i feel like im being pushed out of my friendship group.

Hi

At school, i was in a group of friends who were quite tight knit and had been friends for ages. we went to college and although werent together as much managed to keep pretty close, but now we are moving to uni, it seems that they have stayed close friends but ive been pushed out and am being ignored.

i want to still be friends with them, but i have found out that they have been meeting up with each other without so much as inviting me. they have also planned big nights out to celebrate going to uni and ive not been involved or invited. and now most recently, one of the friends as had some exciting news, which normally would have been shared with me straight away, but i find out few days later about the news and that they all celebrated together without me even knowing the news.

i just feel like i havent done anything to piss them off or changed who i am, they just seem to not want to be mates with me anymore which im sad about because i dont feel the same way. i dont know what to do and feel like i now only have to hope i make lots of friends in uni or else i wont have any friends. Any advice would be really good. soory if im ranting a bit :o:

Reply 1

rummang

1

Talk to your friends...

Reply 2

Hisoo

13

Everyone feels like this from time to time, but if you do genuinely feel like they're going out of there way to avoid you (and I suggest talking to them first before deciding on that!) then just count your losses and go to uni with a view of making new good friends.

You never know though, they might have a perfectly good reason for not inviting you.

Reply 3

XxJaninexX

15

Talk to them.

If they are your friends, im sure things will be sorted out, explained or efforts made to show you they care etc.

If not. They arent decent friends and it may be hard but move on.

Reply 4

thunderstorm

1

Sounds pretty naff. Like the others said, talk to them about it, as it does seem a bit weird. If they don't give a valid reason or ignore you still then it is RUBBISH but you are better off without them at the end of the day, they're not being proper friends!
Don't worry, you will make loads of really good friends at university and you'll spend most of the time there anyhow, dont know what the current friends are playing at, but there may be a misunderstanding so best bet is to just ask :smile:

Good luck!

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

ok, i spoke to them because it was annoying me how this just happened. i asked them about it and they said that they didnt think i needed to know the news. ok so this may sound alright however its been a long time and a strugle to get this result and i over all the others in my group of friends have been the most supportive for my friend and have been used all times of the day to have someone ringing them up crying their eyes out at 3am and not minded. therefore i think that i played quite a big part in the crap of the last few months yet wasnt involved in the good part of it. :frown:

i just really dont get it.

Reply 6

nadiah

12

Go to uni and make better friends. People like this aren't worth it - believe me I have 'friends' who are the exact same.

Reply 7

cherrybella1

What you need to do is this - whichever one you feel closest to, try and arrange to meet up with her on her own, for a drink or something. And then just say you feel like you've been pushed out slightly and its getting you down. See if theres an actual reason for it all.
Have your friends ever seemed the type of people who would just push someone out of the group for no real reason? If so, you're probably better off without them because I cant imagine how crap it would feel not knowing from one day to the next whether your friends still want to know you.
And if they arent like that, then you just need to find out what the issue is. Could you have done anything wrong to annoy them?

Edit* - dont feel too down about it like you're socially retarded or something. Most people get this done to them at some point, although generally there's a reason for it, people just need to communicate more instead of ignoring problems!

Reply 8

Aliceevie

1

I really don't like it becuase I only have a couple friends and I feel like I'm bieing pushed away from the all and now I have 0 friends

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

Same, my friends have sort of pushed me away since I've gone to uni. I miss them but I don't have time for them and I am sure it is the same for them. Maybe after uni, we can have a reunion.

i feel like im being pushed out of my friendship group.

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