Have no friends and no one talks to me

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I've tried reaching out to so many people, but no one wants to even talk to me. I've literally sat there on teams for 1 hour waiting for people to join after posting a link in an FB group and giving previous notice, but everyone just ignores my message, even if there's 50 people in the group. There's nothing the uni will do and no one really wants to talk to me, except in society's and maybe a bit through messenger.

It's just not enough for me, and I'm sick of this. But it's hard to make friends, when people don't want to talk. Even my tutor group won't talk to me.

I'm just fed up of being lonely.
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As a child, I had a handful of friends. Over the years these friendships have ended and I no longer see them. As an adult, I only have myself to depend on.
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I am the same as you, and really don't understand why people avoid me. Even if they don't know me and couldn't have made a negative judgement.

However we have a group chat for my new uni course and I noticed quite a few people get ignored like that too- but they're not disliked in any way and they do have friends. So i think people just don't have anything to say sometimes or just cba.
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I am the same as you, and really don't understand why people avoid me. Even if they don't know me and couldn't have made a negative judgement.

However we have a group chat for my new uni course and I noticed quite a few people get ignored like that too- but they're not disliked in any way and they do have friends. So i think people just don't have anything to say sometimes or just cba.
I guess people can form negative judgements about you before they even meet you, or as soon as they look at you. That's their problem though.

I didn't know other people were doing that. I thought I was the only one making a fool out of myself. That's the issue though. People can't be bothered to reach out, even on mental health week. People mainly just ghosted me, only two agreed to meet up next week, but I wanted to save myself the embarassment.
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(Original post by Ameba)
I've tried reaching out to so many people, but no one wants to even talk to me. I've literally sat there on teams for 1 hour waiting for people to join after posting a link in an FB group and giving previous notice, but everyone just ignores my message, even if there's 50 people in the group. There's nothing the uni will do and no one really wants to talk to me, except in society's and maybe a bit through messenger.

It's just not enough for me, and I'm sick of this. But it's hard to make friends, when people don't want to talk. Even my tutor group won't talk to me.

I'm just fed up of being lonely.
Everyone gets lonely this time of year. Loneliness is depressing especially with the impending lockdown. Don’t let it stress you much though. I’m sure you will eventually find people to be friends

If you’re feeling down, don’t be afraid to send a message though.
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I guess people can form negative judgements about you before they even meet you, or as soon as they look at you. That's their problem though.

I didn't know other people were doing that. I thought I was the only one making a fool out of myself. That's the issue though. People can't be bothered to reach out, even on mental health week. People mainly just ghosted me, only two agreed to meet up next week, but I wanted to save myself the embarassment.
Did you invite everyone in the group to meet up?

The thing is not everyone is invested in making new friends- many already have their group or enough people they're happy with. I wouldn't take it personal. The best people to put in as much effort as you are those in a similar position and wanting to make new friends.

Maybe you could find a non-tutor group for your uni to meet people there instead? Big Whatsapp groups are great to see lots of people but rarely do discussions go anywhere cause they're not intimate enough. On FB groups you could reply to particular posts and message people with common interests.

There are also new video call sites (like chatroulette etc but less dodgy) that also have group chat options so you can meet a few people that way. I havent done it much but have passed the time feeling a bit more socialised.
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Did you invite everyone in the group to meet up?

The thing is not everyone is invested in making new friends- many already have their group or enough people they're happy with. I wouldn't take it personal. The best people to put in as much effort as you are those in a similar position and wanting to make new friends.

Maybe you could find a non-tutor group for your uni to meet people there instead? Big Whatsapp groups are great to see lots of people but rarely do discussions go anywhere cause they're not intimate enough. On FB groups you could reply to particular posts and message people with common interests.

There are also new video call sites (like chatroulette etc but less dodgy) that also have group chat options so you can meet a few people that way. I havent done it much but have passed the time feeling a bit more socialised.
It was a Facebook group run by the university. And I sent it to everyone in the group. People kept logging on and looking at the message but didn't join the call. People do want friends. Everyone in that chat complains about being lonely, and wanting friends, as it's hard to make them this year. The thing is I want close friendships, not random friendships. I have lots of acquaintances from online websites, but it's friends I'm looking for.
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I've tried reaching out to so many people, but no one wants to even talk to me. I've literally sat there on teams for 1 hour waiting for people to join after posting a link in an FB group and giving previous notice, but everyone just ignores my message, even if there's 50 people in the group. There's nothing the uni will do and no one really wants to talk to me, except in society's and maybe a bit through messenger.

It's just not enough for me, and I'm sick of this. But it's hard to make friends, when people don't want to talk. Even my tutor group won't talk to me.

I'm just fed up of being lonely.
Hey, you can message me if you feel the need to talk .

Some people may just don't want to make friends, it happened to me.
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