don’t like it at all. How will I ever meet someone with the continuous lockdowns ??? Will I just not get my dream.
A relationship isn't everything. Of course it's nice to have companionship and stuff, but it's not the be all end all. Take it from someone who learned that the hard way. I was in a similar situation when I was in uni a few years back, and wanted to get married before I graduated so that I could have something to look forward to after and to feel like I had accomplished something. But the reality was, I didn't know anything about marriage. It's better to be single but be happy and healthy, than to be stuck in a toxic, abusive, unfulfilling relationship.

Live life in the now, and look at what amazing stuff you have going for you, rather than placing your happiness in some distant lala land future. Marriage is not the sole purpose of life and the reason of our existence.

You will find someone one day, you will settle down. Just don't focus on it too much that you're not living your life.
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A relationship isn't everything. Of course it's nice to have companionship and stuff, but it's not the be all end all. Take it from someone who learned that the hard way. I was in a similar situation when I was in uni a few years back, and wanted to get married before I graduated so that I could have something to look forward to after and to feel like I had accomplished something. But the reality was, I didn't know anything about marriage. It's better to be single but be happy and healthy, than to be stuck in a toxic, abusive, unfulfilling relationship.

Live life in the now, and look at what amazing stuff you have going for you, rather than placing your happiness in some distant lala land future. Marriage is not the sole purpose of life and the reason of our existence.

You will find someone one day, you will settle down. Just don't focus on it too much that you're not living your life.
PRSOM whoever you are.
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You must be meeting people at uni and on placements?
No our placement got cancelled and we just have to stay in our rooms all the time
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I mean even in uni, you have different societies and stuff like that where you can meet and interact with ppl so it may not be as difficult as it seems to find a potential match. Besides what year are you at uni btw?
You can’t meet someone, even friends over zoom
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Realistically, we are going to be in and out of lockdown for the next few years.
I’m at uni but honestly my game plan was get married shortly after uni, and have kids. That’s my dream. I still want to be a nurse and have a career but I don’t have a deep desire for it like I do for a family.

But I’m so single, and not speaking to anyone. I won’t meet someone off of tinder I don’t like it at all. How will I ever meet someone with the continuous lockdowns ??? Will I just not get my dream.
1. No we arent.
2. You are being naive.
3. Life doesnt work like that.
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You can’t meet someone, even friends over zoom
Are you staying at home or on campus. Actually pm me Ill try and help out since I know a few ppl in the same sitch
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1. No we arent.
2. You are being naive.
3. Life doesnt work like that.
Yes we really are. The uk government has only bought enough of the vaccine when it comes out to give it to healthcare workers and the vulnerable so it will never properly be regulate and will take up to 5 years to sort itself out. In that time, we will be facing lots of social distancing and going in and out of lockdowns
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Yes we really are. The uk government has only bought enough of the vaccine when it comes out to give it to healthcare workers and the vulnerable so it will never properly be regulate and will take up to 5 years to sort itself out. In that time, we will be facing lots of social distancing and going in and out of lockdowns
Maybe the UK giovernment could buy more?
Maybe when the vulnerable have it then it will pose much less of a problem.
Maybe you should make sure your partner to be is one of the vulnerable or a healthworker otherwise its all doooooooooooooooom.
If you are going to be a nurse, then wont you get the vaccine?

Everything I said before stands.
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I mean even in uni, you have different societies and stuff like that where you can meet and interact with ppl so it may not be as difficult as it seems to find a potential match. Besides what year are you at uni btw?
Societies practically don't work in the current situation, at least at some unis.
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Maybe the UK giovernment could buy more?
Maybe when the vulnerable have it then it will pose much less of a problem.
Maybe you should make sure your partner to be is one of the vulnerable or a healthworker otherwise its all doooooooooooooooom.
If you are going to be a nurse, then wont you get the vaccine?

Everything I said before stands.
I mean, they could and should be more but what I said unfortunately is factual. Their plan once the vaccine comes out is only Vaccinate the elderly and maintain social distancing. It’s terrible but it’s true
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Societies practically don't work in the current situation, at least at some unis.
Im ngl youre not wrong at all, but Im saying it as an option type thing considering the fact that those people are gonna be the most similar imo
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1. No we arent.
2. You are being naive.
3. Life doesnt work like that.
You are the one who is being naive if you think the vaccine will solve everything and that life is going to go back to normal.
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You are the one who is being naive if you think the vaccine will solve everything and that life is going to go back to normal.
Yep. The fastest ever vaccine took 4 years to develop. The idea that we can have a working, safe vaccine in less than a year, then mass distribution is flawed.

But there is more at play than a vaccine regarding life returning to normal. When mass unemployment and civil disobedience hits, then the political situation might change. We may even adapt the approach that 'we have a vaccine, everything is ok', even if in reality it achieves little. The figures will stop getting posted on the news and the public fear may abate.

There are also drug treatments being developed, which will probably be more useful than a vaccine (as was the situation with AIDS).

In answer to your question, I am feeling the same. Feels as though young people are being thrown on the scrapheap.
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Realistically, we are going to be in and out of lockdown for the next few years.
I’m at uni but honestly my game plan was get married shortly after uni, and have kids. That’s my dream. I still want to be a nurse and have a career but I don’t have a deep desire for it like I do for a family.

But I’m so single, and not speaking to anyone. I won’t meet someone off of tinder I don’t like it at all. How will I ever meet someone with the continuous lockdowns ??? Will I just not get my dream.
Why do you want to get married so soon, family?
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