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Is something wrong with me?

So I am definitely an introvert but its a bit weird because I do love socialising at the same time and don't always need the self time to 'recharge'. During first year of uni, I went out so much and socialised etc. so I thought that during lockdown I would end up being really anxious about not being able to go out/ feel very lonely.
However, this lockdown has made me realise that I am totally okay with my own company and I am completely fine with being in a room by my self for days on end....
Like its second year now and I do live with other people but I spend a lot of time just either on YouTube/ Netflix, doing work or eating (all by myself) and don't get bored at all. Like I genuinely think I would be okay not having any friends and being isolated from everyone else and I know that isn't healthy but I feel like once COVID is over, I will remain such an introvert and all the socialising energy I had in first year will be gone.
I'm only 19 but the thought of going out, partying and drinking has become so unappealing (even though I've only been doing it for 1 year) and the idea of actually leaving my room has started to feel like effort. Don't get me wrong, I still cook, do laundry/dishes, go buy groceries and walk etc. but now I am completely fine doing all these things by myself and genuinely am very comfortable in my own company.
The issue I have is that I've become so used to enjoying my own company that I feel like I am not gonna put any effort into finding new friends/ boyfriends and genuinely think I'll end up completely alone by the time I graduate (which again I am fine with but I know its not healthy)
My parents are always like 'oh how do you not go made being by yourself' and I am starting to feel like maybe I should see someone about this because wanting to be left totally alone can't be healthy can it?
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Surnia
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Lockdown is only 4 weeks, so it's not good that you are feeling like this for such a soirt period. What's your motivation going to be for continuing on your course, finding a job, things like that?

I would speak with someone, but there's things to go out and do other than socialising. Why not do some volunteering? There are still charities operating some services.
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So I am definitely an introvert but its a bit weird because I do love socialising at the same time and don't always need the self time to 'recharge'. During first year of uni, I went out so much and socialised etc. so I thought that during lockdown I would end up being really anxious about not being able to go out/ feel very lonely.
However, this lockdown has made me realise that I am totally okay with my own company and I am completely fine with being in a room by my self for days on end....
Like its second year now and I do live with other people but I spend a lot of time just either on YouTube/ Netflix, doing work or eating (all by myself) and don't get bored at all. Like I genuinely think I would be okay not having any friends and being isolated from everyone else and I know that isn't healthy but I feel like once COVID is over, I will remain such an introvert and all the socialising energy I had in first year will be gone.
I'm only 19 but the thought of going out, partying and drinking has become so unappealing (even though I've only been doing it for 1 year) and the idea of actually leaving my room has started to feel like effort. Don't get me wrong, I still cook, do laundry/dishes, go buy groceries and walk etc. but now I am completely fine doing all these things by myself and genuinely am very comfortable in my own company.
The issue I have is that I've become so used to enjoying my own company that I feel like I am not gonna put any effort into finding new friends/ boyfriends and genuinely think I'll end up completely alone by the time I graduate (which again I am fine with but I know its not healthy)
My parents are always like 'oh how do you not go made being by yourself' and I am starting to feel like maybe I should see someone about this because wanting to be left totally alone can't be healthy can it?

This is so me haha! There's nothing wrong with it at all, as long as you're comfortable and happy this way! The only time it will become 'not okay' is if/when you start feeling lonely and uncomfortable with talking to people. So as long as you're happy with talking to new people when you need to you'll be fine :smile: I've coped with no friends for years haha!
It's not healthy, youa re right. And you can do something about it, at the very least maintain friendships you already have.
Do venture out to do something like volunteering, or at the very least daily walks.

The problem with the way you are now is that in the future you may feel lonely and when that gets you, then things go downhill and they can go downhill fast. Otherwise it is healthy to enjoy your own company too. You have to find a balance. Life is about the right balances.
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Bio 7
21
Don't see it as unhealthy, if you feel comfortable on your own that's good. People that hate being on their own have a problem because if you hate your own company that much you must be a boring person.

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