Someone I used to be close with sent me a friend request on social media. We're both asian and tbh we used to be close friends back in the day before they moved abroad years ago ( only spoken 3 times in the last 6 years). a lot of people assumed we were dating and truth be told, she spent more time with me than she was with her best friends.
We're both in our late 20s and ill admit I wish to know more about her / how shes changed since we were close, if she is single etc.
we have mutual connections (friends of relatives etc) but i dont want to risk asking her cousins if she is single and my dad doesnt want to risk losing some of his childhood friends (we're talking multiple friendships which have lasted over 50 years each) over something as trivial as me being more interested in their niece than their own daughters.
any suggestions how to find out?
I sent her a message to see if she was ok a month ago and she replied back a week later, then she sent a friend request last week (I immediately asked "did you send me a follow request?")
also how to I go about talking to her apart from saying the how are you, hope your well etc etc (people find that dull and boring I guess). need to keep convo interesting (im usually a lot better communicating with my gob than my hands (nervous laugh).