How to deal with controlling family membersWatch
I have a mum who is controlling and a younger sister who is controlling whos got it from my mum. Im over 21 as well
do you usually rely on both for certain things? e.g. money/support/advice? do you ask for their opinion a lot?
if you had to do an errand would you do it yourself or ask your mum/sister?
sometimes when you use family too much they think you are incapable of doing things for yourself and therefore act controlling. it might also be because you are relying on them that they feel you cannot do things for yourself / cannot do stuff without them
so my advice would be to do things independently and not always tell them about things to show your independence - for example, going to the shop alone/ getting a job/ keeping close gossip and friendship stuff to yourself. this way they'll realise you don't need them as such in everyday life and hopefully they'll stop being controlling
alternatively you can subtly mention to them that you're 21 and do not need them to control your life - sometimes a difficult and awkward conversation like that can make the situation a hell of a lot better