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Hey guys, first post here but just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat as me.
I’m living in halls currently and have only made a handful of friends, no one close enough to live with. It’s been so hard to meet anyone besides my flat mates because of COVID and they’ve all made their own plans about housing.
I’m feeling pretty stressed as I’m a nursing student and would rather have things sorted or at least an idea of what I’m doing before placement in January.
Any ideas or just others in the same situation as me would be helpful!!
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(Original post by unfortunatelyeve)
Hey guys, first post here but just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat as me.
I’m living in halls currently and have only made a handful of friends, no one close enough to live with. It’s been so hard to meet anyone besides my flat mates because of COVID and they’ve all made their own plans about housing.
I’m feeling pretty stressed as I’m a nursing student and would rather have things sorted or at least an idea of what I’m doing before placement in January.
Any ideas or just others in the same situation as me would be helpful!!
Hi I am also in my first year and my flatmates are always ditching me and leaving me out so I don't think I will get to live with my flatmates in second year. And because of covid I haven't seen or met anyone except flatmates and only spoke to course mates on facebook as we have only had online lessons so far. I am also in your situation. So what I would do is join your facebook group and group chat with only people from your course. Start basic conversations in the group chat such as where they are from, what they studied previously before uni, which accommodation they live in, talking about the course and then it would lead from here for example when lockdown is over, suggest to meet up in the library to work together. Start conversations that can lead to meeting up with each other and spending time with each other. For example, I need to run an errand to the shops anyone want to join and that your looking for company, suggest that you show them around your flat and find out what common interests you have such as same movies you like and suggest you go watch it together. You can make long term friends by doing those things. Also be a good friend to everyone.
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Hi I am also in my first year and my flatmates are always ditching me and leaving me out so I don't think I will get to live with my flatmates in second year. And because of covid I haven't seen or met anyone except flatmates and only spoke to course mates on facebook as we have only had online lessons so far. I am also in your situation. So what I would do is join your facebook group and group chat with only people from your course. Start basic conversations in the group chat such as where they are from, what they studied previously before uni, which accommodation they live in, talking about the course and then it would lead from here for example when lockdown is over, suggest to meet up in the library to work together. Start conversations that can lead to meeting up with each other and spending time with each other. For example, I need to run an errand to the shops anyone want to join and that your looking for company, suggest that you show them around your flat and find out what common interests you have such as same movies you like and suggest you go watch it together. You can make long term friends by doing those things. Also be a good friend to everyone.
Thanks for your reply!! Yeah that’s a good idea, I suppose I should reach out to more of my course mates as the only ones I’ve had lectures with are all mature students. It’s awful not being on campus for lectures isn’t it - I’ve only been on campus twice and that’s for a nursing course! - I’m really sorry to hear about your situation also. If you ever want to chat with someone please feel free to message me!
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Thanks for your reply!! Yeah that’s a good idea, I suppose I should reach out to more of my course mates as the only ones I’ve had lectures with are all mature students. It’s awful not being on campus for lectures isn’t it - I’ve only been on campus twice and that’s for a nursing course! - I’m really sorry to hear about your situation also. If you ever want to chat with someone please feel free to message me!
Hi. This is my situation with my flatmates: I just started university this term and moved into my uni halls 5 weeks ago with my new flatmates of us 4 girls. Me and the girls were new to each other before we came so we had a group chat where we talked to each other before moving into uni. As we were new to each other there is no past friendship history of the 3 flatmates that have been ditching and ignoring me. Before we all came to uni the girls were excited to meet me and were very welcoming and started suggesting things to do together. But then one week after coming to uni, they just forgot about the things they suggested we do together so i reminded them and they would just make excuses and never get around to it. I was very sociable in the group chat before we had when we were getting to know each-other before coming to uni and since I moved into halls, I have made every effort and went to great lengths to make an exceptional impression of myself, I was being outgoing and always initiated conversations they could relate to, I was being a good flatmate and a good friend. Basically doing everything to earn their friendship. I also treated them to free cinema tickets on my birthday, let them eat some stuff I made whenever they asked if they can eat it I never said no to them whenever they asked if they can eat food of mine they liked even offering it myself, I offered to help them with things, the list goes on of things I do for them to get them to like me. Despite me doing all this I just mentioned, they would make plans behind my back with just the three of them without me wouldn't invite me, they would do things together without me, constantly ignore me pretending i am not there, not include me in conversations and would form a friendship group with them 3 and other people to make me feel left out. I constantly hear them gossiping and laughing together when i am alone in my room and they would hang out in each others rooms and not ask me if I want to join. I have been making effort to organise things to do together even paying for all of it myself giving them free food and they don't even care, not even a thank you. I never asked for anything in return but as repayment they would ditch me and ignore me. We decided to buy a second hand Wii together for playing on it together each of us paying 20 pound i paid mine. But now they hardly play on it and the other day played without me without asking me if i want to play so wasting my money. They just come to me if they need something or want to use my stuff. Developing a friendship with my flatmates was really important to me. Now because of them ditching me and ignoring me I have no friends at uni. We have online classes for the first term so its like impossible making friends from my course. All this ditching and feeling left out by being ignored after spending money/time/effort on them is making me feel depressed everyday. Because of this i can't sleep at night as i stay up thinking about this. And it is also disturbing my productivity because of feeling depressed. One time I accidentally ate one my my flatmates chocolate. So I immediately bought her a whole new packet of the same ones without her asking me to. I even offered to make cookies for her and bought her an apology card promising it won't happen again with the chocs. I also offered her my snacks to make up for it. Despite this my flatmates are ignoring me and not speaking to me. If I treat them the same way they have been treating me even the slightest they would get mad. I just feel so angry, frustrated and upset. Sorry for the long rant and post.
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Hey, I’m the exact same situation as you! I’m a first year nursing student with no one to live with second year, what Uni are you at ? X
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Hi. This is my situation with my flatmates: I just started university this term and moved into my uni halls 5 weeks ago with my new flatmates of us 4 girls. Me and the girls were new to each other before we came so we had a group chat where we talked to each other before moving into uni. As we were new to each other there is no past friendship history of the 3 flatmates that have been ditching and ignoring me. Before we all came to uni the girls were excited to meet me and were very welcoming and started suggesting things to do together. But then one week after coming to uni, they just forgot about the things they suggested we do together so i reminded them and they would just make excuses and never get around to it. I was very sociable in the group chat before we had when we were getting to know each-other before coming to uni and since I moved into halls, I have made every effort and went to great lengths to make an exceptional impression of myself, I was being outgoing and always initiated conversations they could relate to, I was being a good flatmate and a good friend. Basically doing everything to earn their friendship. I also treated them to free cinema tickets on my birthday, let them eat some stuff I made whenever they asked if they can eat it I never said no to them whenever they asked if they can eat food of mine they liked even offering it myself, I offered to help them with things, the list goes on of things I do for them to get them to like me. Despite me doing all this I just mentioned, they would make plans behind my back with just the three of them without me wouldn't invite me, they would do things together without me, constantly ignore me pretending i am not there, not include me in conversations and would form a friendship group with them 3 and other people to make me feel left out. I constantly hear them gossiping and laughing together when i am alone in my room and they would hang out in each others rooms and not ask me if I want to join. I have been making effort to organise things to do together even paying for all of it myself giving them free food and they don't even care, not even a thank you. I never asked for anything in return but as repayment they would ditch me and ignore me. We decided to buy a second hand Wii together for playing on it together each of us paying 20 pound i paid mine. But now they hardly play on it and the other day played without me without asking me if i want to play so wasting my money. They just come to me if they need something or want to use my stuff. Developing a friendship with my flatmates was really important to me. Now because of them ditching me and ignoring me I have no friends at uni. We have online classes for the first term so its like impossible making friends from my course. All this ditching and feeling left out by being ignored after spending money/time/effort on them is making me feel depressed everyday. Because of this i can't sleep at night as i stay up thinking about this. And it is also disturbing my productivity because of feeling depressed. One time I accidentally ate one my my flatmates chocolate. So I immediately bought her a whole new packet of the same ones without her asking me to. I even offered to make cookies for her and bought her an apology card promising it won't happen again with the chocs. I also offered her my snacks to make up for it. Despite this my flatmates are ignoring me and not speaking to me. If I treat them the same way they have been treating me even the slightest they would get mad. I just feel so angry, frustrated and upset. Sorry for the long rant and post.
This situation sounds absolutely terrible! Your flatmates sound like selfish freeloaders! Isn't there a place at the university where you can talk about the situation and maybe they can move you out to another accommodation? (I have no clue how these things work)

Maybe you could talk to them and tell them how you feel? Maybe they're doing it unintentionally?
I know how it feels when you put in all your effort and the same energy isn't reciprocated.

What university was this at?
Please feel free to PM me, if you're feeling lonely or just want someone to talk to about anything!
I'm so sorry you're in this situation!
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how are people already fussing about year 2 accommodation?!

it's still a while away, we've still got a whole semester ahead and a long summer.
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Hey guys, first post here but just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat as me.
I’m living in halls currently and have only made a handful of friends, no one close enough to live with. It’s been so hard to meet anyone besides my flat mates because of COVID and they’ve all made their own plans about housing.
I’m feeling pretty stressed as I’m a nursing student and would rather have things sorted or at least an idea of what I’m doing before placement in January.
Any ideas or just others in the same situation as me would be helpful!!
Hiya!

I think an option that lots of students in the same situation as you is to stay in halls again next year as this gives you the chance to meet new people and you have a secured guaranteed place so wouldn't need to worry.

However, you can always look on Facebook as there are lots of group chats available where students who have sorted housing and may be look for more students to live with them post and you can then see what the property is like and what the people are like. My best friend did this to sort her housing for second year and ended up living with the girls for third year as well!

Reach out to those on your course and see if there is a nursing society where you can meet more people and see if anyone else is looking for a place stay for second year.

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Hey guys, first post here but just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat as me.
I’m living in halls currently and have only made a handful of friends, no one close enough to live with. It’s been so hard to meet anyone besides my flat mates because of COVID and they’ve all made their own plans about housing.
I’m feeling pretty stressed as I’m a nursing student and would rather have things sorted or at least an idea of what I’m doing before placement in January.
Any ideas or just others in the same situation as me would be helpful!!
Same! I couldn’t get into halls and ended up in private accommodation with older, international students and third years and I didn’t really speak to anyone. Now I’m living at home (COVID) and am starting to stress about next year cos I keep seeing everyone find places to live. Feel free to message me if you’re feeling alone - it’d be nice to have a chat. Also if anyone is in Liverpool looking for flats next year pop up haha xxx
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(Original post by Cake360)
Hi. This is my situation with my flatmates: I just started university this term and moved into my uni halls 5 weeks ago with my new flatmates of us 4 girls. Me and the girls were new to each other before we came so we had a group chat where we talked to each other before moving into uni. As we were new to each other there is no past friendship history of the 3 flatmates that have been ditching and ignoring me. Before we all came to uni the girls were excited to meet me and were very welcoming and started suggesting things to do together. But then one week after coming to uni, they just forgot about the things they suggested we do together so i reminded them and they would just make excuses and never get around to it. I was very sociable in the group chat before we had when we were getting to know each-other before coming to uni and since I moved into halls, I have made every effort and went to great lengths to make an exceptional impression of myself, I was being outgoing and always initiated conversations they could relate to, I was being a good flatmate and a good friend. Basically doing everything to earn their friendship. I also treated them to free cinema tickets on my birthday, let them eat some stuff I made whenever they asked if they can eat it I never said no to them whenever they asked if they can eat food of mine they liked even offering it myself, I offered to help them with things, the list goes on of things I do for them to get them to like me. Despite me doing all this I just mentioned, they would make plans behind my back with just the three of them without me wouldn't invite me, they would do things together without me, constantly ignore me pretending i am not there, not include me in conversations and would form a friendship group with them 3 and other people to make me feel left out. I constantly hear them gossiping and laughing together when i am alone in my room and they would hang out in each others rooms and not ask me if I want to join. I have been making effort to organise things to do together even paying for all of it myself giving them free food and they don't even care, not even a thank you. I never asked for anything in return but as repayment they would ditch me and ignore me. We decided to buy a second hand Wii together for playing on it together each of us paying 20 pound i paid mine. But now they hardly play on it and the other day played without me without asking me if i want to play so wasting my money. They just come to me if they need something or want to use my stuff. Developing a friendship with my flatmates was really important to me. Now because of them ditching me and ignoring me I have no friends at uni. We have online classes for the first term so its like impossible making friends from my course. All this ditching and feeling left out by being ignored after spending money/time/effort on them is making me feel depressed everyday. Because of this i can't sleep at night as i stay up thinking about this. And it is also disturbing my productivity because of feeling depressed. One time I accidentally ate one my my flatmates chocolate. So I immediately bought her a whole new packet of the same ones without her asking me to. I even offered to make cookies for her and bought her an apology card promising it won't happen again with the chocs. I also offered her my snacks to make up for it. Despite this my flatmates are ignoring me and not speaking to me. If I treat them the same way they have been treating me even the slightest they would get mad. I just feel so angry, frustrated and upset. Sorry for the long rant and post.
Feel free to message me. It really sucks and is really hard if, like me, you can be a bit shy popping up to people and stuff. Nice to have a rant haha xx
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how are people already fussing about year 2 accommodation?!

it's still a while away, we've still got a whole semester ahead and a long summer.
I think it’s a combination of other people already talking about it, and the fact that I go straight back into a full time work placement in January so I was hoping to have more of an idea and less stress! I’m aware I have more options now though
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i stayed in halls for all four years of my degree
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i stayed in halls for all four years of my degree
what was it like because I'm kinda considering doing that but with private halls.
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