*** Broke up with my gf today - Just wanna talk ***

Would you like a rebound?

OR

Would you like to prove to her you can pull any girl so thereby you get anyone?

OR

Would you like to get revenge?

Pick 1. The choice is yours. If none of the above suit you, please explain, further on your feelings and what you would like to next.

**Backstory**

I am 16, she is 15. We met on snap in Jan. Due to covid we couldn't meet for ages but we would non stop message during lockdown. We finally met in the summer and ended up meeting 10 times over the relationship. We were both each others first loves and first kisses. This relationship lasted 10 months.

**The Breakup**

In around the 8/9 month, we started to argue and got toxic to each other. And soon after we concluded that it was due to lack of communication. After that, she decided to break up with me whereas I wanted to try and make things work by communicating more. My main problem is that she blamed me fully for the breakup, when in reality she also hurt me and pressured me during the relationship.

Her best friend hates my btw because she things I hurt my ex (but I didn't even know I was hurting her because of a lack of communication), and she persuaded my ex to break up with me.

I just can't see why we couldn't have fixed this instead of breaking up over it.

**Trying to get her back**

Over the last month I have done my best to get her back but she has moved on. She has got a new bf and today I finally accepted that this isn't gonna ever work out.


**What I am doing now**

To recover from this I have been looking at lots of other people's stories, watching videos and talking to friends. I have come to conclude that if she can't appreciate me and can't appreciate the love that I would give her, then it is her loss.

Honestly was so sad for this month but now I just say **** it - if she can't appreciate me then her loss. I am the prize, not her. She was really immature also, with her last words to me saying how I got a small penis (I acc have larger than average nationwide but she seems to think 8 inch is average or something). But yeah she was very immature. She was a girl, but I need a woman.

**Anything you have to say**

Any advice about how I can get through this? Or just anything to add?

Regarding rebound, I know it might not be morally correct but it would definitely get my mind off of her. So I suppose that could be an option.

Trying to pull anyone - not rlly. I would rather wait to find a fit girl and one that I can connect with properly. Don't wanna waste my time on just any girl.

No way revenge. I want her totally out of my life now.

Honestly, I just want to find a girl who I can connect with and who will love me as much as I will love them. I want a girl who would be happy to cuddle and stay in watching netflix, long makeout sessions, lots of common interests. I honestly dont need these big boobs or ass etc... I would just like a nice sweet, pretty girl.

Regarding my feelings, I have been devastated over the last month. I truly thought I was going to marry this girl (I know, very mature haha), but yeah it did it me really hard because I truly thought we would be together forever. But today I have got over that. I want to move on and I will.

This was very cute to read. How very mature. (The ass and boobs thing by the way).
Anyways,

Rebounds are a lovely option. I have tried a few across the last few years of my life and it definitely works for the short term. By the end of the rebound situation you forget about the other person altogether. Keep it as an open option, because, it does not work for all and yes not morally correct either so keep it in mind though.

So pulling anyone and revenge are off the list. However, they are good on their own, I have tried both and they do not seem to end well. Very mature and honest. I like that. It makes the process quicker.

And everyone wants someone to watch Netflix with, to go on dates for no reason, to stare at the stars when it's 5 degrees, to kiss in the rain, cuddling all night, make out sessions, random acts of kindness. Got a bit carried away......chille............ if you really really want that, I recommend waiting it out. It is for the best and you receive all off the above. A true bargain.

When you are in a genuine relationship, marriage always comes up, as a thing you see with the other person. Kind of heartbreaking. However, I am so sorry, you really loved this girl and have been upset for the past month. Sometimes, you just need to get up and get over it. Who cares about her now? Not in the rude way, in the way like she is not your gf anymore so forget it. Move on. Let her find happiness, the way you both deserve. You will someone meant for you. She was not the one, and I would say you have been saved because a year or 2 later it would be much much worse and it ending now is a BLESSING.

That got way too long. Sorry, ahaha x

The average is below 6 inches. And a vagina is only 4.5-5 inches deep. When I broke up with my ex, people told me I'd get over it and I just didn't believe them because I loved him way too much. I never wanted to be with anyone else. I wasn't over it for a while. A year after we broke up I got with a new boy and I still wasn't over my ex until a year into the relationship. I eventually saw my ex's flaws (he was abusive and I loved him anyway and then I realised I had to move on because he was nasty). With your ex girlfriend you have got to realise that she is not nice. The one for you will care and respect you. I know it took me two years to get FULLY over my ex but I was kind of 50% over it in about 6 or 7 months. At this point I was happy to move on and get a boyfriend, however I had toxic traits in the beginning of mine and my boyfriends relationship. I flirted with other guys and got annoyed at my boyfriend when he was sad when I should've been confronting him. I just wasn't a good girlfriend. I broke up with my boyfriend because it wasn't fair for him but we got back together and I stuck at the relationship even though I didn't think I loved him. (Because I still loved my ex more) eventually I became a great girlfriend and respect and care about my boyfriend and give him the love he deserves we've been together nearly two years now. This will happen to you, you'll find someone that loves you and respects you no matter what.

Never try too hard

Aw thank u so much for that. It's people like you who really give me faith in this, and make me feel so much happier! Do u mind me asking how old u were during all of that?

No problem mate. To be honest, thinking back to my ex makes me a little sad because there was a time where I loved him and it's crazy that I don't love him at all anymore. You have to learn that life is full of lots of short experiences, and those experiences don't last forever and my ex is now forever a memory. That helped me move on.

I was 14-15 when I was with my ex. Dated for 10 months. Got back together with him half a year later for two months, I was 15 still, and then I got with my current boyfriend a few days later when I was 15 and a half. Broke up with my current boyfriend and got with my ex one last time and then back with my current boyfriend. It's been 1 year and 9 months I've been with my current boyfriend (on and off for the first month). We had a bit of a rough patch at the beginning of the year. I had huge trust issues because my ex cheated on me tons of times. My boyfriend couldn't deal with it the way I wanted him to we were constantly arguing. Something that put a strain on the relationship was covid because we couldn't see each other. Because whenever we would argue, we would best make up by apologising and talking it out in person. He waited for me and didn't give up on me and it was very worth it when we finally saw each other again when the rules said you could finally meet up with your partner. Honestly during the whole relationship I had tons of doubts and would think about my ex a lot. You have to keep fighting and it's worth it in the end. I didn't realise I loved my ex until at least a few months to a year of being with him. I can't remember. It's the best way to get over your ex. Hope that makes sense and sorry for writing a ton! Btw I'm 17 now. My ex was two years older than me and so is my current boyfriend.

**The Breakup**

In around the 8/9 month, we started to argue and got toxic to each other. And soon after we concluded that it was due to lack of communication.

After that, she decided to break up with me whereas I wanted to try and make things work by communicating more.

My main problem is that she blamed me fully for the breakup, when in reality she also hurt me and pressured me during the relationship.

Her best friend hates my btw because she things I hurt my ex (but I didn't even know I was hurting her because of a lack of communication), and she persuaded my ex to break up with me.

I just can't see why we couldn't have fixed this instead of breaking up over it.

Over the last month I have done my best to get her back but she has moved on. She has got a new bf and today I finally accepted that this isn't gonna ever work out.

To recover from this I have been looking at lots of other people's stories, watching videos and talking to friends. I have come to conclude that if she can't appreciate me and can't appreciate the love that I would give her, then it is her loss.

Honestly was so sad for this month but now I just say **** it - if she can't appreciate me then her loss. I am the prize, not her. She was really immature also, with her last words to me saying how I got a small penis (I acc have larger than average nationwide but she seems to think 8 inch is average or something). But yeah she was very immature. She was a girl, but I need a woman.

Was the whole penis thing before or after you were trying to get her back? Cause honestly, if it were before I wouldn't have bothered at all.