Mental Health Support Society XXI

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Reply 80

BurstingBubbles

Life & Style Forum Helper

Original post by Anonymous

argh sorry, I messed up the spoiler tagging and now can't edit my post! I'm so sorry - the trigger warnings for the above post are eating disorders, food, disorder eating, weight, etc

Edited for you :smile:

sorry it means I don't think you can be quoted for that post now but at least this one can be :smile:

Reply 81

Anonymous #3

Tw eating disorder

Spoiler

Reply 82

Pathway

Grief/suicide stuff TW

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ED and vomit TW

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Reply 83

Anonymous #3

Original post by Pathway

Grief/suicide stuff TW

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ED and vomit TW

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Sorry to hear it’s difficult. Sorry about your mum too

Reply 84

PandaWho

Gets to this time on a friday night where i dread work tomorrow, not because i hate my job, but because all i want to do is have a lie in and laze around all morning.

Saturdays are my last day at work before my "weekend" but my longest day of the week and its a killer. I get up between 8am and 8.30 to get to work for 10, do my shift then go straight to my mums and help look after the boys and dont get home till about 10.30 at night. So im out of the house for not far off 14 hours :yawn:

Just wanna curl up and not have to deal with a saturday

Reply 85

Scott_Maslen_Fan

Hi guys,

Looking for a bit of advice. I have a Facebook account and saw a girl I went to school with in my friend suggestions so I sent her a request, but then I got anxious about what she'd think so I deleted it, then I got the courage up to send it again, and then the anxiousness hit so I deleted it for the 2nd time

I'm sure she will think I'm a weirdo and afraid use will tell other mutuals. Would you say to send a message to her explain? The reason I sent & deleted numerous times is I suffer from social/generalised anxiety

Reply 86

Pathway

I'm getting progressively more anxious in the run up to Christmas. Also, getting stressed out because of my next psychiatrist appointment. Just don't really want to deal with any of it.

Reply 87

The_Lonely_Goatherd

Original post by Pathway

I'm getting progressively more anxious in the run up to Christmas. Also, getting stressed out because of my next psychiatrist appointment. Just don't really want to deal with any of it.

Am mostly online if you need an ear :penguinhug:

Reply 88

Pathway

Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd

Am mostly online if you need an ear :penguinhug:

Have already talked your ear off though. :redface:

thank you.

Reply 89

The_Lonely_Goatherd

Original post by Pathway

Have already talked your ear off though. :redface:

thank you.

You haven't and even if you had, tiz what friends are for :hugs:

Reply 90

CoolCavy

Volunteer Team

I think ive bitten off a bit more than i could chew with Christmas cards this year :hide:

i feel like when you can draw you are kind of compelled to make everyone a card and now im in work thats like 25 people :redface:

I feel bad for not doing one for MHSS secret santa but it came with a lovely card anyway :redface:

Original post by Pathway

I'm getting progressively more anxious in the run up to Christmas. Also, getting stressed out because of my next psychiatrist appointment. Just don't really want to deal with any of it.

Reply 91

Darya.

The one time I properly open up to my best friend and start with "don't tell D but..." of course she has to go and tell D everything, causing D to be mad at me.

Reply 92

Sabertooth

25,000 posts. I don't know whether to smile or be embarrassed.

Reply 93

Anonymous #3

Tw eating disorder

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Reply 94

PandaWho

No wonder im constantly shattered after a nights sleep!!

I bought myself a smart watch, and wore it last night so it tracled my sleep... In 9 hours and 8 minuets of sleep i only had 1 hour 16 minuets of restful sleep...

Reply 95

furryface12

Hope everyone's okay :hugs:

so awful at remembering to check TSR these days :colondollar:

Reply 96

Darya.

hope everyone's doing okay :redface:

Reply 97

PandaWho

I know this is pretty niche but has anyone ever gone interrailing or similar??

Reply 98

Anonymous #3

I rang the ed service after putting it off for a couple of weeks with so many what ifs and not feeling deserving enough. They were the nicest receptionist ever (makes a change) but they had not actually seen where the referral was or seen it at all and the person meant to look over them was on leave so I now have to wait indefinitely for a phone call.