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Managed to clean my teeth twice today. It's sad that small things like this are a win these days and indicate an improvement.
Original post by Anonymous
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This is a really nice idea! I can't think of anything atm but if I do think of something, will add :smile:

Original post by Anonymous
Managed to clean my teeth twice today. It's sad that small things like this are a win these days and indicate an improvement.


That's more than me :colondollar: Slow/small and steady wins the race :penguinhug:
Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd
:hugs: I'm a hypocrite but I'd def try and stay on them, since you're trying for a child... (I dunno about over there, but here you get asked a ****TON of questions by everyone if you have a mental health diagnosis but aren't on meds/are felt to "not be cooperating with services" and are about to become/have recently become a parent. Especially from social workers :s-smilie: )

That's a good point. :frown: I already have the "marks" of mental illness which I'm very scared about baby-doctors/social workers seeing and deciding I am unfit to be a parent. I just wanted to be off meds and the best person I can be for the kid. I don't even know if my new psychiatrist will agree to keep me on the meds I'm on as they need monthly blood tests. One thing that really scares me is him not believing me and taking me off all meds immediately. I have no reason to believe he may do this. In fact, before I saw my most recent psychiatrist, I got sectioned in the first session with the previous one. So overreaction is way more common than under.

Sorry....kind of went off topic there. How're you doing? :smile: I read the blurbs for that page with the videos you are in. Very interesting!
Original post by PonchoKid
Feel so empty. Keep catching myself staring into space, ecen ny boss noticed it the other day. Just feel like am empty shell


Hope things improve xx:console:
Original post by Sabertooth
That's a good point. :frown: I already have the "marks" of mental illness which I'm very scared about baby-doctors/social workers seeing and deciding I am unfit to be a parent. I just wanted to be off meds and the best person I can be for the kid. I don't even know if my new psychiatrist will agree to keep me on the meds I'm on as they need monthly blood tests. One thing that really scares me is him not believing me and taking me off all meds immediately. I have no reason to believe he may do this. In fact, before I saw my most recent psychiatrist, I got sectioned in the first session with the previous one. So overreaction is way more common than under.

Sorry....kind of went off topic there. How're you doing? :smile: I read the blurbs for that page with the videos you are in. Very interesting!


I wouldn't worry about being seen as an unfit parent. You have a partner too so can support each other. You will both be good, caring parents I am sure🙂
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Original post by Sabertooth
That's a good point. :frown: I already have the "marks" of mental illness which I'm very scared about baby-doctors/social workers seeing and deciding I am unfit to be a parent. I just wanted to be off meds and the best person I can be for the kid. I don't even know if my new psychiatrist will agree to keep me on the meds I'm on as they need monthly blood tests. One thing that really scares me is him not believing me and taking me off all meds immediately. I have no reason to believe he may do this. In fact, before I saw my most recent psychiatrist, I got sectioned in the first session with the previous one. So overreaction is way more common than under.

Sorry....kind of went off topic there. How're you doing? :smile: I read the blurbs for that page with the videos you are in. Very interesting!

No need to apologise at all! It's possible to be the best person you can be for the kid AND be on meds, though - so do hold onto that as a possibility :smile: Much better to be on meds (however frustrating/stigmatised that might be) and be stable for/around the kid, than be meds-free but struggling to hold things together. Having a baby is hard enough without throwing in unnecessary extra stress :penguinhug:

Hope I'm not sounding like a party-pooper! There's a well-known person in the Hearing Voices movement who spoke in a training I was in, about having to effectively play (along) with 'the system' in order to not draw unwanted attention to herself, or have her baby monitored by social workers post-birth/taken off her. So sometimes we do have to 'play the long game', annoying though that is, to avoid unwanted attention! :colondollar:

Thanks for reading the blurbs! It was an interesting project. I've not heard everyone else's recordings but the whole premise seemed cool when I was asked to be a part of it :cool:

I'm... I dunno tbh. Everything feels raw and 'too much'. I'm really upset about the political situations in both my countries (UK and Sri Lanka) :frown: My mum is finding me scary and has banned me from attending two funerals I wanted to attend (in case the voices go ape-**** in church again) :frown: Probs for the best but yeah, not a great feeling :getmecoat: Work are being super-supportive and my boss has scheduled in an extra chat with me tomorrow, so that I don't have to wait over a week to offload on them :colondollar: And my PhD supervisor got in touch after quite a while (she's been on holiday the past 6 weeks) :love: Even my younger sister is being super-nice to me :headfire: So I've got support :redface:
Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd
No need to apologise at all! It's possible to be the best person you can be for the kid AND be on meds, though - so do hold onto that as a possibility :smile: Much better to be on meds (however frustrating/stigmatised that might be) and be stable for/around the kid, than be meds-free but struggling to hold things together. Having a baby is hard enough without throwing in unnecessary extra stress :penguinhug:

Hope I'm not sounding like a party-pooper! There's a well-known person in the Hearing Voices movement who spoke in a training I was in, about having to effectively play (along) with 'the system' in order to not draw unwanted attention to herself, or have her baby monitored by social workers post-birth/taken off her. So sometimes we do have to 'play the long game', annoying though that is, to avoid unwanted attention! :colondollar:

Thanks for reading the blurbs! It was an interesting project. I've not heard everyone else's recordings but the whole premise seemed cool when I was asked to be a part of it :cool:

I'm... I dunno tbh. Everything feels raw and 'too much'. I'm really upset about the political situations in both my countries (UK and Sri Lanka) :frown: My mum is finding me scary and has banned me from attending two funerals I wanted to attend (in case the voices go ape-**** in church again) :frown: Probs for the best but yeah, not a great feeling :getmecoat: Work are being super-supportive and my boss has scheduled in an extra chat with me tomorrow, so that I don't have to wait over a week to offload on them :colondollar: And my PhD supervisor got in touch after quite a while (she's been on holiday the past 6 weeks) :love: Even my younger sister is being super-nice to me :headfire: So I've got support :redface:


Good you have support x
Original post by Cote1
Good you have support x


Thank you :hugs:
Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd
No need to apologise at all! It's possible to be the best person you can be for the kid AND be on meds, though - so do hold onto that as a possibility :smile: Much better to be on meds (however frustrating/stigmatised that might be) and be stable for/around the kid, than be meds-free but struggling to hold things together. Having a baby is hard enough without throwing in unnecessary extra stress :penguinhug:

Hope I'm not sounding like a party-pooper! There's a well-known person in the Hearing Voices movement who spoke in a training I was in, about having to effectively play (along) with 'the system' in order to not draw unwanted attention to herself, or have her baby monitored by social workers post-birth/taken off her. So sometimes we do have to 'play the long game', annoying though that is, to avoid unwanted attention! :colondollar:

Thanks for reading the blurbs! It was an interesting project. I've not heard everyone else's recordings but the whole premise seemed cool when I was asked to be a part of it :cool:

I'm... I dunno tbh. Everything feels raw and 'too much'. I'm really upset about the political situations in both my countries (UK and Sri Lanka) :frown: My mum is finding me scary and has banned me from attending two funerals I wanted to attend (in case the voices go ape-**** in church again) :frown: Probs for the best but yeah, not a great feeling :getmecoat: Work are being super-supportive and my boss has scheduled in an extra chat with me tomorrow, so that I don't have to wait over a week to offload on them :colondollar: And my PhD supervisor got in touch after quite a while (she's been on holiday the past 6 weeks) :love: Even my younger sister is being super-nice to me :headfire: So I've got support :redface:

Nah, you don't sound at all like a party-pooper! I kind of guessed I'd have to play along, take my meds, go to therapy, etc. I have a particularly stigmatized condition and the very last thing I want is to be monitored constantly. I'm trying to get back on top after years of being at the bottom so being med-free is an important part of that to me, but you are right about the stress etc, I don't want another hospitalization or worse. :frown: I dunno, I think I bought into some of the stigma and want to distance myself as much as possible from all parts of it.

I'm really glad you have that support. :hugs: I saw what was happening in the UK and tbh my advice is to try to not give a damn. At some point in my life I'd have been in General Discussion mouthing off about the government but now it's just, **** it. I would advise taking that route if you can. We can't change things and we only get hurt by caring about them. I understand with the situation in Sri Lanka and people dying/disappearing etc but, I dunno, maybe just try to accept that these things are out of our hands? Probably a good idea to avoid the funerals - are they being broadcast on Zoom? Maybe you could watch from a "safe" environment?
Original post by Cote1
I wouldn't worry about being seen as an unfit parent. You have a partner too so can support each other. You will both be good, caring parents I am sure🙂


Thank you. :colondollar: We're not even expecting yet but I still can't help the overthinking.
Original post by Sabertooth
Nah, you don't sound at all like a party-pooper! I kind of guessed I'd have to play along, take my meds, go to therapy, etc. I have a particularly stigmatized condition and the very last thing I want is to be monitored constantly. I'm trying to get back on top after years of being at the bottom so being med-free is an important part of that to me, but you are right about the stress etc, I don't want another hospitalization or worse. :frown: I dunno, I think I bought into some of the stigma and want to distance myself as much as possible from all parts of it.

I'm really glad you have that support. :hugs: I saw what was happening in the UK and tbh my advice is to try to not give a damn. At some point in my life I'd have been in General Discussion mouthing off about the government but now it's just, **** it. I would advise taking that route if you can. We can't change things and we only get hurt by caring about them. I understand with the situation in Sri Lanka and people dying/disappearing etc but, I dunno, maybe just try to accept that these things are out of our hands? Probably a good idea to avoid the funerals - are they being broadcast on Zoom? Maybe you could watch from a "safe" environment?


It's all too easy to buy into the stigma tbh! I do too, but in different areas (e.g. my biggest fear is hospitalisation, whether sectioning or voluntary, as I've gone 12 years without ending up there. Whereas in the grand scheme of things, being hospitalised would hardly be the end of the world!)

Thank you for the second paragraph, some very timely advice for me there :colondollar: I do need to find ways to stop caring, or to care less :colondollar: Tbh I think I'll muddle through with whatever so long as they don't appoint Priti Patel as PM :nothing: I think the Sri Lanka situation is so scary because there's so much violence everywhere - the very recent insurrection/rioting aside - and has been going on for months, and my mum has booked tickets to go in August :frown: I'm hoping she'll reconsider, given everything going on. Or maybe things will calm down :redface:

Good point about Zooming into the funerals - I'm not sure if that will be an option and even that is sadly probs best avoided. I'll just have to find alternate ways to pay my respects and remember them :redface:
Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd
It's all too easy to buy into the stigma tbh! I do too, but in different areas (e.g. my biggest fear is hospitalisation, whether sectioning or voluntary, as I've gone 12 years without ending up there. Whereas in the grand scheme of things, being hospitalised would hardly be the end of the world!)

Thank you for the second paragraph, some very timely advice for me there :colondollar: I do need to find ways to stop caring, or to care less :colondollar: Tbh I think I'll muddle through with whatever so long as they don't appoint Priti Patel as PM :nothing: I think the Sri Lanka situation is so scary because there's so much violence everywhere - the very recent insurrection/rioting aside - and has been going on for months, and my mum has booked tickets to go in August :frown: I'm hoping she'll reconsider, given everything going on. Or maybe things will calm down :redface:

Good point about Zooming into the funerals - I'm not sure if that will be an option and even that is sadly probs best avoided. I'll just have to find alternate ways to pay my respects and remember them :redface:


No, that absolutely makes sense. I've been hospitalized multiple times and it still scares me shitless! That's also something I'm scared my new psychiatrist will do given what's happened in the past. This is despite me having no voices, no crazy thoughts, and no plan. It still scares me he might decide that. I wish they didn't have so much power. :frown: Some hospitals are like being in jail.

My mum went to Egypt a few years ago. I thought she was crazy to do it but she was ok. I hope your mum reconsiders too, it's really not a good idea. I lived with someone with Sri Lankan heritage a few years ago and she was very into the Tamil Tigers so I learned a lot from her but yeah, it is a bad idea. I guess you can't just block it out and not give a **** if your mum actually takes you there. :confused:

Hmm ok. Perhaps wait a little while and visit their graves with flowers or a candle or something when you're feeling less bad?
Original post by Sabertooth
No, that absolutely makes sense. I've been hospitalized multiple times and it still scares me shitless! That's also something I'm scared my new psychiatrist will do given what's happened in the past. This is despite me having no voices, no crazy thoughts, and no plan. It still scares me he might decide that. I wish they didn't have so much power. :frown: Some hospitals are like being in jail.

My mum went to Egypt a few years ago. I thought she was crazy to do it but she was ok. I hope your mum reconsiders too, it's really not a good idea. I lived with someone with Sri Lankan heritage a few years ago and she was very into the Tamil Tigers so I learned a lot from her but yeah, it is a bad idea. I guess you can't just block it out and not give a **** if your mum actually takes you there. :confused:

Hmm ok. Perhaps wait a little while and visit their graves with flowers or a candle or something when you're feeling less bad?

Sorry, was trying to see if I could sleep but it's too hot :grumble:

It's understandable to be scared about that, given the history. It def is scary how much power psychiatrists have :sadnod:

Oh my mum's going on her own coz I refused to go, even before all the current **** happened. But that means if she DOES go, I'll spend her whole trip panicking and worrying about her safety :frown:

That's a nice idea, thank you :colondollar:
I need to be up in 2 hours and still haven't managed to sleep. Why does my body do this? :frown:
Didn't get the job I interviewed for. :frown: Also got rejected for 3 other jobs via email.

It's really knocked my confidence.
Original post by Sabertooth
Didn't get the job I interviewed for. :frown: Also got rejected for 3 other jobs via email.

It's really knocked my confidence.

That’s really horrible when that happens. Did they give any feedback or anything. I really hope you get something interesting.

Confidence is so easy to knock . I don’t really have any suggestions that aren’t hypocritical but I guess you just have to try and use the experience to help you move forward and not get too caught up in it being about you not being enough for things.
I changed therapist for various reasons and it’s been really helpful as things just needed to be different and I don’t think the person I was seeing was the right fit even though they were good at their job.


Tw eating disorder

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My mum mentioned that one of her friends husband is now a anxiety management therapist person (idk if that is what it is called). She suggested that I either have sessions with him or an informal chat about my anxiety etc.
I said that I would have a think but I am unsure what to do. I don’t know / like talking to people about my emotions and mental ill health.
The idea of talking to someone scares me but I know that I cannot continue like this
Crying because I'm tired and really struggling to see the point. I want out. I don't want to keep going like this.

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