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I just realise that affairs are much more common.

Was catching up with my friends on skype group, we shared relationship stories and we gossip about affairs and i just realise that affairs are more common than i thought. And some people apparently aren't ashamed about it. I used to think that affairs are rare, maybe 1 in 100 couples but now i think its more like 1 in 10 couples. People keep a tight lip about sexual adventures outside a marriage or relationships but it happens a lot more often.
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Original post by Anonymous
Was catching up with my friends on skype group, we shared relationship stories and we gossip about affairs and i just realise that affairs are more common than i thought. And some people apparently aren't ashamed about it. I used to think that affairs are rare, maybe 1 in 100 couples but now i think its more like 1 in 10 couples. People keep a tight lip about sexual adventures outside a marriage or relationships but it happens a lot more often.

of course it does. people aren't meant to be monogamous.
Is 1 in 10 actually a lot though?
Rather a small sample size to draw this conclusion. Maybe you just have promiscuous friends?
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Rather a small sample size to draw this conclusion. Maybe you just have promiscuous friends?

we gossiped about other people's relationship too...
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we gossiped about other people's relationship too...

Well there's 67 million people in the UK and you had a gossip about what, a dozen? Friends with similar worldviews are likely to hang around so there is likely to be some degree of bias in your sample. Likewise, you might find that your age group views monogamy differently to others.
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Well there's 67 million people in the UK and you had a gossip about what, a dozen? Friends with similar worldviews are likely to hang around so there is likely to be some degree of bias in your sample. Likewise, you might find that your age group views monogamy differently to others.

want me to blow your mind? i just learn this thing called cuckhold. The husband watch the wife being done by other guys . usually guys with big penis.

i always thought its a porn thing, didnt know its REAL. people ACTUALLY do that..
My mind remains unblown. Enjoy your sexual adventures :wink:
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want me to blow your mind? i just learn this thing called cuckhold. The husband watch the wife being done by other guys . usually guys with big penis.

i always thought its a porn thing, didnt know its REAL. people ACTUALLY do that..

So, on a scale of 1-10, just how sheltered is your life?
Most people will probably have an affair at some point and I think men are more likely to be caught because a lot of them don’t even try to hide it. I would never have an affair because I’m an 😇
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My mind remains unblown. Enjoy your sexual adventures :wink:

oh i wish... i am a virgin and i am jealous about the sexual adventures of all my friends. :getmecoat:
I'm not surprised, especially with my generation I have a feeling it's going to be even more common. I dread the concept of marriage for this reason it honestly makes me feel full of fear of being betrayed already. People who say it's not that common I think don't realise how common it is simply because they are probably one of the loyal ones.
The older I get the more I think this is common.
The figure of 1 in 10 seems realistic to me, assuming you don't count those who then leave their wife or husband for the other person. A lot higher I expect in certain professions and jobs. Such as Welsh football managers or Conservative cabinet ministers.
Original post by Anonymous
Men do try to hide it. Most people would never cheat actually...
I know tons of couples who have never cheated on each other.
You think that because your friends have weird views and morals on why cheating is 'right'


Most people pretend that they wouldn’t cheat and people are more likely to stray if they’ve been married/together for a long time. My friend uses Grindr and half of the men on there are married. Why exactly are you anonymous? You shouldn’t misuse anonymous to insult people you disagree with. Coward. I said it was common and not right.
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Most people pretend that they wouldn’t cheat and people are more likely to stray if they’ve been married/together for a long time. My friend uses Grindr and half of the men on there are married. Why exactly are you anonymous? You shouldn’t misuse anonymous to insult people you disagree with. Coward. I said it was common and not right.

"Most" I think that's inaccurate I know couples who have been together for years. But yeah obviously some of them would lie about that like f boys and some girls do. I know you don't know what's going on in peoples lives and relationships so I'm not going to act like everyone's relationships are perfect, but it's unlikely that one has cheated if they are happily married for like 50 years. 1 in 10 that you said isn't "most". I could've sworn you said somewhere your friends said cheating was normal, but I haven't scrolled up to double check. Have your own morals, just coz they're your friends doesn't mean you should have the same opinions. And I really shouldn't have said what I did so I'm sorry. Also I would be lying if I didn't have thoughts of cheating in my life, but they aren't real, they are intrusive thoughts and you have to control yourself because the feelings for others aren't true and if they were i tell myself it won't be worth it because I personally value the person I'm with and think it's important they are my only partner. I had toxic friends who bullied me for not wanting to have sex with random guys I only just met, while they'll be having sex with someone new each week an d getting stds
Original post by YaliaV123
Most people pretend that they wouldn’t cheat and people are more likely to stray if they’ve been married/together for a long time. My friend uses Grindr and half of the men on there are married. Why exactly are you anonymous? You shouldn’t misuse anonymous to insult people you disagree with. Coward. I said it was common and not right.

I was trying to say that you say "most" but that must be wrong because a lot of people thing cheating is wrong and would never do it. I felt like your friends thought cheating was right which might make you feel like your friends are what most people are like. But in my experience "most" people wouldn't cheat. I'm sorry for being a b**ch though, they just sounded toxic to me but I don't have a say because they're your friends and I don't even know them and insulting them will hurt your feelings. I know that a lot of people will disagree with their views though and that most people don't have the views your friends do

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